Ashley, from Real Housewives of NJ, What Would You Do??

Updated on May 02, 2012
M.Q. asks from Perris, CA
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Hello friends. For those of you who are familiar with the show, what would you do if you were in Jacqueline's shoes? I actually feel really bad for Ashley sometimes, I feel that she doesn't know where her home is, I feel that she is so lost. I think that sometimes both mom & dad are enablers, and then they punish her. I also see that they DO try to discipline her and they try to talk to her but it doesn't work. Last night I was watching the 2nd new episode where jackie goes in ashley's room and they played video's of her as a baby and I was bawling. I have 4 daughters and It would absolutely break my heart for one of them to feel like ashley does. Then they sent her away to Las Vegas, and jackie didn't even give her a hug or kiss as she left.

If I were in their shoes I would allow her to live at home, but she would not have a car and she would have a strict curfew, she would have to work and pay for her own stuff like clothes and going out. I know she's 20, but that's how it would work in my home. WWYD??

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YES i think she look bad in blonde and I think she must have used the same horrible lip doc as her mom. Neither one of them needed it.

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J.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

I am not sure what I would do. I can see both pros and cons to sending her away. If I had a family member that loved my kid enough to offer her to go stay with them in the attempt to help my daughter see another side of the situation, well I just might take them up on that offer. It really depends on how bad the situation is. I dont think we see even close to the whole situation, so it's hard to tell, and I can't judge them for their decision. Do I feel bad for Ashlee sometimes, sure, because she's still a child. I also feel bad for the parents and step parents as well, after all kids don't come with instructions. They seem to all co-parent and love her enough to want to help, and I hope they find a way to help her.
Jacqueline said Ashlee had been calling her drunk from the city and needed them to pick her up. So underage drinking, and reckless behavior might have been the cherry on the cake. It seems to me that Ashlee is stuck in a rut. She's got her group of friends and wants to party. She needs to start taking some responsibility, and some initiative for her life. Maybe being removed from her group of friends will help that.
I did watch the follow up show "Watch what happens, live" and Caroline Manzo said Ashlee's back now and better then ever. She also said she went back to brunette.
I love the Real Housewives series. It's my "me" time. Tonight is OC for me, lol. =)

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A.S.

answers from Boca Raton on

I am hooked on RHNJ . . . sigh.

Of course there is copious editing by the show producers, but I usually feel sorry for Ashlee (yes she did change the spelling of her name).

Jacqueline seems somewhat oblivious to how her husband's family "piles on" when it comes to her daughter. Of course Ashlee is not like Albie et al - she didn't grow up the way they did!

It would be a COLD day in hell before I'd let my husband's family criticize my child from my previous marriage. Luckily for us (and them) they are wonderful to him. And I'm sure the Manzo crowd thinks they have been wonderful to Ashlee. But it really is NOT their place to criticize, poke fun, etc. All that does is allow them to feel superior to Jacqueline (wake up Mom).

I also don't like the way Jacqueline and Ashlee (who is a legal adult) allow the show to exploit this difficulty for ratings.

JMO.

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B.M.

answers from Dallas on

The thing you have to keep in mind here is that you see a small snipped of what was actually filmed on these types of shows. They show what they want to show you to increase the drama.

I'm very doubtful that Jacqueline didn't even give her a hug or kiss when she left....they just didn't show that part. Quite frankly, that kid seems like she needed a wake-up call and some tough love (from what they showed us of course) :)

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K.G.

answers from Boca Raton on

I LOVE THESE SHOWS!!!
On that note, I think Jacqueline needs to get off this show and REALLY work on her relationship with her daughter (therapy).. Ashley is rebelling and probably feels she doesn't have place in her home with her mom's "new family and kids".. It is very sad...

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V.R.

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As a mother of girls myself, you only know what you see. What you say makes sense..but what do you do if they are not willing to stay within the boundaries you and your husband has set for her. What if she says and does and goes where she wants to when she wants to with who she wants to. Telling your daughter she needs to leave is the hardest thing in the world. A family member either contributes or contaminates a family, and although I agree with you that they are enabling Ashley, but there comes a time when Ashley needs to step up. She is doing nothing with her life..and sometimes the only way is to open the door and push them out. I;m thinking perhaps some time with Dad...along with a date for her to get her s*** together might work...but it's gonna be some tough love along the way.
So until you have raised your children..and know what's ahead of you..please know that difficult times are ahead and now is the time to instill the values. I think that is where Jacqueline missed the boat..

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N.G.

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OMG... I just can't bring myself to watch those shows. But I'm not judging, I went through a stint of 'Bad Girls Club'. For shame...

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K.L.

answers from Des Moines on

First off, she spells her name Ashlee now...she legally changed it! Geez, get it right! ;) (that was a joke...i know there could be some sensitive moms on here who might not see that!). Kind of makes me sad that I know that...but I LOVE the housewives of New Jersey! I would have kicked her out too! She's a brat and needs to do some growing up. After all the stuff they have given her, she doesn't seem to appreciate it and doesn't realize all she has!

Anyone else think she looks terrible with the blonde hair and very plumped lips???

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