Are the Positions of My Daughter's Piercings Off?

Updated on July 19, 2016
S.L. asks from Garden Grove, CA
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Hi,
First time mom here and I finally mustered up the courage to take my 10-month-old daughter to get her ears pierced yesterday for her upcoming birthday. Yes I know I should have waited for her to make her own decision when she's older but this is to ensure she won't remember the pain, please don't judge me. Her ears are healing fine, however, it is bugging me to no end that the piercings are slightly uneven. The left side is on the lobe but it wasn't where they marked it in the first place, and is lower.
The right side is a bit high and if you look at her straight, it doesn't seem to be on the lobe, although looking at it from certain angles it isn't so bad. I was relieved that we got the piercings done and didn't notice until we got home. My family only gives bias opinions because they don't want her going through the pain again, but they do notice the slight unevenness. Even so, they said it's ok and not noticeable. Do you guys think the positions of the piercings are off if looking at it individually (see picture links)? I mean, is this where the piercings should be? I understand that our ears are not identical, but it's stressing me out that they are not in the center of the lobe. I hated the fact that I'm feeling this way and I know it's selfish of me, I don't want her going through the trouble again and yet I'm afraid that when she gets older she will notice the unevenness. I don't want to fail her.
Right side (looks ok from this angle). Do you guys think it's a bit high?
http://tinypic.com/r/2j6369/9
Left ( notice how it's not on the dot). Is it too low?
http://tinypic.com/r/23wpoo9/9

I don't know what to do, should I take them out and let them close up and get them re-pierced when it's all healed? I hope it's not that noticeable and that she will be fine when she's older. Please help, I'm going crazy here! Thanks in advance!

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J.C.

answers from Philadelphia on

They look good to me. I wouldn't give it a second thought. No one will ever study her ears the way you are.

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R.B.

answers from San Francisco on

Just take them out and they will heal over quickly. You won't see a scar from a tiny hole. Then have them re-pierced at a later stage. If you think the piercings are crooked, they are. Our opinion doesn't matter.

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T.S.

answers from San Francisco on

I won't click on any unknown links here but I'm sure it's fine. I got my ears pierced when I was 9 and the left ear was slightly lower on the lobe than the right. I don't enjoy pain (even as an adult) so I just got over it, years ago.
Your baby is a human being not a dress up doll so stop treating her like one. If it bothers her when she's older she can get it redone, problem solved.

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L.G.

answers from San Antonio on

The right one looks off, same thing happened to my daughter, I took the one that was off out and let it heal, I then measured and marked it myself and had it repierced. I've seen girls with uneven piercings and did not want the same.

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T.D.

answers from Springfield on

to look at each individual ear is not giving a clear picture of how it really looks. i know my holes are off. but i am also not perfect so the offness of the earrings is not noticeable when looking at the whole. but if you look at them side by side and without a face in the middle you would notice for sure.
either post a pic of both ears together or decide for yourself if it looks well enough to leave it alone. you could also visit a different jewlry store that does pierce and ask their opinion.

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S.W.

answers from Amarillo on

We can't see your daughter's ears. Perhaps she moved when they were going to pierce the ear lobes. No telling what happened.

As TF said there are much more critical things to worry about than earrings in ears.

The only reason my daughter her ears pierced when she did was because I knew of a friend whose child played with her ears and got them infected at age 5. So they had to let them close up. I don't know if she did them again as an older child as they moved away (military).

Just let it be.

the other S.

PS My daughter has more piercings but she did them and the pain was on her not me. She is now 39.

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G.♣.

answers from Springfield on

I looked at both pics, and I thought they looked the same.

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J.C.

answers from New York on

I think it looks fine.

But if you do decide to let it heal and re-pierce, go to a tattoo place that does piercing. They won't screw it up like a mall store will.

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E.B.

answers from Honolulu on

As she gets older, she'll probably wear bigger earrings than the tiny studs they put in at a piercing. They hide any small differences. Plus, her ears will change as she grows older, and she can always get a second piercing.

I think you're stressing about something that is extremely insignificant.

Is she healthy? Can she crawl, or sit, and babble? Does she laugh? Does she look at you and reach for your hugs? Does she eat and try to stuff a Cheerio in her mouth? Does she have a toy that she loves? Does she have a grandma or grandpa or auntie or a cousin or a daddy or other people that love her?

If you can answer yes to any of those questions, then count your blessings and forget that possibly one of her ear lobes has a piercing that is a millimeter different from the other.

Learn now to relax about the small stuff, and focus on teaching her to be a kind, compassionate, friendly, sharing, loving child. If a possible uneven piercing job makes you crazy, you are in for a ton of trouble ahead. Starting today, help yourself to learn to forget the small things. Say it out loud. "Yes, it's possible that her ear piercings are slightly uneven. But I'm blessed to have a baby, to be able to hold her and love her, to have the freedom to take her to get her ears pierced instead of sitting at her hospital bedside wondering if there will be a tomorrow, and I give myself permission to overlook a slight imperfection."

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J.C.

answers from Anchorage on

It is hard to tell when we can not see them both at the same time, but if one feels off to you then take it out and let it heal and then get it redone as soon as it heals up, or take them both out and get them redone whenever. I got mine done at 1 and I love the fact that I can go for months and months without wearing earrings and they never close up, my son got his done at 3 and after a few years are the same way, they just close in the back a little. I understand why people say to wait and let kids choose, but my son came to me and asked at 3 so I let him. The pain is so minimal, if they look off then I would get it fixed for sure. Contact the place and maybe they will redo that one for free in a couple of weeks after it heals.

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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

I'm not a fan of getting little kids ears pierced.
My Mom made me wait till I was 16.
I have just one hole in each lobe - and that's fine.
My sister was allowed to get hers done at the same time as me (so she got it at 14) and as an adult she's had many piercings - so many she's had to have some reconstructive surgery on her ears to repair some damage.
No one agrees with me but I think 16 is a good age.
Nothing is left for a rite of passage of growing up anymore - and that's just such a shame.

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N.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

I would pick one, then let the other one grow up. I'd also take her back the place that did them and ask for a certificate to have them redone when it's safe. Then pick the best one and take the other earring out.

I had my girl's done when they were little too. I think it's fine to do it whenever you want.

By the way, the dots were completely crooked and you need to be happy they didn't pierce them on the dots. That would be horrible. That one is nearly inside her ear area!

Too bad we can't see them straight forward without the dots. Then we could tell you if they're awful or okay. I think they look perfectly fine, if you ignore the dots.

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A.M.

answers from Phoenix on

If they are uneven, I would take one out and let it heal up. Then have it re-pierced properly. It will be fine! My ears were pierced when I was tiny and I love it. I never have to worry about them closing up.

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R.A.

answers from Houston on

I think they look very different. The lower one looks way off to me. How you deal with it is up to you. I have no knowledge of how those heal in a very young child.

I hate the thought of her having to be pierced again though. I remember how much it hurt.

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M.P.

answers from Portland on

My granddaughter's ears have been pierced several times. If your daughter's piercing is uneven, I suggest that you leave them alone. Body proportion will change as she grows. Because you are focusing on the piercings now, any differences will stand out. Accept the possibility of differences and move on with life.

My granddaughter's ears were pierced near that age. Sometimes they looked even. Other times not. Just depended on the changes made by growth and how she held her head. Toddlers are always on the run. No one, but you, is going to notice her earring placement. My daughter took out the earrings when she was in or before kindergarton. I don't remember why. The holes healed over leaving no scar. Kids heal quickly.

Later, my granddaughter wanted.pierced ears. She had them pierced again. She later took them out and holes once more healed over. She's now 16 and has not had pierced ears for several years. She once more wants pierced ears and had it done a couple of weeks ago. Each time her ears are pierced, the piercings they may be in a slightly different place. Not a problem.

I was a young adult when I first had my ears pierced. I've let my piercings close up a couple of times. The first time they were redone, I asked them to be sure they're even. They did a better job of lining them up. Even tho they were a bit uneven the first time, I only noticed when I stared at the earrings for several seconds, looking to see if they were even.

My adult daughter has also let the holes heal up and later had them redone. As adults, the hole does scar up a bit but it's not noticable. For young children, there is no scar.

I suggest you just let this piercing be. I doubt they would redo it until the hole is healed, anyway. Otherwise, you risk damaging the lobe. Piercing is not permanent. Relax and enjoy your daughter.

A related comment. My granddaughter's first piercing was made with longer adult posts which pushed her lobes forward. Her lower lobes are still pushed forward. All of her siblings lobes are close to their heads. Apparently, her mom and I are the only ones to notice it. It's not a problem for my granddaughter.
I would be sure the post is short enough to not change the position of the ear lobes. I think there are now posts for babies available.

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