Desperately Want to Be a SAHM at Least Part Time

Updated on April 03, 2010
L.C. asks from Farmingdale, NY
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I have an MSW (advanced degree in social work). I work FT and have since before I had children. I never realized how much I would want to stay home with my kids. I am missing out. My mom watches them while I am at work. I am home by 2:30 every day. I have applied to return to college for a nursing degree, figuring that I could make just as much money as I do now and work fewer days. However, adding classes to my schedule just means more time away from my family! So, now that I'm done whining, here's the question, is it a smart idea to change professions to one that is more flexible? Are there any social workers out there that have a flexible schedule (in a work environment, not private practice).

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A.F.

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Have you thought about SW in a school setting? I am a special ed teacher and felt exactly the same way as you did. My mom watched my kids so that wasnt an issue. I just wanted to be with them. I am still a sp. ed teacher and now work part time. I work in the morning and am home by noon! It's amazing. I get some time to do adult things and get dressed and out of the house but still get to come home to my twins and spend time with them. Its the perfect combination. Try looking into a school system...maybe that is the answer without a career change. I hope it works out for you!!

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C.E.

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My suggestion with a nursing degree is to do a lot of research! There are ads all over the place nowadays for people to get their nursing degree, but be careful because there aren't that many jobs available.

We are in Colorado and even though the ads you see say there is a need for it - there are a VERY LIMITED number of jobs in this area. It might be different in NY - but check it out. You don't want to take time away from your family to get the degree only to find there are no jobs for you.

Good luck and God Bless-
C.

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P.L.

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Yes, it is a smart idea to switch careers. I'm sorry I'm not a social worker, but my bff has an MSW and was in the exact same situation as you. She is staying home with #2 because of how taxing it was. In her situation, she went to part time with baby #1, but because of the field, she ended up working full time hours, just squished into three days. My sister is now in nursing school for the same reasons you have. It seems as if there are so many options for scheduling with a nursing degree. I'm sorry I don't have better experience for you. Good luck!

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D.W.

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You are not whining!

I completely regret not biting the bullet and applying to med school. 12 years after my college graduation with a degree in Biology, 2 kids, having been laid off and still searching for what I want to be when I grow up, I have the same thoughts all the time.

I was very discouraged when I looked into the second degree BSN programs locally when I was laid off last year. Even with my degree and 10 years in the pharmaceutical industry, I would have to take 20 credit hours of prereqs before being eligible for acceptance to the program.

Then, I talk to nurses who are frustrated and fed-up with their jobs. I also know many MSWs who feel the same.

So, if your heart is telling you to do it, go for it. Everyone makes sacrifices. I'm not willing to make those right now. But, I don't want too much time to pass me by either.

Good luck with your decision.

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B.P.

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You have a wonderful career...why would you go to school for so long to have another career that is really not that much less demanding? Why not see patients or work in the schools? There are options out there, my friends has an MSW and is a school social worker. You are home by 2:30 everyday...I am not sure why you would want to go to school for 3-4 years and have almost no time with them. Plus, it is VERY expensive. If you had a bad or deadend job I would say go for it. WHy not just take a little time off if you can afford it?

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L.B.

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Hi L.,
I am a nurse(RN). Just want you to know our schedule is not as great as you might think. Many hospitals have transitioned to 12 hour shifts and yes we work less days, but on the days we are home we are exhausted and the days we work we get home too late to enjoy our family. The work is stressful both physically and emotionally, you have to be dedicated to do it. We work holidays and yes there are other jobs beside hospital jobs that may be a little more flexible, such as homecare, but you still have to work weekends and holidays. M-F jobs are hard to come by because when they are available they are swooped up pretty fast. Once you are a new nurse, you will have to put your dues in at a hospital inorder to get clinical experience. New nurses do not have as many choices as far as the shift they want to work. Many of the hospitals around my area hire new nurses only on the over night shift. Many of the older more experienced nurses who are ready for retirement will get the more flexible, less demanding jobs because they earned through their experience. I am not sure if you plan on getting a masters in nursing, if that is the case, you may beable to get a good position in a doctors office, but they probably will want you to have clinical experience first. Also, Nurses cannot work a part time day, meaning if you are part time the day is not 4 hours, it is still an 8 hour day or 12 hour day. A typical day shift is as follows: 8 hour shift 6:45 a.m - 3:30 p.m. (but you usually don't get out until 4:00 or 4:30) 12 hour shift 6:45 a.m. - 7:00 p.m. (usually do not get out until 7:30 or 8:00). Nurses do not work 1/2 a day.

I am not trying to discourge you, I love nursing, I just want to give you the facts. Right now you get out of work at 2:30 in the afternoon, once you are a nurse that will not happen. In my opinion, you would be better off advancing your social work degree and finding a position that meets your scheduling needs. (try the VNA and other homecare in your area and see if there is a need for a social worker). If you would like any other information related to nursing I would be glad to answer your questions, just send me a note. Again I love nursing, but it is extremely stressful career and it really is not as flexible as it is made out to be. Good Luck
L.

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S.D.

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Adding more to your shedule/schooling for another profession will take time away from your family as a sahm of 3 I love it I never miss anything i'm able to take them to school pick them up all school activites etc.I have no higher education didn't get to go to college I met my husband at 19 he is 6 yrs older than I we have been together for 10 yrs when I became pregnant it was clear to me that I didn't have a choice but to stay home and raise the kids rather if it is 1 or many.Are you in a job that you can choose your own days of work or is it a set schedule 2:30 everday doesn't seem like alot of time at work but then again it is time away from your kids.
Take a break from work/school for a while your kids need their mama to be be with them.

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J.B.

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Hi, yes a friend just went back to work after being a sahm for 8 years. She works a few days during the week, and weekends (2 different employers). I don't know the pay situation, but she enjoys both jobs and is excited to be back in a professional work environment. Good luck!

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L.

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Hi L.,
Have you thought of being self employed? Of being able to work around your schedule? It's real, it's doable.
I've been blessed to stay and work from home and I've never missed any of my kids' milestones.
I'm an architect by profession.
My sis in law is a nurse, RN; she hardly sees her son. Her work is so demanding.
Good luck.
L..
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