I'm just wondering how you other mom's felt when you were pregnant with baby number 2? The first pregnancy with my now 13 month old son went great. I was happy all the time, no highs and lows. But this 2nd time around I am so up and down... one min fine and happy and then sad and crying. I guess it doesn't help that we're stressed with financial issues. Let me know how you felt.
honestly i felt better with my second than the first, though i did get emotional where i heard about other babies or watched shows about them. but you should talk to your doctor, so you can enjoy your pregancy. i sah too.
I felt the same way with my second. You think you are supposed to be super happy and then you start to feel guilty because you don't all the time. Don't be h*** o* yourself. I chalk it up to hormones and if you have a 13 month old your hormones and body haven't gotten back to normal yet and you are pregnant again which has gotten your hormones all crazy again. My son was 14 months old when I got pregnant, and I had just started losing weight from being pregnant with him, and I actually felt a little devastated about the news.
I love both of my kids just the same and it just means you are a normal woman with emotions. Make sure you take care of yourself and get plenty of rest. It will make your life a lot easier if you can nap when your little one naps. Please watch after you have your new baby. I did have postpartum depression after I had my daughter, and tried to ignore it. It is ok to tell someone you need some help if you are feeling very sad. I let it go to long and was almost crying all of the time. I finally got on some antidepressants and could have kicked myself for waiting so long to get something. You might talk to your ob if you are worried about it. I believe that I actually had the depression before I had my 2nd. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself, and enjoy the alone time with your little boy, because when the next one gets here it will get a little more hectic.
Good luck, and if you need an understanding ear please let me know. I would love to listen.
A.
This is completely normal. Keep in mind that every pregnancy is different just as every person is different.
With my first, I was physically miserable. But, it was easier physically with my second (to an extent as I was still pretty sick throughout my entire pregnancy). But, emotionally, I think I may have been worse during my second.
If you are stressed about things such as finances, this can play a role in your emotions pregnant or not. But, you also didn't have another child to add into the mix before. Be patient with yourself and give the Lord thanks for allowing you to feel these ebbs and flows of emotions. That means your hormones are hard at work keeping that little blessing within your womb growing, healthy and happy. :) I know it's hard to do but well worth it in the end. You'll be able to look back and think of how positive of an experience you have had. :)
(((hugs)))
God bless,
A.
You have to also remember that with your first one, you had the freedom to relax, both mentally and physically, and also to get good nights of sleep. Now that you already have a child, you're at someone's beck and call, and not able to pamper yourself the way you could before. It's harder, plain and simple, to be pregnant with a second child. When I was pregnant with my first, I could lay around and take naps when I was tired, eat in peace, read, take long baths, all the good stuff! Then, during my second pregnancy (which I found out about when my first was 6 months old) I was up during the night, being woken up in the mornings, having to be on my feet during most of the day, couldn't even go poop without having a baby follow me in and pull herself up by pulling on my jeans, and couldn't eat in peace for more than 30 seconds. You'll get through this, but you have to stop comparing this pregnancy with your first one. They couldn't be under more different of circumstances.
The same thing happened to me with baby #3. With my first 2 I was happy all the time, but with #3 I would cry at the drop of a hat. I talked to my OB about it, and she put me on Effexor. It worked wonders. I am not one to take medication, especially an anti-depressant, but it did work. I continued to take it until about 3mo after and weaned myself off. I have not had to take it since(more than 4yrs.) The funny thing is I was the exact same age as you at the time. Don't get down on yourself about it. Things will improve! Good luck!
Hi S.,
I got pregnant with my 2nd when my daughter was 3 months - afer yrs of infertility we decided to try for one yr never suspecting it could happen so soon!! ;)
My biggest struggle was feeling like I was cheating them both of enough time and attention since for month 3 to 6 with my dd I was sooooo tired and nausious.
Now I am pregnant with my 3rd and feel GREAT, I am so busy and get tired but have a sitter that helps evenings 4 to 8 and it has become my lifeline :) My time to rest, shop, catch up on the phone or emails etc etc.
Amy
Hi S. -
I just posted a question that is similar to yours... I had a great first pregnancy with a boy and now, 9 weeks into my second pregnancy - I'm sick as a dog and pretty much insane. So you aren't alone... hang in there!
M.
