I've been part of this group for a while now and this is the first question I've really needed help with. My daughter just turned 6 this week and I still am unable to get her to blow her nose if she has the sniffles. I've tried teaching her how to blow out a candle through her nose (when it's not stuffy), showing her how to do blow by example, everything I can think of and she just says she can't do it and it hurts. I don't believe it actually hurts her I just think shes being stuborn about it.
Also she has been potty trained since she was 2 1/2 but she STILL WONT WIPE when she goes poo. She says she doesn't want to get poo on her hands or smell it and I ask her if she thinks I want to have to smell her poo every time? This is a VERY smart child but she dose seem to have confidence issues because if she trys to do something and it's "hard" the first time she wants to give up and I have to keep on her to keep trying (i.e. putting shoes on, spelling her name, learning the sounds of letter). I'm at a loss on these two things that it just seems I CAN NOT get her to grow out of!! lol any advice would be wonderful.
~~~S.
I have to agree with the other mom. Just don't wipe her behind any longer. Sooner or later she will learn to do it. No one likes doing it but its just something that needs done. And there is no reason why she shouldn't do it herself at the age of 6.
S., I had the same problem w/my son. Unfortunatley I never did figure out how to get him to blow. It actually took him till he was 9 to do it..he's 11 now! :( Now I can't get him to use the tissue more than once and fold it up! LOL! He blows and throws the unfolded kleenex in the trash can in the bathroom and goes through an entire box of kleenex when he has a cold or something. Really makes us mad.
As for the wiping. I think the kid wipes the other gal suggested is a good idea. I also say you should refuse to wipe her. That's how I potty trained my daugher. I made her change her undies herself no matter how many times a day she had to do it. She didn't like touching the soiled panties so in a couple weeks she was trained. I'd think the same may work for your situation. I know it's sick to say but let her walk around stinking and yucky. She's 6, I can't imagine she'll like the feeling and then she'll have to do it herself. Plus nobody wants to play w/a stinky poopy friend! ;) It's worth a try. Oh, and praise when she does,that was an excellent suggestion. Maybe offering her something she's really wanted when she starts doing it herself?
Goodluck!
S.
I am unsure about the blowing of her nose but with the wiping you might want to try using baby wipes. I have my children use it and they dont poke holes through it like they did with bathroom tissue. Besides it gets them cleaner. You just have to tell her to throw it away instead of flushing it.
S.
My daughter is this same way,but she is only 4 1/2. She will only wipe occasionally and she complains at times that her Ti Ti(vagina) hurts or that her bottom is sore. This drives me nuts that she doesn't wipe.
Unfortunately I have tried the wipes and she doesn't use those either. I keep buying them and she him use them if I remind her every now an again.
Good luck with that!!
I taught my son to blow his nose by first letting him pick out his own box of tissues. Then when he needed to blow, I would close off one nostril at a time and hold his mouth closed by pushing GENTLY up on the underside of his chin. With a little encouragement, he finally was able to clear his nose somewhat.
As for tushie wiping, get her some flushable wipes, like the Kandoo kind. They are scented with kid friendly smells, and they are moist and flushable. When your daughter is done wiping with them, have her let you check her and praise her alot if she "gets it all!"
If she has a confidence problem, she will need encouragement for every little thing. She may even need a sticker chart or something for her just TRYING to wipe.
GOOD LUCK!!! :-)
Believe it or not some kids just have a hard time getting all the air to come out of their noses for some reason...my fiance's cousin was 13 before she figured out how to actually blow her nose...if she's complaining about it hurting you might want to take her to her doctor and let them check her to see if she has sensitive sinuses...it may sound crazy but she may be telling you the truth...just a suggestion.
Hi S., I also live in Cable. My 16 year old used to have trouble with both blowing her nose and cleaning herself. She would try, but when blowing her nose, if the tissue touched her lips it would gag her and with cleaning herself, she would do it, but could never do it good enough. At 7 years old I was still having to do it until I had just had enough and let her do it herself and once she go a little sore she realized she had better do a better job. I don' think this will help since your daughter will not do it at all, but just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and they do grow out of these things, you just have to be patient. Are there younger siblings or maybe a younger cousin that she is competing for attention? My sister had a baby girl a year after me and my daughter was used to being the center of attention before that and then she had to learn to share. Try the "big" girl thing, I also told my daughter that if she could not clean her bottom she could not go on the school bus until she could and that really got her motivated to do it. If she is afraid to get poo on her, find her some rubber gloves until she gets used to it then slowly take the gloves away from her. Not sure if she is in school yet, but maybe over break you can get her started on it and then tell her that at school she has to be a big girl and do it without the gloves. Hope some of this helps or atleast give you some comfort that you are not alone.
I can't help to much on the blowing nose thing because I to was a child that could not blow my nose. Though I will tell you it didn't hurt and I to could blow a candle out with my nose but for some reason I couldn't blow my nose I think I was around 8 when I started doing it. My youngest son is 4 he can't blow his either but my youngest daugterthat is 3 can and does. Now with the wiping her on but I say she should have been doing that awhile ago make her do it first and then you wipe last so she knows that she is clean this is what I do with my son that is 4 We started that I wipe first then he wipes but now at 4 I feel he hould be able to do a pretty good job by himself. You could try this.
