Born Again VS. Greek Orthodox

Updated on January 22, 2008
C.V. asks from San Diego, CA
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Im not wanting to get anyone upset, or do i want a "mine is better than yours" situation.

This is my problem and i want to be repectful in both areas. My hubby's parents and family are Greek Orthodox, and my side of the family are born again christians. My mother-in law has been asking, when am i gna baptize the baby who is now 7 months old. My two oldest were "dedicated" in California where i attended church. I currently do not attend church for a number of reasons, im nervous to take hubby bc he has his preassumtions about Born-Agains, im not sure where to look, and im not sure if i believe everything born-agains believe in.Again, i want to say that im not wanting to be disrespectful, but im really stuck. My mother in law, cried and said that my father in law thought their religion "meant more then that" and i took it as, that hubby shud put me in my place and make me baptize the baby. Fortuntley, hubby hasnt said anything , unfortuntley, hubby hasnt said anything, so what im asking is...If you can tell me the difference between Dedicating and Baptizing, maybe ill have an answer for my MIL when she comes into town in a few weeks.

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answers from Tampa on

Wow, what a loaded question! First off, let me just say that I've been there, done that within my own marriage, but instead of my in-laws being the problem, it was my own Catholic parents. Added to the fray was the fact that after I had been raised as a Catholic, albeit not a practicing one for a very long time, I had re-dedicated myself to the Lord and was thus baptized as an adult. Of course, my parents received my decision with bitterness and resentment because they believed that this second baptism was a move to convert myself from Catholicism to Protestantism - a very BIG "no-no" as far as they were concerned. Nevermind that I was attending a non-denominational Christian church, because it wasn't Catholic, it was WRONG.

Like the Greek Orthodox church, Catholics, especially Filipino-reared Catholics such as my mother and over-zealous converts, such as my father, are very much caught up in the tradition and nationality of being Catholic. Jesus trascends all nationality and tradition, and if you read the New Testament, especially the Gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John, you will discover that faith in Jesus as the Savior and acting upon that faith through love transcends ALL religious laws and traditions. Personally, when Jesus comes again, I want to be known as part of His church, not one so proudly based on cultural heritage and man-made traditions.

The first thing I would do before ever engaging in a spiritual discussion with others who aren't exactly on the same page as you is to PRAY. Pray for spiritual wisdom and discernment, and above all, pray for a loving and compassionate delivery of this wisdom.

Second, you need to decide what it is you really believe in. Whether you're a "born again," Orthodox, or Catholic, water baptism is the most important sacrament in Christianity because it SYMBOLIZES one's full, conscious, and PUBLIC acceptance that Jesus is the one and only Savior. Because Jesus himself was baptized as an adult in his 30s, many "born agains" take the lead from the Bible and feel called to be water baptized when they're doesn't have to be at a specific age, but the person must make a full and conscious decision to accept Christ as his/her Savior.

Growing up as a Catholic, I know that it was indoctrinated in parishioners' minds that baby baptism was somehow a one-way ticket to Heaven should a child ever die before adulthood. Catholic baby baptisms were also necessary to put the stamp of "Catholic" ownership on children's spiritual rearing...from that point on, my parents were always able to proudly say that I was baptized Catholic, however, not necessarily Christian. To Catholics and other Orthodox religions that are founded on man-made, doctrine-based laws and beliefs, this distinction is very, very important.

Dedication for "born agains" differ from baptism in the sense that it is not a sacrament. It certainly does not take the place of baptism because again, your child will need to make a conscious, adult, and public decision to accept Christ as his/her savior once he/she is ready. In Matthew 28:19-20, Christ himself gave his disciples all the authority in heaven through The Great Commission, which very clearly states to go forth and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit and teaching them to obey everything He commanded.

You can see, therefore, that baptism is not merely a religious ceremony, but a pronouncement and acknowledgement of the ultimate truth: that Jesus is the Savior. Dedication is simply a testament that parents make to the body of the church about their INTENTIONS to raise their child in the spirit of Christianity according to the Word of the Lord. The hope is that the fruits of their labors will yield a child that grows up to know and love the Lord and then freely choose to be baptized in the presence of the church when called by the Spirit to do so. I'm not sure how long dedication ceremonies have been around in "born again" churches, but it seems to satisfy many of the orthodox religions' needs to have some sort of ceremony accompany the arrival of a new child.

Lest your in-laws get you caught up in a discussion/debate about the importance of following their religious laws, remind them that in Matthew 22:37-40, after silencing the Sadducees and Pharisees regarding the adherence of religious laws and tradition, Jesus' pronounced that the greatest commandments were to "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments."

Before you can ever hope to impress upon your in-laws why you feel it's important to wait for child's baptism, you must first understand your own faith. I recommend picking up the Bible study "Foundations - A Purpose-Driven Discipleship Resource" by Tom Holladay and Kay Warren. It focuses on the eleven core truths of Christianity: God, Jesus, The Holy Spirit, The Church, The Second Coming, Creation, The Afterlife, Sanctification, Good and Evil, the Bible, and Salvation. Rick Warren's "Purpose Driven Life" is also a fantastic study...I'm in fact doing it for the second time with a good friend, and it's even more relevant to me today. If you feel up to it, maybe you can do the Rick Warren study with your husband and your can easily be done through e-mail by reading a chapter a day and answering the very short, but reflective questions at the end of each chapter. The book can be found in any bookstore because it is the best-selling non-fiction hardback book in history. Nothing, of course, beats the Bible. That should be your first and primary resource with regards to seeking out spiritual guidance on anything and everything.

Christians should never shy away from learning and maturing spiritually, no matter how old they are or how much they think they know about their faith. If your in-laws are citing religious respect over Godly duty as a reason to baptize your child now, then they clearly need to re-think the meaning and focus of their faith.

To give you some good news, once my parents were able to see how God transformed my life, they started to back off on their demands to have my children baptized as Catholics. I remained faithful and prayed, and they ultimately came to realize and accept that the most important thing to consider was that my husband and I were raising our children to know, obey, and love the Lord - a very hard thing to do in today's liberal society. I never thought my parents would come around from their staunch, religious beliefs, but they did and it wasn't through was through the grace of God. I assure you that getting through this tough time with your in-laws is possible, but it starts with you and your husband first. God bless you and your family...I will definitely pray for you all.

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answers from Orlando on

I am a born again and we had our daughter dedicated when she was 2 months old. In my faith (Baptist), we dedicate our children by choice and not out of ritual or tradition. It means we, as parents, have acknowledged that God has blessed us with a gift and we are putting our faith in Him to raise our child. We are dedicating her life to Him and allowing Him to have His way with her future, what ever direction He would have her to go. The responsibility is put on the parents to allow Gods will.

As for baptism, Baptists do not baptize until you have been born again. It signifies the personal acceptance of Jesus Christ into your life. As a baby/child, you can't make that personal decision, and therefore, we don't baptize babies. I interpret other religions practice of baptizing children to mean if they were to die they would automatically go to heaven and be "saved" without knowing Christ personally. However, just because Baptists do not baptize children does not mean that children do not go to heaven. We believe that children who pass on before they are old enough to understand what being born again means personally, will go to heaven.

I hope this helps you make your decision in what to do with your child. It must be difficult trying to work between different beliefs. We will be praying for you.


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answers from Port St. Lucie on

To be honest I am niether or but I strongly believe this desicion is between you and hubby and no one else!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sometime MIL like to give there opinions and that is how you should take it as an opinion. Let them know that you and your hubby will discuss at a later time. This is your child. For me I believe in letting my child choose when he or she get older and understand what they are getting into. I was forced into religion when I was younger. I now disagree with them.

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answers from Miami on

Hi C.,
now i don't know all the particulars but please know i know how you are feeling. as i am christian and my husband's family is roman catholic.

a baptism to a christian is something you make a conscious decision to believe in God and announce Jesus as your savior.

a christening is a baptism of a baby. now they can't conscously decide to follow christ... i am not sure of greek orthodox but roman catholics they then learn through catachism classes and take communion when they decide to follow christ.

a baptism of a child is not allowed in other christian faiths , that is why we do dedications, to dedicate our child to God and announce our plans to raise the child in a christian home.

you may want to contact your local greek orthodox church and / or christian church and ask them for information of baptism.... explain your positioning and let them know that you and your husband are of different faiths and you want to explore the religious aspects.

now adays churches seem more lenient then prior days. as a christian i can be married in a catholic church with a priest and pastor present.
maybe they do something similar with baptisms/dedications????
the best thing you can do is educate yourself and make a heartfelt decision with your husband. also pray on it and see where God leads you.

both religions believe in God ... so where tradition, teachings may differ.... they are both churches of God. a place to worship him.

good luck! ( i am in the process of educating myself and making these hard decisions)


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answers from Tampa on


Let me start by saying, I can not and will not stand in judgement of any Christian religion. It is not my place to judge. It is my place to try to bring about an atmosphere of Christian love and family. I believe with all my heart that as long as we all believe in God, The Father, The Creator, Jesus Christ, His Only Begotten Son, and The Holy Spirit, then we are saved. We may worship The Blessed Trinity differently but we are all family in the catholic (old Latin word meaning UNIVERSAL) church.

I was raised as a Born-Again Christian (Baptist). I converted to the Roman Catholic Church a few years ago for personal and theological reasons.

I understand your question and all it's quirks. The best way to explain the difference between "Dedicating" and "Baptizing" is:

"Dedicating" means that standing in front of the church body, you are promising to raise this child in the "Born-Again" Christian teachings.

"Baptism" means just what it says. You are having the child truly baptized in the Name of The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit. You are conciously making the decision for this child to claim this child's soul for The Kingdom of Christ and to raise the child in accordance with the Greek Orthodox Church's teachings. Only the Roman Catholic, Greek Orthodox, Presbyterian, and Lutherans, and possibly Episcopals (I'm not sure on their teachings) believe that parents have this right and this obligation to have the baby baptized.

Once you baptize the baby, he will not have to go through that sacarament again. He will continue on with the other sacraments of the Greek Orthodox Church (First Communion, First Reconcilliation, Confirmation, Marriage or Holy Orders - should he choose religious life).

In the Born - Again (anything other than Roman Catholic, Greek Orthodox, Presbyterian, Lutheran, or Episcopal), you can only have the child Dedicated (you are making the promise to raise him the Born - Again Christian Faith; but only the child at the age of reaso - around the age of 7 or so - can choose to be baptized.)

Because I was raised as Baptist and I raised my daughter in the Baptist Church, my daughter chose baptism at about 7 or 8. I left the Baptist Church shortly after my daughter was baptized. I, personally, could no longer agree with the theological teachings of the denomination - this was entirely my personal choice and one I made for my son since he was an infant.

I went looking for answers in churches - trying to find my new home for me and my children. I thought I had found that home in the Presbyterian Church and so I had my son baptized in the Presbyterian Church when he was 3.

I later decided that Presbyterian was not right for us either. I went to the Roman Catholic Church.

Understand that the Roman Catholic Church and the Greek Orthodox Church were once the same church. They had a really big disagreement and split about (I think) 1500 years ago. Today, the Vatican and the Archbishop of the Greek Orthodox Church are working toward better relations so that the sacraments I have received in the Roman Catholic Church will be accepted by the Greek Orthodox Church and the Greek Orthodox sacraments will be accepted in the Roman Catholic Church.

Hopefully understanding these differences between Born-Again and Orthodox will help. I can tell you, from my personal prespecitive, that if I had it to do over again, I would have gone to the Catholic Church a lot sooner and I would have had both my daughter and my son baptized in the Roman Catholic Church.

One more thing you need to know: If you have your child baptized in the Greek Orthodox Church and he chooses later to go to the Born Again Churches, they will not accept his baptism. To my knowledge, they only accept baptism at the age of reason and by complete submersion (being dunked). For your older children, they will have to choose baptism for themselves if they are beyond the age of reason.

Should you choose to have him dedicated in the Born Again church, and he reaches the age of majority, he will have to choose baptism for himself at a later date.

Once you have the child baptized in the Greek Orothodox Church, you and your husband are accepting full responsibility for his religious training. You, your husband, and the god - parents are fully and completely responsible for the baby's Christian training until he reaches the age of reason by Church standards. You will have the entire congregation and the whole Greek Orthodox Church to rely on for help in his training. It is our obligation as baptized Christians to help in the upbringing and training of the children of our congregation.

Now, for the truth about infant baptism. According to the Church, we are all stained by Original Sin (Adam and Eve's sin in the Garden of Eden - willful disobedience to God's commande not to eat of the tree of knowledge) and baptism washes this sin away for the baby. But other than to wash away Original Sin, infant baptism really is not necessary since a baby can not knowing commit a sin. The custom of Infant Baptism began during the Middle Ages when there was a very high infant mortality rate and it gave the parents peace of mind to know their child was baptized and so he/she would go to heaven should the child pass before he/she could choose baptism and the custom has continued.

The calming part for me as a Roman Catholic parent is knowing for absolute certain that my child's soul is permanently marked as God's Property and should he pass before he reaches the age of reason, he has that promise of eternal life to look forward to.

If you like, you go to the Orthodox Churches website:

There is plenty of information there about what the Church teaches.

Accoding the Roman Catholic Church, we, as Roman Catholics, are allowed to marry outside the church (someone who is not Roman Catholic), but when we do, we (husband and wife) have to promise that we will raise the children in the Church and in accordance with the Roman Catholic Church's teachings.

The spouse who is not Catholic knows this requirement because, by Church requirements, we are required to go through marriage prepreration classes - which take about 6 months to complete - to prepare us for the reality and full weight of the sacrament of marriage, and this teaching is discussed in detail. If the priest is not fully satisfied that he can perform the sacrament in good faith, then he can and will refuse to marry the couple. They can still marry outside the Church, but the Church will not recognize the marriage as legitimate until the marriage has been blessed by the Church.

I believe that your mother-in-law's frustration is aimed directly at her son. He knows the Greek Orthodox Church's teachings and according to the way he was raised, this should have been handled months ago.

I also understand your confusion and frustration. Another option, talk to the priest at the local Orthodox Church and talk with a minister at the local Baptist Church.

I know this is long and possibly confusing, but I hope it helps. I would strongly recommend that you speak with your husband about this topic and see how he feels. He may be afraid to talk to you about it so it sits there like the elephant in the corner that everyone is walking around and pretending is not there.

If you would like, we can talk about this further through email. My email is [email protected]

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answers from Lakeland on


I am a non-denominational Christian, my father was a minister and I grew up in Baptist, Assembly of God and other charismatic, protestant churches. Recently, because a good friend became a priest in the Old Catholic Church, I've done a lot of study on Orthodox christianity and on catholocism.

I think what you're seeing is that in many of the churches you've attended where the babies are dedicated and not baptized, this is a western, protestant tradition. That is to say, in non-catholic churches, the belief is that baptizing children before they are of age to make their own decision regarding Jesus is out of line. Basically ,a baby can't accept Christ as saviour on his own, so baptizing wouldn't really do much good. Typically, we dedicate babies, and the parents declare and agree to raise them in a christian environment and teach them so that as they grow, they will in time come to a decision to serve Christ and be baptized. We pray a prayer of blessing on the child and for their future. We don't believe any child is in mortal danger of dying and going to hell before they come of age to understand right and wrong and make a decision for Christ.

In orthodoxy and catholocism, the babies are baptized as infants. Baptism in a important sacrament, just as communion is. These are important in western churches as well, you're just dealing with a difference of opinion on when this happens with the children.

I would look at John 3:3: Jesus answered him and said "Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God." Then he goes on to say "Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God."

Being "born again" means heavenly birth through faith in Christ. Western churches believe this is actively done through a decision of the person, so the person needs to be old enough to understand and make this decision. Eastern churches believe that this happens supernaturally through the sacrament of the actual act of the baptism. This is why infants are baptized. I do believe that the act of the sacrament is a requirement and holy and supernatural.

I do believe it's a requirement to be baptized in water, and the holy spirit as well in order to enter the kingdom, that you can only "see" the kingdom by being born again, or just believing. But, as a mother, it was important to me to have my children baptized, but only after they made the decision and I was sure through teaching that they understood the meaning, although I had them baptized in the Old Catholic Church.

So, I think I would recommend that you search your heart about the issue with your husband. I don't take the "things" that we do or don't do as seriously as what is in the heart. I don't think it damages a child to be baptized as an infant. Certainly, just like a "dedication" service, that child is committed and prayed for and blessed and something very real happens in the spirit for that child. I just don't see it as the end-all be-all that makes the child "saved". Children still need to come to a realization of Christ in them on their own at some time in their growing up.

I guess, my recommendation is this. If your husband and his family are of the belief that the children are in mortal danger of hell by not being baptized, then maybe just take them in and have them baptized. It depends on whether or not you feel as their mother, in your spirit, that this would be wrong. You should pray and ask God about it. But, Paul the apostle, did many things that he didn't necesarrily believe in as far as jewish customs are concerned, to not be an offense to those he was trying to reach. He said it's fine to do or not do certain things that might upset your brother in Christ, or make him stumble. He meant that the important thing is not what we're "doing" but the love we have for one another and the relationship. If not baptizing is making a division in your family, I'd be more concerned about the division than the act of the baptism. Your job as mother is to raise your children to know Christ, regardless.

So, I hope that helps. I hope I didn't say anything offensive and again, these are my opinions and understandings.

Be blessed, H.



answers from Naples on

Hi C.,
Firstly you didn't mention anything about your other two children. How are you raising them? Secondly Christians are Christians. They all believe in Jesus. My husband was greek-orthodox and I was Catholic. There are hardly any differences. You can always do both. The one good thing about greek-o's is that once you've cristened them that's it, unlike catholics who then have first holy communion, confirmation, etc. The greeks take care of everything all at once. It's a beautiful, long cerimony. I don't see the harm in having both done and mother in law off your back. Maybe I'm too much of a passafist. We all wind up becomming our own spiritual selves eventually. Hope this doesn't confuse you more.



answers from Miami on

Hi C.,

I agree with Sherri, she is correct in what she states. All I can add is the decision is yours. My husbands family has finally respected our decision with our daughter. They kept pushing us to have her dedicated with their church and my husband in fact said he wants her to make the choice when she's ready what she wants to do. We are not keeping God away from her, in fact she learns about him every day. I grew up Catholic but when I got older I embraced the Christian religion. So she knows who God is from a 2 year olds point of view and she loves Jesus. Kisses his picture and says Jesus loves me. So you make up your own mind and have your husband make a decision to say something. Stand up for what you both believe in not what others want you to believe in.

C. S.



answers from Boca Raton on

i don't understand the born again. but i know greek families are devoted to their religion and nationality.
if this was something i was dealing with i'd want my kids to be of the same religion as their dad.
good luck



answers from Jacksonville on

This is tough. I am Catholic (Roman) and my husband is agnostic (doesn't confirm or deny). My daughter was baptized Catholic, as our son will be, and I promised my husband that at the time of confirmation (the time you reaffirm the baptismal promises that your parents answered for you as a young adult - 13 or 14- the equivalent of other denominations' accepting Christ thing) they can choose on their own.

I am a firm believer that you may be the best gospel anyone reads (a quote from a fellow Christian- non denominational. BTW), meaning I will from my actions lead my children, but when they can make the decision, I will allow them to make it.

Unfortunately, with really traditional RC and Greek Orthodox families, tradition is everything. My family is no exception. There wasn't a question if Jackie would be baptized- it was when. Raised a LOT of eyebrows when I delayed it while deciding with my husband what we wanted to do.

My best advise is talk it over with your husband... when it comes to it, you and he (with the godparent[s]) will have to make the promises on behalf of your child... not the grandparents. If you compromise, which is always better in my opinion, work it out so it's the best for everyone... if that means two ceremonies, then that's what it's gonna be... your in laws will have to understand that this is a mutally agreed upon decision with you and your hubby, and they must respect that.



answers from Orlando on

I feel that if you do not want to baptise your baby, you should not. Pretty simple. If you let your MIL control this, you are going to have lots of more things in the future for her to do the same with. I do feel that you need to speak to your hubby about giving his input. It seems that he is "playing it safe" by not taking a side. He needs to stand up and make a choice. Even if his choice is letting you do what you choose, he needs to say that, expecially to his mother.



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answers from Miami on

Dear C.,
All of the resonses you have received are good, however the very best, most informative and true to Biblical principle is the one by Carolyn J. She not only has understood your plight, but has given tyou the precise definitions that you are seeking. I hope and implore you to re read her reply to you, as it will benefit you greatly. I have nothing to add to what she has said, however I want to point to you to a website that will be crucial for you at this time.

You say that you lived in California, and I don't know whether that was Northern or Southern Ca., but there is a church in Oakland which is Born-again, Spirit-filled, and Greek. The senior pastor, Dr. Vorliotis (sp?) is a very knowledgeable man in the things of God as well as into his culture. Perhaps after you read the website, you can decide to give them a call and pose your problem to them. SOmeone there is bound to give you some deep insight from a cultural as well as spiritual perspective. Greeks and Greek-Orthodoxy are almost one and the same. It takes a tremendous move of the Holy Spirit for them to understand the difference between just following Jesus and following prescribed rituals. For them there is no difference, so to deny a child baptism is to them the same as denying Christ.
Please give these folks a call, as they are I believe the only large Greek born-again church in the U.S.. They can be of much help to you.

Wishing you God's wisdom in all things



answers from Miami on

Ahhh... baptism, christening, dedication...this is a very difficult situation, and of course everyone eventually has to make the decision that is best for their own family. I was able to solve the dilemma of blending several styles of worship and levels of "Christianity" in my own family by hirng a private Pastor (wonderful man, he did our wedding as well)and working with him to arrange a ceremony that met my needs and beliefs but also satisfied the extended family with "symbolic traditions" that they found comforting and necessary. If you want more information about him, feel free to ask. God bless you and your desire to raise your child in a faith-filled home!

By the way, if you are interested in having the ceremony in a church or chapel, we did ours at the Spanish Monastary in NMB, a beautiful chapel that allows you to bring in your own Pastor if you choose to do so. It is a wonderful place!



answers from Miami on

I have no idea what the difference between those religions are, but we had a similar situation in our family.

In an effort to please my granddaughter’s predominantly Catholic and Christian family, and her Great grandmother who is a member of Eckankar, my daughter and son in law had the baby baptized in a Lutheran church and Consecrated at the Eck Temple two days later. It worked out extremely well and everyone was happy. Maybe your family could try something similar? It can’t hurt to keep the peace.

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