Child - White House,TN

Updated on November 04, 2010
J.P. asks from White House, TN
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Any suggestions on how to get my first grade little boy to focus at school. he was wants to sit and wait for her to give the answers. He is a very bright and smart boy. He knows what he is doing. he just wants to sit there and do nothing. we will bring home work and he eill do it. any suggestions, Thanks Jennifer

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She does a point system with him, if he doesn't do certain things he gets points taken away. I have not observed her teaching, but I speak with her often about him. She said he is very bright and smart. He knows how to do the work. She said he will probably be the type of child who will never have to open a book. We have put him in Karate. I believe this will help with dicipline and respect. Respect for his teacher when she says do your work and he will listen. Thank you to everyone for all your help.

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S.P.

answers from Los Angeles on

Has he had any positive feedback before he started school
for doing behaviors that are expected in school?
Have you observed his teacher's "style"?
Does she engage the kids' attention in an effective way?
Not just his attention, everyone's attention.
Does he understand what's supposed to happen in his classroom?
I'm wondering if, when he was little, and you would read books together,
if instead of waiting for him to say TIGER! or MOO-COW! or whatever,
you always told him what the answer was.
If it's a matter of focus . . . . is he bored by the curriculum?
Is he significantly ahead of the academic level in his grade?
Please let us know what happens.

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A.F.

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I just had a long talk with my daughter last night about focusing. I can't wait to see the other suggestions you get. She is also very bright and does great in school. She just loves the social aspect of school a little too much. I made sure she wasn't having any issues at school like bullies or anything like that. I thought maybe she had something on her mind that she was thinking about a lot.

What I am finding with her work she brings home is she almost always gets 100% on everything they do in class. Although I think it's great she does a great job, I think she is not being challenged enough and needs to be in some advanced classes. With her reading, she is already at the reading level they expect her to be at by the end of the school year. I am going to talk to her teacher.

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K.D.

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I think arranging to sit in on the class and watch one day is a good idea. Maybe you will get a feel for what is going on. Maybe a reward system for doing his own work at school, like stickers, would help.

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S.T.

answers from New York on

A child can have ADD with out the hyperactivity. While my son was ADHD - and all over the place, constatnly inmotion, my neice was ADD - a real daydreamer, she's sit quietly so we were all surprised with her diagnosis. But she'd get distracted by the hum of the fluorescent lights, a dog barking, etc. A little medication and a couple of counseling sessions were all that was needed.

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B.H.

answers from Los Angeles on

I just answered a post like this for an 11 year old. I am going to repost here: Kids not being focused is quite common. Especially in school, it really isn't that engaging for most kids. Does he focus on a movie? Video Game? or other activity that he likes? What about meal times, or following instructions for activities that he is engaged in? Just because a child is off task or unfocused in school does not mean they are ADD or ADHD or anything else...sometimes it is just boredom. And yes, that is my professional opinion as a retired special needs teacher.

Here are some general suggestions that may help him and you get through you days more smoothly.

My ideas will be VERY general, if you want more specifics then you have to connect with me ([email protected]____.com). These suggestions come from working with Special Needs students both in and out of the classroom for over 20 years.

1. Get a shoulder bag - not a back pack - it is shaped more like the books and papers that he needs to put in. Shoving is next to impossible. AND it will only fit what he absolutely needs. Not just "anything that will fit".

2. Have a checklist in every room of the house for what needs to be completed before he leaves that room. The classroom included. Get the teacher on board to give him an extra 2-4 mins to get organized at the end of the day.

3. Have pictures of reminders – EX: by the door a picture of him holding his bag with everything in it with a smile on his face. His subconscious brain will see it and internalize the memory and make it real.

4. Homework - this is not ADD specific - MOST kids have challenges with homework...you would too if you work all day then in the evening as well. Homework should be limited anyway. Set up 2 days a week where he gets to stay after school to complete his assignments IN THE CLASSROOM with teacher or parent supervision. That way he will not have to bring it home and risk "losing it" (Honestly, in my opinion, Homework is the most ridiculous invention- they just worked for 6 hours at school now they have to work more at home? You have got to be kidding me...when do they get to get be kids????)

5. YOU MUST STOP fighting with him. Habits can be changed in 30 days. Give him the time and the tools to change the habits that do not serve him. Punishment does not work, reinforcement does.

6. What are you feeding her? Lack of focus stems from diet. All my clients and their families start they day with this: www.BestBreakfastEver.com.

Be patient with him. You and he will figure this out. And keep in mind, some of the greatest minds of our time were unable to focus in school: Ansel Adams, photographer; Alexander Graham Bell, inventor of the telephone; Hans Christian Anderson, author; Beethoven; Terry Bradshaw, football quarterback; Jim Carrey, Actor; Prince Charles; Cher; Agatha Christie; Salvador Dali, Leonardo da Vinci; Walt Disney; Henry Ford; Magic Johnson, JFK; John D Rockefeller; even Albert Einstein…I could go on…maybe you have a genius in your family...let him blossom into who he is meant to be, not who the school system thinks he should be.

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