Been Trying for over a Year!

Well, I can tell you that I have been there. I did 4 months of Clomid, 3 months of Folistem (injections) and 4 IUI (Invetro semination) and did get pregnant 7 times, but lost all of them at 6-8 weeks. With all that said, we obviously had our fair share of infertility issues.

In my opinion ~ there is a plan for you and your family! I, of course, do not know what that plan is or when it is going to happen, but God has a plan for you! :-) Little did I know that our plan was to adopt and we now have 2 healthy Caucasian children. Our son is 2 and our daughter is 2 months old. :-)

Maybe the plan is for you and your husband to adopt a child that is already been given life!

Your in my prayers and thought! I know how hard it is!

J.

Just an idea but get the book,Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It's by Toni Weschler. It's at Borders, Barnes and Noble and Amazon. Excellent book to teach women about themselves, their bodies and their cycles. Best wishes. J.

T.,

I have heard and read that stressing over getting pregnant may very well be the reason that it has not happening. So my advise to you is...Stop stressing and obsessing over this and just enjoy one another. If you are to have another child God will provide when the timing is right. Blessings! J.

It took us four years to get pregnant with our daughter, my husband also had the varicocele surgery and it took us six months after that to get pregnant. Be patient and say a prayer for a happy, healthy baby every day. After that it took us three years to have our twin boys. (ivf/icsi) We went through seven years of infertility to have our children, and we thought they would never get here.
I know every month seems like years. Keeping saying your daily prayer and try to be patient.

I have heard of great results with acupuncture for fertility issues. I don't have experience with it, but I know it would be an option I would consider. It might be something you could research. I have seen other posts on Mamasource regarding the subject, so you could start there. Good luck.

I just wanted to second what others said below about going to a fertility specialist (if you are not already). After 5 months on Clomid, you need an expert to guide you through the next steps.

I also wanted to highly recommend the RESOLVE peer-led support group. When I was having fertility issues, the information I learned from the other individuals attending these meeting was amazing. I found out about better doctors and clinics that I had never heard of. Ended-up taking their advice and after 3 years, finially was blessed with my twin boys. You do not need to join to go, so you may want to check it out: http://greatlakes.resolve.org/site/PageServer?pagename=gl...

Also, I found this one particular board very useful for research and suggestions on fertility issues - you might want to check it out as well. The women on here were smart and I got a lot of good information from them: www.ivfconnections.com

Good luck, and don't give up hope yet.

T., are you going to your regular OB or are you seeing a fertility specialist? If you are just going to your regular OB, I would strongly suggest getting a referral to a fertility specialist. OB's are quick to prescribe Clomid, in my opinion, but they don't do testing upfront to see if that's what your body NEEDS -- and they don't monitor your levels/eggs produced/etc while you're on it. Fertility specialists are also not necessarily as expensive as you might think. It's worth a consultation if you're not seeing one yet.

I had trouble getting pregnant and got so caught up in "what could be wrong and how can I fix it" that this didn't occur to me until almost a year later...

...Adoption is a wonderful way to add a beautiful child to your family.

I'm so glad I had trouble concieving, because now I have my daughter (from China) and one year later I got pregnant with her baby brother! I was so glad he didn't come along until after we adopted because otherwise, we wouldn't have our precious girl as well.

I just wanted to remind you in case you weren't thinking of it. Whatever you decide, I hope things work out for you. I know how disappointing it can be to have trouble concieving.

I highly recommend you check out Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It's available at the library.

I'm not a doctor and I haven't had issues with getting pregnant; got pregnant with my daughter while on the patch .... however, my cousin is an OBG-YN and what he tells his patients that are having issues that if you're overweight (not making assumptions, so please don't take offense) start working out; take your son to the public pool, start going on walks and eating more healthy foods; I know you mentioned you don't like veges and don't cook well; I have a few full proof recipes ... there are several vegetables that I really don't like to eat, however, I love the flavor they add to foods, and if they're cut small enough, you get the flavor w/o getting too much of the vegetables. Email me and I'll be happy to give the recipes, or if you live in the Ann Arbor/Ypsilanti area, I've been dabbling with the idea of advertising on Craig's List my cooking services. I love to cook and thanks to recipes passed down from my bubbe (grandma) I'm a pretty good cook; at least that's what my in-laws and friends say. And if you are in the Ypsi area, I have a 3 and a half year old son and a 2 year old daughter ... maybe we could let the kids play; the apartment complex I live in has a swimming pool and the kids enjoy the pool ... usually. lol
H.

You may need to try ICSI through a fertility specialist as this is a great way to get fertilized eggs into your body at the right time in your cycle. Consult with a specialist and give yourself a plan - upfront agree what you can afford mentally and financially and stick to it - hard but the best way in the long run. Good luck - it took us 3 goes but we ended up with twins...!

T.
sorry to here about the hartace you are going threw right now .try not to stress about it always makes it worse .the more you relax about it the sooner it will happen.so try to put it out of your mind i know it easyer said then done i will say a prayer for you and hope that the FERTILITY GODS BLESS YOU .maybe aug will be your month it was alays a good month for me and my friends aug bring spring babies well good luck

Hi T.,

I probably shouldn't be responding since I have no experience with this situation. What I do have experience with however is stress. Your body will respond to your stress levels in negative ways. Get in a yoga class and you and your husband make a vow not to discuss it. I am sure that he is probably feeling responsible for your unhappiness, that's just the way men are, even though it isn't his fault, and that can only make his progress slower. Take a deep breath, pray, and trust His wisdom.

You mentioned that you have irregular cycles...Have you looked ingto Natural Family Planning? It can be used to achieve pregnancy by tracking your fertility so you know the most fertile days in our cycle. ccli.org
Blessings, K.

T.,
I am a chiropractor in Birmingham and the focus of my practice is pregnancy and children. I have had a lot of success with people with fertility issues. The nerves from (both your and your husbands) lower back travel to your reproductive organs and control it. If there is some sort of interference in the message being sent from your brain to those organs they may not function properly.
I would suggest finding a chiropractor and you and your husband get under regular treatment for a couple months! Whatever you can do to help both of your systems function properly will be good!
A good chiro can also suggest diets, exercise, supplements, etc.
Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help!

I don't know too much about reverse visectomy's. But I think you need to breath and relax. Stop flipping out on your periods. Your late because your stressed and flipping out because you want it so bad. Once you continue to enjoy life with your husband and your son and forget it will happen. I'm not saying your not doing that now. I'm saying relax. I do know massage helps. If you get massages once a month try to get it around your ovalation time and set it up for you and your husband both to get one. either get a couple or go individually. After a massage you may want to have your little one away so you and your husband can have a night to yourselves. You can also monitor your tempature too. One other suggestion. I see a gyno who is really all natural if your interested in a 2nd opinion. let me know I will give his name and number. Good Luck.