A.,
Welcome to the 21 Century New Age illness for the babies of today. FLAT HEADS! When I was a chjld the new thing was having your tonsoils taken out. When my children were young it was having tubles put in. IN the 90's everyone's child had reflux and now it is the FLAT HEAD Issue.
With each era come new mothers and new issues that they have to contended with. Most of the children with tubes were allergic to milk without knowing, It was causing allergic issues and their ears never quite healed because they were always drinking cows milk instead of Mothers milk.
This generation of children have mothers that have been told "Lay then on their back so they don't have SIDS! What about all the millions of chjildren over the past 60 years that slept on their stomachs and did not die of SIDS!?! SO now the 21 centruy babies and children,when their heads are still pliable and soft are constantly on their backs in bed during their naps, in bed on their backs at night, on their backs in their car seats, on their backs in their bounces seats and the list goes on and on. But the doctor's will not tell you that the head of an infant is soft like playdough. It must be molded. And just like any potter's clay if you only lay it on one side for nine months it will become FLAt on that one side.
Take this challenge and just spend tomorrow looking for babies and everytime you see a baby 9 months and below look to see if it is laying on its head or if the parent or caregiver is holding it or loving on it. Our children have been relagated to the carseats and swings and bouncy seats instead of a caregivers loving arms.
So they are ALWAYS falttening the back of their babies heads! When my child was young my mother told me to be sure to " TO SHAPE HIS HEAD!" I was stunned, what was she talking about? "A child's head is soft and you must shape it by truning it each day so that it does ot have a flat side or back. So each night I would make sure that I turned his little face in the opposite direction form the night before. Also, I made sure that I held him instead of flattening his head in the car seat all day. THis extra holding also helped in his emotional development because of the human intraction that a carseat can not give to a baby. "THE PROFESSIONALS" tell young mothers put your child in the back seat facing away from you! HOw many house of human connestions are this generation of children loosing out on making a human connection like our children did as they starred at out faces as we drove places. The personal tender connections between a mother and child driving was important for a child to develped interpersoanl skills. Now days the children are starring at a back window for hours!
In years past a child was held in a mother's loving arms at the doctors office, in church, while visiting with guest of family, while attending older siblings school functions, in the evening after dinner, in the morning while striaghtening up the house, and YES even in the car! Because of this the only time a child head hit the flat surface was when he was put in the bed at night and every mother knew to SHAPE" their child's head. Now everytime I see a child he or she is in a car seat. I mother will shop all day on a Saturday and the poor child is having a 6 hours head flattening session. In a carseat being carried into a store, being carries out of a store, being carried into church, being carries out of church, being carried into the doctor's office being carried out of the doctors office, while mother is shopping, and while mother is even in the room the babies of the 21 century are just carseat babies!!
AND we wonder why so many children now have problems connecting with a human face or connecting with any face. I believe the issue is during the time that children of the past were making human connections by being held -children now days are making connections with toys that parents hang over their carseats-nice by not a human connection.
I believe that if Autism is defined as the inability to not make connections with other humans or children that are in their own little worlds then as mothers we need to see it for what it is. Check your self-how many hours a day do your spend with your child -in his face making him make human connections. As babies, their brians are developing dendrites to recognize and connect with the outside world around them. It is an important time in an infants life. As mothers you must be sure that your child is making those all important connections with other human faces. NOT DANGLING TOYS!!
WE must resist the urge to constantly be leaving our children in carseats instead of holding them and making important emotional face connections by holding our children and not demoting our children to being carseats kids for their first 12 months of their life.
Not only will their heads be flat but their minds will not have had the important opportunities to make human connestions with the caregivers that encourage babies to make personal connections, develope language skills, identify shapes, learn trust, develope coping skills and develope spacial visiability skills that occur when you hold your child.
The most damanging thing I have seen are the mothers that hold their children on their bodies but facing away from them as they feed their children! This feeding-bonding time is so important to human conections. The baby does not have the opportunity to gaze at mother's face and make the important connections necesary for human development. Why would a woman do this-reflux I am told.
I predict that we will begin to see many babies with helmets, Not the helmets necessary for those infants that are working on medical bone abnormal growth patterns but for babies with a need to shape the head due to a condition I call Carsest Kids. New mothers have not been told about HEAD SHAPPING and that along with being told to place them on their backs it stands to reason that many of the 21 century generation of children will be the HEAD HELMENT generation,
Just like it was tubes for my generation, because no one breast fed and they babies were all allergiv to formula or cow's milk but we did not know to have our children tested. They were just labeled as sick! If I had know to have my child tested for allergies, at that time it was not a common thing for a doctor to order the test, I would have saved my child hours of pain and sickness. Now years later, we know he is allergic to all cephalosporians, antibotics, animals dander, mold, tomato items, chchlor, septra, kelflex, bactruim,pedeazole, supra, suprax, augmentin, vakamyicin, tetracycline, and surgrey tape, adheisives, and the list goes on and on. You can mnot blame yourself for not knowing but once you do know you must act accordingly.
SO A. listen to your doctor and if he needs a helmet??? Get it now while HE DOES NOT does not know he is wearing it and just you will have the feelings of OH MY POOR CHILD HE IS IN A HELMET! If you don't correct the problem he will be call names as he grows older and children will notice his flat head and call him "frankinstine" and I know you don't want that for your little one. IN the mean time keep him off of flat surfaces as much as you can. (I hate to see a baby with hair loss on the back of their head because you just know thy have spent TOO much time on their backs!) ALso shape his head by turning his head to the left and right each night. By the time a chid naturally turns himself over in his bed at night he has the capability to get his nose unstuck from being sufficated so again shape his head by turning it as he sleeps from left to right during the night.
Keep Mothering,
Ms C.