Brother and Sister Rooming

Updated on August 13, 2010
B. asks from Evans, GA
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Right now my kids DD ( 8.5) and DS ( 5.5) have their own rooms.Every night we end up having to put him back in his room several times a night and several times a week when we go to bed we find him in his sister's room sleeping on her floor.
He keeps saying he's lonely , he does not like to sleep with a stuffed animal so we've tried that.
Should I just go ahead and put them in the same room since they end up that way anyway?

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Thanks guys. I gotta talk to DH but I think we may re arrange her room so we can pull the trundle out and set it up so he can sleep on it.
He has a bed tent , and his room is all decked out in space stuff , he's got a cool night light. so we tried that stuff but great suggestions.

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S.D.

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If she doesn't mind, yeah, I'd just let them room together until one of them decides they want privacy.

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N.O.

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Awwww that's SO sweet. My daughter and son are 4 1/2 yrs apart and we started letting them share a room when he was old enough for the big boy bed. They're 9 and 4 now and still sleep in the same room every night.

We still have their own rooms set up but we put a bunk bed in sisters room and she sleeps on top, he's on bottom. They LOVE their bunk beds, it was a great decision to buy those and saves a lot of space.

He has the "boy" theme set up on his bed (he picked skateboards & dirt bikes) and she picked the Littlest Pet Shop so that way it still feels like their "own" bed even though their sharing in a way.

Anyhow, I can't imagine it being any other way. I'm sure in a few more years when she hits her teen years, she'll want the room to herself and by then we'll have him share a room with my 2 yr old son but for now, that's what works for us so I say go for it, it's no fun feeling lonely in your room so I think it will be really good for your kids.

Take care!

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B.C.

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I wouldn't. He'll be growing out of it sooner or later. In a few years she'll be a pre-teen and want a bit more privacy. His room needs to be the cool place to be. Maybe a bit of a room make over for him will help him make friends with his room. A cool night light (or flash light or camp lantern), make a fort out of his bed, have some of his favorite books in his room in case he wakes up and wants to read himself back to sleep.

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L.C.

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I'm with everyone else. I'd let them share a room for as long as they want to. Don't worry about it until one of your kids starts to complain.

My 8 yo son sleeps in my 12 yo daughters room. She has two twin beds on opposite sides of the room. My son has a bunk bed in his and uses it for sleepovers with friends.

My daughter just started to ask if my son can move back to his room (she's wanting more privacy) so we are in the middle of doing a makeover so he feels like it's his space. We're letting him choose the colors for the walls and the theme (Tae Kwon Do). We're going to paint a mural of two figures doing Tae Kwon Do kicks, bought him a yin yang rug, bought new duvet covers and will let him arrange his room how he wants it.

They still enjoy sleeping in the same room, I hear them talking quietly with the lights out but I think we'll transition him back to his room before school starts.

Let them enjoy time together while they can. Soon enough they'll want their own space and will probably have great memories from when they shared a room. I think it fosters a close relationship, it has for my kids :).

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S.P.

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Yes most def. they are still young but, when he is close to puberty he will probably want his own room anyway.

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S.B.

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if your daughter doesnt mind, get them bunk beds. When he gets to the point where he'd rather sleep alone, he can move back to his room and she can have the extra bed. We did that when I was actually a teenager and sharing with my littlest brother, who was very small and we not only didnt have the room but he was afraid to sleep alone. That worked out until I moved out.

When I was little, my brother and I shared a queen sized bed until we were 6 and 5. I think yours would do fine with bunk beds as long as your daughter is agreeable.

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D.W.

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I do not think it is a problem. Let them enjoy the closeness while they can......it'll change soon enough. Our daughter (7 and an only child) still ends up in our room quite often. The house is big and my husband travels a lot. I've never heard of a teenager that still sleeps with her parents so I know its not forever.

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M.P.

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My granddaughter, 10, and her brother, 7, share a room out of necessity. At first they each had their own room but slept in the same room. Now they share. My grandchildren would each like to have their own rooms but they're getting along in the one room with bunk beds.

If your daughter doesn't mind, I say definitely let them share one room for sleeping but keep separate rooms for other activities and getting ready for bed.

My granddaughter is getting more in need of privacy and has become modest. I do hope her parents will find a way for them to have separate rooms soon.

Sharing a room for sleeping, when both agree that is what they want, is definitely OK at 8.5 and 5.5

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R.J.

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before you allow him to share a room with her sit down and talk with her to see how she feels about it. yes she is a child but she also should be able to have a little bit of privacy.

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