Hi Moms! I kept my maiden name when I got married due to professional reasons (and because i like my last name.) Now i have a child about to enter school and am thinking it might be easier to change my last name to my husbands and child's last name. I would like to keep my maiden name professionally though. Does anyone know how i would go about doing that and pros/cons to that idea.
Thanks
Changing your name is only simply that. Start using it. I have an artist friend who has always used her maiden name, however, with her daughter's school she used her married name. Really no big deal.
Have fun,
Wendy
Go ahead and keep your maiden name. As a teacher we're used to so many different names it really doesn't matter. Just don't be upset if a teacher calls you MRS. husband's last name.
You can legally have one alias. At work and on my license I am my maiden name but when I go to my son's school or church I am called my married name-ok actually most of the time I'm called "Shaun's mom" but you get the idea. On forms where a legal name is needed just sign your legal name and add the married name on the end.
Good Luck
I have an AKA for legal documents at the bank. that way whatever name i get it is not a problem. I did this when i got married because in my business I still received payment in my maiden name but my drivers license is my married name.
i don't know how complicated it is to change it legally. I am not sure you really need to. you can call yourself by your married name at school if it makes you feel more comfortable. unless you are receiving legal documents or checks I'm not sure it is a problem. something to think about anyway- i am sure you will get other more concrete advice than mine LOL
Hi L.,
I too dealth with this when I got married 9 1/2 years ago. I didn't want to lose my maiden name because professionally all my contacts knew me maiden name. My husband suggested that I hypehnate my name. I did choose to do that and am so glad that I did. My son is in preschool and his teachers still will call me Mrs. Gomez even though my legal name is hyphenated. I have also had friends that move their madien name to their middle name so they can still show that name professionally. I think it is more common now and school, etc become used to it. It is funny that I worried about the same thing. There are times I get tired of signing or writing my long hyphenated name but it has worked out both professionally and socially. Hope this helps! Good luck.
L. Breeden-Gomez
Hey L., as a school teacher for over 10 years, many kids had names the same or different as one or both of their parents. It is really up to you. I know many women who keep their maiden name for professional and take their husbands name for the kids. I also know some who have created a new family name. L., it's up to you. In the schools, it does not matter to us. Just as long as you tell us your situation. As for the legalities of it, it depends on how you are using your names. If you hav a drivers license in one name and vcredit crads in another it can become a bit conveluded. Ask a lawyer, you can usually get a 30 min consultation free.
Bottom line, L., do what feel right for you.
B.
Family Success Coach
