Daughter Invited to Two Back to School Parties

Updated on August 13, 2007
J.K. asks from Columbus, GA
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Okay, My 6 year old has been invited to two Back to School parties. ONe from a friend from her current class. Who invited her first and we did RSVP that we would be there the SAME day we received another invite to a long time friend. I realize my first mistake was to let her know about the 2nd invite. ( I hadn't planned to but, I forgot and checked the mail and she saw her name on the envelope)

My first response was we RSVP'd and we are going to that one.
Then my dd says "But, V has been my friend the longest and it will break her heart if I am not at her party"

My heart just broke. So that is my dillema I had my mind made up until she said that.
I have a week so give me your thoughts on the situation

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So What Happened?

Thanks for all of your responses!!

No we can't go to both, they are for the High School Musical II premiere the Friday after school starts (My daughter going to a PREMIER party LOL)
I explained to her that we RSVP'd to the first one and she was excited to go until she thought something "better" was coming along.

I did ask the 2nd mom (v) if they could get together on Sat afternoon if her daughter wasn't too tired. The 2nd party is a sleepover. We haven't actually done that yet.
Another question to post.
How old should you be before you go to a sleepover?

Thanks again

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T.F.

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COuld you go to both? Maybe not stay for the whole parties but atleast show up and let her play for a little while at each one?

T.- mother of 3 and Girl Scout leader for 5 yr old Daisys

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M.A.

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I think you should still go to the one you RSVP'd. Just go there for a little while, maybe an hour or so then go to your long time friends house. Since she is a long time friend I am sure she will understand if you are late and your delima.
Good Luck!

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M.J.

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two options ... go to both parties for 1/2 the time. Or allow your daughter to decide which one she wants to do more. Kids have to make choices and this will be one of her 1st tough ones. Good luck!

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K.H.

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Why can't you do both? Are the parties at the same day and time?

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W.S.

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Are the parties at the same time? Same day? If so, I would let her go to both, 1/2 of one and 1/2 of the other. It will be h*** o* you, having to drive her back and forth but so are the joys of parenthood.

If the parties are not on the same day, I would still let her go to both.

You are in my prayers,
W.

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G.M.

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That is a difficult situation, but alot of times when someone has you to R.S.V.P it's because of materials that are needed for each guest who are going to be there, and sometimes that has to be paid for in advance of the party. Can you attend both parties? If you can that is what I would do, but if you can't then I would attend the one that I had already responded to. Then maybe you and your daughter could talk to V and V's parents and explain what happened and make some kind of arrangements for them to get together with each other before school starts back.

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C.H.

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If you can't do both then let your daughter decide which one she really wants to attend. Then make sure that you let the other know that you won't be attending so that they don't buy extra party gifts for your child.Just tell them that you had made previous plans before committing to theirs (even though u did not) apologize and wish the child a happy birthday. If you feel quilty then buy the child a present and you and ur daughter drop it off.Alot of parents dont get mad if someone can't come to the party unless the person waits till the very last minute to tell them.Its not that big of a crise and I wouldnt jump to assumptions about what the childs mother of whichever birthday party u decide not to attend MIGHT think or say when you tell her.You have to remember that when we try o plan our kids birthday parties we start with the intention of inviting everyone we possibly can..sometimes more show up...alot of times fewer show up. But in the end your never upset about who wouldnt attend unless its a close relative or another parent of the child.No big deal, just let your daughter decide and do it without guilt...you cant please everybody

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N.C.

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Take her to both limited time that way she can see both her friends;)

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M.B.

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YOu may need to make an appearance at both. That way the first invite doesn't get hurt that she isn't coming and her long time friend doesn't either. Go to the one you already rsvp first and then go to the long time friends.
Well if you can't do both the is certainly ok. High School musical is the big thing right now. I too am having a get together for my daughter and 2 of her friends. My daughter had sleepovers very young. She was 4 in preschool. Both her staying over somewhere and us having them at our home. So that is totally your call on when is the right age to start sleepovers.

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