Baby Shower for Triplets....

I think the question here is, how much are you wiling to help her out? Usually you get someone something for #1 and it is passed down through subsequent children, that won't happen now so she will need 3 of everything. If she's a good friend, give as much as you can because it will never be enough. There's nothing wrong with used things from a place like Once Upon a Child and you may be able to find 3 like-items in perfect condition. What she'll need most of is diapers, wipes, bottles or pump accessories, etc...the every day things. It's easy to find cheap clothes on clearance, get her the things she will need that never drop much in price.

Hi C.,
My friend had twins and me and all my girlsfriends spent a little more just because there was 2. I think instead of $50 per person we spent $75 per person. Are you guys throwing the shower because if you are my invitation business is listed in the business section. I have some really cute triplet shower invites and favors. Its not often that I get requests for triplets so let me know if I can help! Thanks
D.
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First of all its great to see someone with the same name spelling as me, I am sure you can appreciate that...LOL.

I would say you should spend what you can afford, for me that would be what I would spend if it was one baby.

So if three friends were pregnant at the same time, would you divide their gifts by 3 too? I guess I'd have to hear more about the disagreement to know what to say. Obviously everyone has a limited amount they can spend, and sometimes people are more generous because their budgets are larger, and sometimes that's not possible. But I'm sure there must be some way to take whatever is available and get nice gift(s), no matter how many babies are involved. Each baby does deserve their own gift. There's no rule that says that you have to spend x dollars for even one baby, but I do think it's rude, if your friend(s) are doing that, to make a point of saying, "you get less because you're a triplet."

And triplets is a good reason to be generous - their parents will have a lot of expenses all at the same time!

Oh, and I meant to add that maybe it's time for the friends to buy their own gifts. If you don't have one particular big item in mind (and that should be a shower-by-shower decision) , why put yourself through the aggravation - just go to the store and buy what you want to buy.

I Believe you spend what you can afford.Everyone has a different Income situation.I dont think a set amount should be put into place.

What I think is that if you can spend a little more than do it but if you don't have the money to spend just try your best in what you can get. I see you have a set of twins you will be some help in this. You also have a boy/girl set. i also have a boy/girl set and what i think is try to get the the same swings or something like that b/c that was a life saver for me. I hope the best. let us know what goes on

I would definately spend for 3...

In my honest opinion, I would buy for each child what you normally would spend on a gift for a singleton. These children are going to have a lifetime of being clumped together as "the triplets" as it is.
I think it's kind of cheap to get something less, because she is having more than one baby. Even if you were to all add in 50 dollars extra of what you normally would spend, you could get her some wonderful gifts that she could use.
I would also ask the mom what she would like the most, and definitely go off of her registry. If you want to do only one big gift, then add diapers and wipes as small extra gifts. She will need a lot. I would avoid buying clothes at all costs- she will get enough of those.

I personally would spend the cost for all three babies. You have to remember that her registry is going to be three of everything and she will be continuously spending for 3... diapers, wipes, clothes, etc. She is going to have her hands full, so it would be nice to help out with the financial burdens that come with having multiples. :)

As a mom of triplets, 18 months old now, I couldn't have a baby shower due to my bed rest but I did register for gifts because I knew people would want to send things to us when the babies arrived. Most people bought gifts for each of the babies - clothes, bottles, blankets, boppies, bouncy chairs, etc. - the smaller ticket items. If it was a higher priced ticket item, like a car seat or high chair or playyard, some people sent one and others sent all three. Quite honestly, you should spend what you're comfortable with. As the recipient, I was happy and grateful for anything that was given to us. IMHO, without knowing your financial situation, if you're going in collectively, it would seem like there would be the opportunity to spend a little more and get something for each child or focus on a higher ticket item that all the children will use.

Since you are going in as a group, maybe you could all put in a little more than usual and you can purchase some bigger, much needed items. Being a mother of twins yourself, you know what they will need x3 !!

Hi C.! I have an idea of a great gift you can all go in on that she would really need--you can give her the services of a postpartum doula! This is a woman who assists the mother and family during the postpartum period. She can help with breastfeeding, infant nutrtion, sleep training, and even laundry & light housekeeping. Mostly she makes sure Mom is hydrated, nourished, and well-rested. Most women that hire doulas are moms of twins or multiples, but they can't always afford a doula on their own. So, this would be a very generous and thoughtful way to welcome her to motherhood. I'm a postpartum doula in Palatine, and I would love to work with you to secure postpartum care for your friend. If you're interested, I'd love to hear from you! Good luck!

~A. Mattes
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Hello - i see you have twins - so you were in the same boat as i was for a baby shower... how did you feel about your gifts? i appreciated getting 2 of everything, not sure if people spent more or the same on my twins - but they got one gift for the girl and the matching gift for the boy... your friend is going to need all the help they can get to manage 3 kids at the same time, so my suggustion is spend what you can on practical gifts that will help make their day smoother... and i would get one for each kid - whatever you are buying... it adds up so i am sure you might have to spend a little more.. Best of luck!!

I would spend a little more. You could always go in on a gift card to Babies R Us or something like that. That would be great because then the new mommy could get what she needed. If you can't afford to buy for all three, that would be the way to go. I got a lot of really useless stuff at my baby shower (with no gift receipts) and I really wish people had just given us gift cards. Does she have a registry? Make sure you buy off that if she does. Also, a lot of stores will give the new mommy a discount off anything that's left on the registry. I think Babies R Us and Target is 15%. They'll send the coupon in the mail a few weeks after the shower.

C.,

Whatever you spend is up to you & your friends, but you should give a gift for three IE: 3 sleepers, 3 onesies, etc. or give one larger gift they can all use IE: changing table, swing, etc.

B.

I would spend what I could afford. But I might also try and invent ways to help the soon to be family. I'm sure it was hard for you to raise twins with another child. What were some of the things after the baby was born that you could have really used? Maybe someone to come over and help you? That was free that would have just given there time. Maybe even bring over a dinner. Maybe just making the coupons for the family as to a couple things you could help with. I decided that if a close friend has a baby and they dont have a cleaning person then I will get them a cleaning person fr a day after the baby arrives. Just one day away from chaos would have been great for me:)
The host of my shower had bought a bunch of onesies and everyone at the shower decorated them. I thught it was a great idea. What about coming up with a book of everything you wish you would have known before having more than one? I think someone on this site was putting together a book for a girlfriend having her first baby. I think people gave her a ton of quotes to put in the book. Good Luck....It doesnt always cost a lot of money...

C.~
Your a mom to twins (as am I) and I guess you should ask yourself at your babyshower did you get gifts or items for both of the twins or just one of them. Since you have an idea of how much everything cost with having twins I think you would be a little more willing to spend for all 3 of her babies. You could be the "voice of reason" here since your group of friends may look to you for advice since your a Mom to multiples as well.

I loved all the gift cards I got so I could buy the double stroller, 2 infant car seats, diapers & wipes....

The group could pick one "big" item and split it up and that could cover all 3 babies as well.

Just my thoughts....

J.

I agree with the "spend what you can afford" tactic, but also, giving something for all three babies. If the budget is tight, buy one "something" they can all play with, and then make it personal. Maybe three baby books, or photo albums, or maybe an advice book for mom-to-be. The personal things will last a lifetime, and they are heartfelt.

You should spend for 3 since it's 3 little babies that will need 3 of everything.

I too say spend what you can afford. Personally as a stay at home mom of almost 5 for us that would be about 20-25. For a baby shower you usually know one is coming up lol so as I am out I will try and get stuff on sale or clearance cause who doesn't love browsing through the itty bitty baby stuff:) so I can gift more with less I would love to be able to buy for 3 since it is 3 individuals but we are always broke:) I would spend more though maybe 50-ish and get as much as I could. How much did you spend together on the last gifts you went on in? I would just say I know normally we spend $ but since they need three of everything and since we all can afford different amounts those that can pitch in more feel free too and those that can't maybe you can help out with meals and other non-monetary ways. It also depends on your circle of friends for me I know some single moms who 20 is alot for them, other D.I.N.K.S that 100 is no problem for them. For us we just all do what they can and we all feel it's the thought that counts. Heck we consider recycled/thrifted items a great gift. But I know others like my sil circle of friends that it's all about the $ and someones nose would get bent out of shape if so and so spent $ and the other only spent $. Good luck my sisters baby shower is coming up and I'm wondering how much I'm supposed to get her lol