Are You in Your 30'S and Do You Feel like the Time Is Just Flying By?

Updated on May 26, 2011
R.S. asks from Chicago, IL
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For everyone in their 30-something stage of life...I'm just wondering if it ever just suddenly hit you that wow...you weren't in your 20's anymore...life is moving on...you're actually a woman! I feel like the last 10 years just passed by in a heartbeat. One second i was this carefree 20 year old enjoying campus life---(thin, pretty) and then boom, I'm now 36, a wife, mom...a few tiny wrinkles here and there...it sort of scares me how fast it all went, and i'm just curious if anyone feels the same.

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Wow, thanks! I don't feel so alone anymore!!

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T.N.

answers from Albany on

Yes, I vaguely remember my 30s. Yes it goes fast. Trouble is it goes FASTER after THAT! Revel in every second!

:)

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J.L.

answers from Chicago on

Yep...Got married and been pregnant most of my thirties......Gonna hit that milestone soon...Luckily no crows feet yet....Thank you Mom's genes...LOL

Now just have to work harder to shed these extra pounds....UGH...EWWW it was so much easier in my 20's..... :)

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A.P.

answers from Chicago on

Totally feel the same way!! Even in my 20's I still felt like a teen on the inside. Now at 35, I feel like I am in my 30's on the inside too and it is depressing! LOL I hate having to come to terms that I am now a "grown up mom" and probably the young cute 21 year olds consider me old!! haha. And the years are flying by! I wish I had the sense of time as kids do, when one week took FOREVER and summer vacation lasted FOREVER!

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L.B.

answers from Biloxi on

It's okay, eventually you will be in your 40s and say "Oh, wow, where did my 30s go".

I am 46 - I think it happens to us with each decade. We reach an age and marvel at how we got there. I am looking at the short side of 50, and am amazed that, while, I look different on the outside, I am really the same 26 year old girl on the inside.

Life changes,
look back with pleasure at where you came from and forward with excitement of where you are going.

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M.L.

answers from Colorado Springs on

I have news for you mamas. It goes even faster the older you get! That's not necessarily bad news. (Remember how B-O-R-E-D you could get in the space of ten minutes when you were a kid?)

But it's good to be aware. Time goes on no matter what you're doing - or not doing - with it. It is not your creation. It won't stop for you. So use each minute wisely. Even if you can't control its speed, you can sometimes control its content. Think a lot, pray a lot, smile a lot, laugh a lot, learn a lot, work a lot, play a lot, listen a lot, look a lot, hug a lot! And tell your family and friends you love them a lot.

And if you have one of those nasty mirrors that magnifies your wrinkles ten times their size, get rid of it!

I turned 65 (yikes!) a few weeks ago, and am officially "old people." Only yesterday, it seems, I had my first baby. Last month my first baby's first baby turned a decade old! :^)

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A.L.

answers from Charleston on

Hee Hee - just wait until you turn 40! I think it happens with each decade. But I will tell you this - I felt so much more powerful and self assured when I turned 30, and then again with 40. I think you begin to truly understand yourself, instead of trying to understand others. Embrace your age. Look back on those 20's with love, but look forward to all you have yet to experience and learn in the years to come. :)

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

It will always feel like that. No matter your age. You'll be saying the same thing about your 30's when you're 45.
Life is short and goes by really fast. Make yours count.
Then you will feel pride at the small wrinkles and laugh lines!

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K.E.

answers from Denver on

it's terrifying how quickly the time passes. I was lying in bed this morning with my kiddos thinking - I'm going to be 37 in two months - how is that possible? then I fast forwarded to ten years from now - turning 47 - and my kiddos turning 17 and 12 - and wanted to cry. Someone once said "the days are long, the years are short" and it's so true.

:-)

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C.J.

answers from Milwaukee on

It gets faster in your 40s!

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R.D.

answers from Richmond on

Okay, don't lynch me here, I'm 27, BUT... I had my first baby at 19. I didn't even 'get' my 20's. I've got stretch marks, gray hairs, bags under my eyes... I don't think age makes as much difference as life experience does. I have an old heart and soul :) I grew up really fast.... BUT, I'm actually looking forward to my 30's!! All my friends are 12+ years older than me, so they're all pushing 40... I feel like my 30's are going to be the best years of my life, and I can't wait to embrace it! I really hope I can maintain this mentality and 'age gracefully'... My fiance's mom is almost 70, and she is GORGEOUS. I'll be lucky if I look 1/2 that good at that age!! But I do look forward to trying. Aging doesn't scare me for some reason, it excites me :) Now maybe that's easy for me to say at 27, but like I said, as far as life experiences I believe age is just a number, not be confused with maturity level :)

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J.S.

answers from Chicago on

Just wait until you're in your 40s. Each day is a blur.

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A.V.

answers from Washington DC on

I'm turning 34 in a couple of weeks and am thinking, "Where did it all go?!" I've been married almost 8 years, had a baby a few years back...not that I was all that "carefree" in my 20s but wow, did they fly. What gets me is looking in the mirror and seeing my mom (or her 30s self, anyway).

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L.Z.

answers from Boston on

I absolutely feel that way. It could be partially my "stage" in life - teaching for 14 years, married for 10, mom to two, but I also think it's the fact that when you have kids, time just goes much faster. I was warned about this when I had my first but I didn't believe it! Everyone was right! It is fun and great to be settled, more confident, more sure of what I want, but sad that I made some decisions when I was younger (early 30s) that I now regret but can't change. It's a "if I only knew then what I know now" kind of feeling. I'm happy that I am picky about friends now and therefore I have good ones, but it's depressing that working out and eating really well just don't give me the same physical results that I had when I was in my 20s.

So yeah, to sum up, just a mixed bag over here, but I agree with you 100%.

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S.H.

answers from St. Louis on

it happens for each decade....not just 30!

for years now, I've been called "sister" when out with my Mom.....I hate it! I want to be my sister's sister......so I colored my hair this spring. Nope, still happening! Totally sucks....& of course, Mom laughs hysterically every time!

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S.G.

answers from Norfolk on

Yes, I do feel exactly the same!! The last 10 years went by in the blink of any eye. It feels like yesterday I was going out bar-hopping, getting married, living on a boat in San Diego. And then BAM I am supposed to be...what? A grown-up? Sometimes I don't feel like one, that's for sure. The only things that keep me from getting freaked out by getting older are knowing that 1. it's inevitable, 2. it's better than the alternative (death) and 3. I like myself better than I did in my 20's, even though I now have a had-two-kids belly. I'm a lot more comfortable with myself, and God knows I am SO glad to not be "out there" in the singles scene. I guess I'm saying I try to look at the bright side.

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M.R.

answers from Chicago on

I'm 37 and yes...it does!

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M.W.

answers from San Francisco on

I am turning 36 next week and I totally feel the same way soooo I try my darndest to slow things down by not filling my days with busyness. The days were slow when we were kids because we were able to enjoy the minutes playing and exploring. I try to play and explore as much as possible with my kids and see life through their eyes. We do not schedule our days with structured sports or activities....only occasionally.

I take time each day for myself, which is usually early in the morning while running ,to reflect and enjoy the beauties around me. I also take time to smell the roses...really...I menally tell myself to stop and smell them and it sparks something inside of me to keep life balanced and in perspective.

The wrinkles keep me grounded in knowing I am not still 21 and that with age comes experience and perspective...but as long as I FEEL 21 then that is all that matters. Age has given me sooo much confidence so that I live for me and my family and don't gauge our successes or failures up against those around me.

Enjoy everyday.. and btw....I hear the 60's are the best years ...so I look forward to growing up..hee..hee!

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S.L.

answers from Dallas on

Yes I feel the same way that time has just flown by. One day I was a 30 year old working wife & mom to 1, now 34 is creeping up on me and I am an even busier working wife and mom shuttling an 8 yr old boy everywhere and trying to keep up with a wild 2 year old!

A.G.

answers from Houston on

no but i am almost 30 and not looking forward to feeling like that.!

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V.V.

answers from Houston on

I'm 36 too and feel the same way! I can't believe I'm almost to 40!

K.I.

answers from Los Angeles on

I am 33...34 in 6 days and I have absolutely realized that the older you get and once you have kids, time FLIES!

~Remember what it was like when we were kids? Thinking everything took FOREVER and how we couldn't wait to be older?

I am hoping that at a certain older age time might slow back down a bit? Fingers crossed. It can't stay at this rate or I am gonna be 60 before I know it.

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M.I.

answers from Albuquerque on

Yep, I'm 37 and I was just thinking the other day, geez, I'm going to be 40 in 3 years. I used to think 40 sounded old but I don't really feel old. Weird, but yeah time flies!

F.H.

answers from Phoenix on

I'm 44 now but when I was 39 and having serious issues with my husband is when it really hit me. One day I just woke up and said OMG, I'm 39 and I'm unhappy and I don't want me and my kids living like this. I litterally called my mom to keept the kids overnight and I kicked my husband ou tand immediately divorced him. My life is so much better, happily married to a wonderful man (7 years younger!!) who takes great care of me and the kids. But literally it was my "Ah Ha" moment. I also decided to remove all negative peopel and things from my life...and the last 5 years have been awesome!! :o)

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S.Y.

answers from Tampa on

Today is my 31st birthday...I am feeling it...it is harder then when I turned 30!! :(

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J.C.

answers from New York on

Yes, absolutely. My thirties are flying - oh, wait, I'm now 40!!

It seemed like my teen years and early twenties went on forever. Now, the time is flying by.

I remember thinking 40 was so old. I look at my nieces and nephews and think they must look at me and think - wow, she's old.

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