I am so sorry for your situation. I am glad you chose the D&C (it is probably healthier for your uterus) and sorry that you will not be put out. Sounds like they'llRELAX you.
This will be hard for you (and your husband) emotionally and physically. Docs tell ya oh it's outpatient, no biggie. Dont buy into it. Plan a recovery time, and something special, even if it's just dad brings home pizza and movies (one for kids and one for grown ups). You'll be in the stirrups, they scrape you out. Expect cramping. Expect sadness. You have a right to mourn (or not) Your doc should GLADLY answer yr questions, too. Take yr hubby or best friend with you, dont do this alone. Allow time to feel okay in all ways again, I dont know how old yr kids are or how much they understand - but be as real as you can w/them. They can & will help you thru this time too, no matter their age. Good luck, and I am sorry for your loss.