we may need to have my kids share a room for a year or two. they would be four (boy) and two (girl).
i never had to share and so it seems weird to me but my husband and his brother shared for ever. but this is a boy and a girl.
just wondering :)
Thanks everyone! Just wanted to get a general opinion since it wasn't part of my childhood :)
All 3 of mine 10 yo boy, 7 yo girl, and 5 yo boy, all share a room and always have. We have another bedroom in the basement but no one is ready to move down there yet. I have no problem with it they like sharing a room.
Why not? A boy and girl share a room. They are brothers’ and sisters so let them share a room. It will develop a good relation ship between them and good opportunity to taking care of each other.
My daughter moved into my son's room when she was 6 and he was 4. She felt more comfortable sharing. At the time I had just gotten pregnant with baby 3 and needed her room anyway, so I didn't question it. They shared for 2 years until we moved to a bigger house and they got their own rooms. She still sneaks into his room several times a week and sleeps on the floor. At that age they don't realize that they are different genders. My niece and nephew share a room right now (18 months and age 5) and they don't question it. They will be fine until your son gets to be around 8 years old.
Sure... why not? They're two small children. Of course they can share a room.
My kids shared a room until they were about 7 and 5 or so. They loved it up until my daughter stared to need her own space a bit and with 2 beds in there there wasn't much room to play. And even after they really missed the other one in the room.
They like having their own rooms, but recently told me they wanted to share a room again! I think they just want to sleep in the bunk beds and keep each other up being silly heads.
They'd be fine~
At this age, I say, no big deal.
Right now I have a boy9, girl5, and boy3 who share a room. I am sure your situation will work just fine.
My sister has a two bedroom house. Her kids are 7 and 5 and they've been sharing a room since the youngest was born. Oh and guess I should mention they are boy/girl.
Totally normal and actually a good thing (in my experience.)
What's wrong with sharing, cooperating and learning how fo get along?
Win win!!!
I shared a room with my brother when I was little. We were ages 2 and 4 when we started and we shared for a few years. I remember it as a fun time. We had a play room for all of our toys, but our room was kept clean and allergy free, since my mom was trying to figure out what my brother was allergic to. I loved it and have fond memories of sharing our room. I sort of wish I had done that with my kids, although they do have many nights where they sleep in each others room now...seems like once a week.
My 4 yr old daughter and 5 yr old son have shared a room since they both were out of the crib. They would always crawl into each others bed and sleep by each other so we got rid of the two beds and got them a full size bed. Obviously when they get a bit older we will separate them, but for now I don't see it is weird or wrong... I see it sweet they want to be by each other.
I always shared a room with my brother who is a year younger than I am until I was 12. There was no way around it with the house we grew up in. There was nothing ever sexual, it wasn't weird even looking back now, we had our privacy... one went out when the other changed or we went to the bathroom to change.
I know your kids are young yet. But some of my best childhood memories are sharing a room with my brother. We would play together all the time and the late night talks to one another is something I will always have.
Heck up until I moved out when I was 18 we would go into each others room and listen to the radio and stay up talking all night. I may be wrong but I believe sharing the room and learning to get along young strengthened our relationship and friendship to what we have now.
I really do not see an issue on it.
I only think there can be issues when opposite gender siblings start to hit puberty. I really think kids need their private spaces then, when it come to boy and girl situations. A 4 and two year old...how is that weird?
I think they are young enough to share a room. Now if they were pre-teens or teens, I would say not. However, I have a friend, who has 3 boys (ages 11, 14 16) and one girl (age 15) who share a room. They only have two bedrooms in the house, no plans to move and have made it work. More recently, they have considered making a smaller family room her room, if she wants it.
Ahhh....first world problems.
In many parts of the world, kids don't JUST share rooms, they sleep...where ever. With parents, with each other, sometimes piled together on one bed/pallet like puppies. In many cultures, it would be seen as extremely odd to separate siblings, regardless of their gender. Children find comfort in being together. Only Western culture has embraced this selfish "I want my own _______" attitude. http://a8.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/428628_101...
When I was a kid, I shared with my little brother. He is 7 years younger than I. We shared until I was about 12 and we moved into a bigger house. There was nothing weird about it.
My brother and I shared a room for a couple of year starting when we were 3 and 5. We loved it!
If you truly need to because you just can't afford a home where they can have separate rooms then make sure you plan on them being totally separated by the time the older one starts pre-K. That way they will have that issue worked out by the time he starts school.
I think that any older and you ask for problems. HUD does not let siblings of difference sexes share a room after they reach school age and they have a lot of research on their side.
So I am saying a year at most. If you need to you could apply for low income housing. They do have some that have shorter lists than others. I had low income housing in college and lived in married student housing in Stillwater Ok. I had a very nice apartment but it was just a 2 bedroom. I can understand that it is sometimes needed.
If the kids are okay with it, it's fine. And it's fine until one of them is no longer okay with it.
Right now I have 2 boys (6 and 11) in one room, along with my 8 year old DD. I tried to move my 11 year old son out and into the older boys room, but he would have none of it. They like being together, even though they have their own beds, it's not unusual to find them all sleeping in the same twin bed. How? i have no clue, it does not look comfortable, but what do I know.
At this age, I think it's okay, but only for the next couple of years. I'd say by the time your son is 7, they should be separated.
I shared a room with my brother when I was little, I think I was 5 or 6 when i got my own room. I was kind of scared to sleep in my own room! We had bunk beds that my dad made and the room was all decorated in blue and red. We were not scarred for life by hainv gto share a room at a young age. :) I saw some cute ideas in a magazine recently (I think it was Family Fun or maybe Parenting) for having a boy and a girl share a room. They painted half of the room one color and half another color, they also used different colored shelves and dressers to differentiate. It gave each child defined space of their own and looked really nice!
As I've posted before, my daughter, 9 and son 4 share a room (and bed). They have always been very close and are best buddies. I find nothing wrong with it until one gets tired of it. If you feel odd about them sleeping together being boy and girl, you can always do bunkbeds or separate beds. I, though, don't see anything wrong if they are both comfortable with it....
My older two shared a room when they were very little. You'll alter the bedroom situation when they get bigger.
All my kids had to share rooms (although it worked into boys together and girls together).
