ok lydia. i first read the other responses before posting mine. the lady mentioning children of america. . . i don't know anything about that specific center but the internet log in to see your child during the day sounds great. i have searched high and low for a place like that in MD (no luck). so that is an option for you.
the part about child being or not being able to tell you if something happened. no, kids younger than 4 (or at least 3) will not be able to tell you anything. reason being, even if they cry during drop off most of the time parents rule that out as don't want to be away from parents. in most cases that is true, not always. also young children have a very short memory. even with communication skills at 2 or early 3s they still might forget what happened during the day. mine are almost 4 and just now have they started telling me about their day.
in home daycare...sending your child to someone else's house. a few things about this. for one reason or another i have been opposed to this always. would never even consider sending my kids to someone else's house. i will just mention a few of my reasons as to why not: children of different ages being together. . .how does that work? if you have a 3 year old and a child less than one year old, how will the provider organize the day for them? how about if there is a 4 year old, a 3 year old and a 2 year old? interests are completely different. she might rotate activities between different age groups, which would only mean at one point or another, one child or two or three is getting bored or frustrated. not a fun way to spend the day.
ok, i gave you all the negatives about putting your young child anywhere at this point.
so let me tell you what i did. i work from home, hubby in the office. i have twins. i quit my the then job after their birth and spend the next 15 months taking care of them. at 15 months, i got the job to work from home, i got a friend to come over for a few hrs a day, and i reorganized my working hours. i worked some during the day and a lot after kids went to bed. i did this from 15 months until they turned two. after they turned two i found a very reputable 'daycare' and put my kids in there. got references about the place, toured it about a bazillion times and chose it in the end. they stayed there for a few months. then we moved to MD. after moving here i found a place i thought was great. clean, served hot lunches, etc etc. my kids' attitude changed. they started crying and pitching a fit when i would drop them off. the main teacher would say this is normal although i should have known better. they didn't act that way before. they were very anxious and when i would pick them up they would latch on to my leg like hanging on for their dear life. they were over two and a half years old at this point and still NOT able to say what was wrong.
one day, i gave them a small box of raisins each and said don't open it now we will open it when we get to school. and then the screams started, cry and cry and go on the floor. i finally calmed them down enough to say what was wrong. and one of them said:
"Mrs so and so (the main teacher) said: stop bringing stuff and she yelled at me and she yelled and yelled and yelled). that is what was wrong. it was not normal, it was the teacher was mean. needless to say they were outta there. now they go to another place and they love it. absolutely love it. but they;'re almost 4 and if something is wrong they for sure can tell me.
that said. get a babysitter to come to your house. it will be difficult but in no time he will be 2. then consider taking him somewhere else. most people don't have the options of working from home. you do. i do. make the best of it for you and your child.
good luck