Updated on March 17, 2007
R.R. asks from Norman, OK
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I just fond out that I am a bipoler parent and don't know if any body else out there has the same problems that I do I seem to be doing really well on my meds but I don't want a med that zones me out to where I am don't want to play with my kids during the day and that is what my meds seem to be doing was wondering if any body has any thing to recomend

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answers from Tulsa on

Hi R.,
I, too, am bipolar and was diagnosed 4 1/2 years ago. I just went through a depression cycle and had to have my meds readjusted.

My advice to you is contact your doctor and request a change in meds due to one side effect...your lethargic mood. And, I must ask you what type of doc you are seeing for treatment for Bi-polar. I found out after a years cycle with mostly depression and the wrong thing my family doc prescribed. I found a pyschiatrist who immediately changed my meds. I have tried numerous meds and one of them had a side effect similar to yours. Don't give might take awhile but you will find the right meds that help you maintain a healthy outlook on life.

And, if your meds are not working and your doc won't change your meds then it's time to move on to another doc who will work with you.

Good luck on your journey...

W. Q

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answers from Rockford on

I am a bi polar parent as well but my daughter is 18 but had problems with mood swings until about a year ago when my meds were switched to Geodone (a new med) and Effexor. I alos have anxiety issues so I am not sure which is for the bi polar..Also my daughter is bi-polar as well but non-medicated some say it is genetic not sure if it is or not



answers from Oklahoma City on

My husband and brother-in-law are both bi-polar. Bi-polar affects them both very differently. My brother-in-law has very high highs and very low lows. But my husband doesn't. The Dr. has them both on lithium and zoloft (but different dosages). It took a long time to get their meds straightened out. They would try one for several months and realize that it wouldn't work and then have to try another. So if you just started your meds, give them a chance, but if you have been on them for awhile, tell your Dr. what is going on and try to get a different kind. With bi-polar, they both have problems sleeping, so they have to take a sleeping pill for that. Do you have family close that can help you while your husband is gone? If so, don't be afraid to ask for it. I know my husband and his brother didn't want to tell anybody that they were bi-polar for a long time b/c there is such a stigma about people with this disease and they didn't want to be labeled. If you ever want to talk or have a play date w/ the kids just email me. I live about 20 minutes from Norman.



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answers from Topeka on

As a bipolar mom myself, I know how hard it is. But, I also had a chance to get used to being bipolar long before I became a mom. I've been on several different medications and I only liked one of them, which my doctor changed on me without consulting me first. How long have you been on your meds? Most of them take at least 6 weeks to start working and about twice that to have any really effects. It's hard, but you have to give it time.
I am not taking any medication now. But, I watch what I eat very very carefully and I use cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Are you in therapy? It really helps, I highly suggest group therapy if you can find one. MAke sure you talk to your doctor. If the medication is really not working for you, make them change it. If that doctor won't, go see another one!
The best advice I can give you is to learn your rhythm. Do you cycle through your depressions and manias regularly? Every few months, more often? I knew a girl who cycled several times a day! Scary! I go through a 3-4 month cycle and I use my manic phases to my advantage and I do my best not to let my depresions get the best of me. Feel free to contact me if you have any other questions or just want someone to talk to or vent to. Good luck!



answers from Oklahoma City on

my mom is bipolar ... My dr prescribed topamax and it will make me tired but not horribly tired. I dont know how extreme your bipolar is but thats what they use to determine the meds. There is ALOT of info available online.



answers from Tulsa on

I'm a bipolar mom and found that the medicines dulled my reactions to everything including driving. Seeing that you are the only parent right now having a dulled sense of responsibility isn't really a good thing. However being on you own and probably anxiety filled about potential dangers of you husband's absence or delay in his return home can also be triggering episodes.

There are several factors in Bipolar that you must consider and if you haven't addressed them then the medication or going with out medication will not give you the effects you deserve. The first is other hormones. That's right, a shift every month can make things worse on either pole of behavior. But every day hormones like low thyroid, high blood sugar can keep the medication from being as effective and make the side effects worse.

I've found that a strict routine, plenty of exercise and lots of rest are the best thing to keep me going now that I don't have medications for my conditions. I use to manage my house. I use The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz to manage my out of control thoughts. Check into the local library and see if they have a copy, if not see if they will borrow a copy from the Tulsa library system.

Believe me, I know how hard it is to do this alone with kids. The most important thing you can do right now is give yourself time away from the kids and the pressure. Find a friend or family member that can take the kids for the evening and go see that movie come home and shower, shave, moisturize, meditate, take a power nap anything for you that you don't normally do then go get the girls and get them off to bed.

Nothing will boost your seratonin (good brain chemicals) better than exercise. I just bought a bean but I had been doing pilates as well. I'd say that you are doing pretty well to have reached out. That's a good sign. Keep up the extra effort and when your hubby comes home work hard to reintergrate him into the life you have not the other way around.



answers from Bloomington on

I was told I was bipolar... I was put on many meds.. One was topamax... and then they put me on another I forget it.. It really zoned me out... Topamex zonked me for a while I got reallllllllly dumb till about 3 or so months Heck I could not spell the word THE for 2 weeks...

THey cut it down and slowwwwwly took it up and that helped but Still It would make you forget many things... and affect me...

My son was on paxal for headaches we took him off cuz he was a jerk and hitting but I am sure for all people all meds are different...

anyway.. Listen... I am not bipolar.. get this....

I had been on the depo provera shot... It can realllly mess you up... anyway.... I sure did.... I got off it.. and Slowly I got happy!!! I can reallly mess with you that is for sure... I just wanted to see if you were maybe on that or soemthing...

Heck they had me seeing a shrink.. on the meds for over a year.. I told him I wanted a baby.. I got off the depo shot.. Took myself off the meds he put me on and WOW I found happy.. To this day.. I am good!!!! I have never been so good... AND I have lost 45 lbs!!!!!

Also you state the father is away... Maybe that is not bi polar.. Maybe you are just stressed out.. Maybe you just need some help about the house.... Everbody is so ready to jump on the You are sick take this....

I hope it is not the case!!!!

Sending a big hug!!!!




answers from Topeka on

I to am bi polar. I found that Paxil worked best for me. Good luck



answers from St. Louis on

I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder about 8 years ago and have been doing very well on medication. My biggest advice is to read up on the illness, you are your best ally in this struggle. Find a good doctor, it took me 6 psychiatrists to find a good one for me. I think the hardest part is the stereo-types people give you, don't let them get to you. Good luck to you!



answers from Enid on

If you are weary of drugs that only suppress the symptoms without actually treating the cause of the problem, I've read of great successes in psychological disorders such as bipolar, depression, and others, using EFT. Here is a detailed article you might find interesting:

Also, on the EFT site you can find a list of practitioners in your area. I've used and practiced EFT for 2 years now and have seen some amazing results.

Of course, I always recommend Mona Vie which is a natural fruit drink that is high in antioxidants. Everyone I know that has tried it, even for issues such as fibromyalgia and ADD/ADHD, have noted noticable relief by drinking it. So there is some proof that it helps with mental issues as well. If nothing else, it's great for boosting energy and cleansing toxins out of the system and may help counteract the drowsy side-effects of your current medication without interfering with its effectiveness.

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Good luck!



answers from Kansas City on

You are definetly not alone. While I am not bipolar my husband is, he was diagnosed when are oldest was about a year old. He would have extreme highs and spend every penny we had in a day on extreme shopping sprees or have lows were he would come home from work and go to bed at 4:30. Meds did not work well for him they made him very unemotional, counciling, lots of support from family and friends, and daily exercise have helped the most. Our oldest is now 8yrs and he has been controlling it without meds for 6 1/2 yrs now. He only did counciling for about 6mo. Good Luck and I hope you find something that works for you soon.

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