Being Evicted

Updated on November 06, 2007
E.J. asks from Plano, TX
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We have been renting out house for 2 years and I was served with papers last week that the house had been foreclosed on weeks ago and we have to leave. My husband went to the court and got it extended to the 19th. Yesterday he told me he hated me and wants a divorce and was leaving. He said I had better figure something out by the 19th when the kids and I will be forcably removed. I am a MDO teacher and I have 2oo in my wallet, he keeps his money seperate and told me he would not give me a dime to help me find a place to live. I have no access to his account. He is bi polar, alcoholic and from the research I have sociopathic. He left, and I am grasping to find an answer. I had a thought that maybe I can find a property investor who will buy the house and continue to let me rent it. I cant buy the house my credit is way too bad, I have checked in to this. My children have been through so much and their one request is to please not make them leave their schools my oldest is 15 and a sophomore my youngest is 3. I am working but I dont make much which is why I am working on my degree and have been it also just occured to me I have school holidays and I will not be paid for those. He also told me he made the van payment last month and he didnt so if we did have to stay in the van until i can figure something out I have to make two van payments and i dont have it. PLEASE anyone with any ideas or suggestions or resourses...I do not know what to do..my oldest son said I could have his paychecks and he would work more hours--he already struggels in school and he MUST focus on his education so that he can begin the process of the kids going to college and having a successful productive adult life.

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K.R.

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The Devil is a lair!!YOu will pull thru this it is a matter of time ..Clear your head get your thoughts together sit down and write down what is !st and proporitize ..There is a place in Irving it's a program that will help you pay your rent..They will help up with alot of things you need right now the name of the center is called Urban League....I am located in Mckinney if you need help with the kids....I will be praying for you...Remember this is only temporary you will come thru!!!!Hang in there be strong ..if not for yourself for the kids........

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K.E.

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Celebration Covenant church in Frisco is a great place. Call them ###-###-####, they have funds to help people that are in crisis like you. I am crying reading your post. I know there is help out there. Keep your head up and just keep searching. Remeber, things have to get worse before they can get better. I wish there was more I could do. You are welcome to email me if you need more information or help.

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Y.B.

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First of all I want to stay that you are not alone. I don't know if you are a christian, but I tell you that GOD has been there through the storms with me, even now. Are you and your family involve and/or attending church? This is a major stress reliever because you can develop friendships with people that are able to become a support system and the pastor and/or his staff. I had to move out of my current apt. and had to wait a week before we moved into my new apt. and had no place for my furniture. Well, a church member was able to keep my furniture at her house in the process.

Listening to a christian radio station especially because someone may ask a question that helps you. Although you are facing major challenges, focus on turning lemons to lemonade. That means you can control ONLY YOU!! There are some local agencies that you can call and I would do them immediately because you are going to need a place to stay and another job. Some agencies to check would be Salvation Army, Vounteers of America, Urban League, Urban Cares etc. You can always call 211 for information and referrals. Always ask questions about services and referrals if they cannot help you in a particular area. Ask what the requirements are to receive services or help.
There are places you can stay with you and your children. Some of them my not equal up to where you live now but remember to be humble and that there are people who have loss their family and their home. Also that you are going to rebuild and definitely become stronger.
Remember to get positive support around you. Making sure you have ONLY positive people around you is going to be important.
If you want to email me to keep in touch, you may.

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T.G.

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Do you know where your husband went or where he works? I would immediately go to the attorney general's office and file an application for temporary support. Your husband has to support you and your children. I would file a letter with the court explaining your situation with the house you are living in and I would send a copy of this letter to the lienholder. I would contact them and see what your options are. The foreclosure process takes a while and often things may be worked out with the owner. Since it is a foreclosure -maybe the lienholder will work something out with you (even if your credit isn't the best). Definitely, file an application for temporary support. Also, go talk to the bank. Show them your marriage license and I think you legally have a right to any funds in his account. If you aren't sure -talk to an attorney and find out. You can get your husband for abandonment. Where do you live and where do your children go to school? You shouldn't be going through this. I don't think the courts will look very favorably on a man who abandons his wife and kids and tells them that he won't help them at all. email me at [email protected]____.com if you want. I can probably get your more information on these things. Once you get through this, I think you will be much better off. Your husband sounds like a real a-hole. Whatever happens, do not try to live out of your van...there has to be another way. I am a single mom of three and my nephew is living with me, but I'll do what I can to help.

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M.B.

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Elishea,
My heart goes out to you and your kids. Check with your church. Most times, churches can help in some way. If your family is not an option, that's the best advice I could give. I will pray for you and your children. I can relate to the problems your experiencing. I have family members who suffer with the same types of pshchological disorders and addiction. Pleas don't give up hope. God is good and He will be there for you all. Just have faith. Please let us know how things turn out for you. God Bless you and your family.
M..

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S.T.

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Hi Elishea - I am sorry to hear about what you are going through. If you attend church contact them. Don't be afraid to aak for help. You have a lot on your plate. Is the MDO program that you work for associated with a church they might be able to offer help as well. You will be in my prayers. Hang in there.

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L.P.

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I see you've gotten a lot of info on where to go for help, so now, make your list. You'll more than likely have to move, but know in your heart that maybe the move will put you & your kids in a better situation. Go get some boxes, have a good cry and then start packing. I know that this kind of thing can be INCREDIBLY hard. Seek out the help, and you will be ok. If you need support and advise feel free to email me anytime!! You will make it through and will be a stronger better family for it.

LP

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L.T.

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I agreee with everyone else and say 'talk to your church'. I would also talk to other family members, even distant ones you may only send Christmas cards too. I know in my heart, they will help you. You are blessed with wonderful children--my heart melts thinking of how kind you son is to offer to take care of you!
I wish I had more advice to give you.
Know I am praying for your family and thinking of you.
Stay strong!

L.

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M.

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Elishea,
i am truly sorry to hear about your situation. That sounds horrible. Well it seems that it is time to reach out to and friends and family that you have for emotional as well as financial support. I am a true believer that education is everything. But right now it seems that you dont have the luxury of going to school. In my opinion you may have to put school on hold for a while and get a second job to support you and your kids. As far as your oldest stepping up to the plate to help out, it sounds like he his going to make a wonderful man one day, but as a mother, i would not accept it. Have him put his funds away for college. In the future you may be able to qualify for some kind of government assistance and i would also get started on the whole child support thing cause sometimes that takes a while. Good luck and god bless!

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A.J.

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I would check into government resources, Food stamps are very helpful, also governsment houseing maybe an apartment in your childs school district. When my husband was out of work for a long time we got food stamps and some emergency aid please look into that because it was very helpful to keep us on our feet.

Aj

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