Anxiety & Scar Tissue

Updated on March 24, 2008
T.H. asks from Keller, TX
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Well, I have two request!! Get comfortable!!

My anxiety started 6 years ago with the stress of 2 young children my husband quitting his job and us moving. I ended up in the ER and nothing was really done about it. I struggled with it for about a year, with panic attacks almost every day. I thought I was dying. It was so scary. Anyway, my doctor put me on Lexapro. Which I thought was the best drug invented. I was a changed person overnight, but 5 years later my libido is, well.....zero!! And you know as well as I do, that doesn't go over very well with the hubby. He truly doesn't understand, he tries, but it is hard for him. I have been trying to get off the Lexapro for about a month now and using Xanax for break throughs, which is just about every day!! I'm very scared I'm going from one drug to the next. I've tried Wellbutrin and I cried the whole 3 weeks I was on it. Effexor made me crazy after one dose. I want off all the medication, but I honestly don't think it is possible. Has anyone done well after getting off this kind of medication. I don't have patience with my children or husband. Little things tend to set me off very easily. I do lots of exercising as an outlet and this is where my 2nd request comes in. I love yoga and pilates, but have been doing some hard core exercising, also...to keep my mind on other things. The problem is, I've had numerous surgeries including 2 c-sections, cysts and endomitriosis and tons of scar tissue removed. I'm very susceptible to scar tissue and adhesions and well I think it has come back with a vengence. After exercising I hope this isn't TMI...I have a lot of rectal discomfort, it is very painful and I think it is scar tissue that has attached itself to my rectum. I've been dealing with this problem since my hysterectomy 3 years ago and have had numerous tests including colonoscopy, they went in and looked at my bladder, x-rays and an MRI. They found NOTHING. I take a muscle relaxer that helps sometimes, but I'm tired of relying on drugs to get through everyday life. And, of course, with my anxiety issues....well, they are back!!! Have any of you gone through anything similar? I'm desparate for any recommendations!!

Thanks in advance for your time!!
T.

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Thank you, Mama's....the kindness all of you have shown me is overwhelming!!!! You cared enough to stop what you were doing and gave me some much needed advice!!! I thank you so much for this!! This was my first time to actually use this site for my own request and I have to say "I LOVE IT" I will talk to my doctor on Monday and tell him some of the things I learned from you sweet mama's!!!
Love to all of you!!!
T.

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L.S.

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I read this site to try to help me taper off of zoloft. There is an actual schedule of trying to get off these drups. Some tend to be more difficult than others. THere is a whole section on lexapro.

www.theroadback.org

I am going through some similar issues. Please feel free to email me if you need anything!

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J.I.

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On the scar tissue subject. You might want to see a gastro specialist. My mother had this for most of my life. The car tissue wrapped itself around her colon and blocked a good part of it. It messed her up to a point where at the end of January they had to remove her entire colon due to how notted up and twisted it had gotten with the scar tissue.

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C.G.

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I'm really sorry to hear about all that is going on with you (tear). Girl does your hubby have books on how he can help you? I know that feet massages and maybe some small toys won't hurt. A second opinion by a female Dr wouldn't hurt either. Sex is exercise if you try a little. I wasn't on anything and had a very slow sex drive. I'm 34 right now and I'm just starting to enjoy being with my hubby. We've been married almost 15 years. I've had long talks with him and will continue to. I do trust in God, and I talk myself down in times I get anxiety about things, by praying to Him.

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B.C.

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I can help with the anxiety. I too was on lexapro for a long time after dealing with panic disorder since I was 16. I am 31 now. I finally decided I didn't want to take the meds every day, so I stoped. And it is hard, girl! I find myself on the verge of panic attacks pretty frequently. I just have to remind myself that it is all a figment of my imagination, that my throat is not closing up, I am not having a heart attack, and none of it is real! It is not easy, sometimes I struggle for an hour or more, but it is better than feeling numb from the lexapro. Do you do deep breathing? Exercise is good.

Oh, and one more thing. Don't stop the lexapro abruptly, you will feel super wierd. Talk to your doctor about the best way to quit. I wish you the best. If I can do it anyone can!

B.

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A.F.

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Dearest T.,
My husband and I are both counselor's and see the struggle people have with medication and their side effects. My strongest advice is to find a GOOD psychiatrist and work together through the available drugs unil you find what works. There are so many drugs available you just need to find what works with your chemical makeup. I would do this until you have complete symptom control and find a counselor who specializes in anxiety. As coping skills improve you can start relying less on meds (under doctor supervision). Anxiety usually takes both meds and counseling to truly conquer!!! You can do it!

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P.F.

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It sounds to me like a good anti-depressant is necessary for you to function, it also sounds like you are expecting too much from yourself, given your medical history.....Stress, age and way too much to do in a day can also put a damper on your libido - not just meds! Maybe you just need to sit down with your physician and go over your symptoms, all of them and see what else might help. There is a medication called Cymbalta that you might research and ask about, it's an anti-depressant but helps with issues like anxiety and pain also.....good luck to you

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E.M.

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I can't help with the scar tissue. The anxiety and general well being I do have a sugestion for.Contact Pat Favire
in Sycamore Illnois. You can find the website with a google search. Keep in mind that after years of meds this may not work for you. DO discuss this with your physician. I do not know how dangerous it can be removing yourself from the meds. What I do know is that I smoked for 30 years
so I would not particiate in HRT. I felt it was too dangerous. I was impatient, intolerant,moody, emotional;
I felt awful. I suffered from other chronic conditions that did not impact my overall health but made life unpleasant. I take a supplement she made specifically for me. I am amazed - I feel great. My body works better than it ever has. My menopausal symptoms are gone. This is a safe method that works. Compared to HRT, this is cost effective also. I believe that you may find this helps you
as your symptoms are similar to menopause. Also, look up the website for Bonnie Meniske. She teaches how to eat and the impact of food on your body. You might also check and see if you have a sensitivity to wheat. Our family shares many of your symptoms and they are wheat related.
Good Luck.

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M.K.

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T.,
I have been dealing with Anxiety issues for many years--taken alot of the drugs you mentioned. I see Dr. Barry Knezek for medication(this is what his specialty is).I also
see a Counselor recommended by Dr. Knezek. His first visit
is high(similar to others though), but rest of visits aren't as high. Once he gets you on right meds, you usually only see him every 3 months.I also have dealt with scar tissue. Have you gone to any specialist for this problem or just your primary care doctor? I have had bladder surgery twice-last one by Dr. Alan Munoz. He pulled up vagina and bladder last time and he is good(he didn't do first surgery).
Hope some of this helps you. Maybe you could show your husband some of the info out there about antidepresants
causing low libido-its a very common side effect. Also, there is a great pill for anxiety attacks that disolves on
your tongue and works quickly.Dr. k gave me this pill this summer when I went on a trip--thats what I use for what you called "breakthroughs."
M.

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A.P.

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About the anxiety I have been on Lexapro for 4 years and love it. But now I have gained a lot of weight and I itch all over. The Dr sayes it is time to come off of the Lexapro. My body is rejecting it. The libido was bad for years, but I quit my job in Oct and stay home with all of my children now and it has gotten better. Your life sounds just like mine... I love the pilates and Yoga but have NO ENERGY!! Have your thyroid checked I have HYPOTHROID and take meds for it. I have started coming off the Lexapro this week, I guess I will see what happens.. I agree about the Effexor and the Wellburtin I have had the same issues.
What do we do??? A. P

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M.M.

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I would recommend trying acupuncture for the anxiety. It sounds like you are looking for a more hollistic approach, and this could also help with your libido. Good Luck!

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C.H.

answers from Dallas on

I was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder about 9 years ago, and know exactly what you're dealing with. I finally went to the doctor when I had struggled with the rapid heart beat, desire to take deep breaths and "overwheming" sensation long enough. After one night on Paxil, I was a changed person. I could finally sleep, and didn't continue to get up way before the alarm was even set. Over the years, I have tried to go off of medication, but unfortunately, the cause of true anxiety is a chemical imbalance in the brain, in which the receptors are not filling up with enough seratonin, before they are "swept" clean to avoid an overfill. Well, if your receptors aren't being filled in the first place, sweeping them clean sure isn't helping. :) Before you go through the trauma of high levels of anxiety again, I would recommend giving Paxil a try. Also, they make a Xanex CR that is helpful to take, in conjuction, when necessary. I hope this helps. Good luck.

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S.S.

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Three suggestions for you to consider in addition to continuing to surround yourself with authentic, non-judgmental community of friends and professionals who are committed to "whole body" wellness.

1st: Contact Dr. Kari Rollins at The Wellness Center on Forest Park in Fort Worth, TX to find complementary approach to balancing out your body's endocrine systems. And to explore the underlying sources and perpetuating factors in your physical and emotional challenges. (As you may know, holistic clinicians will not artificially compartmentalize these two perspectives.)

Your continued participation in whatever you decide will bring healthy exercise as well as other stress management tools into your daily life is important, but, again -- as you may already know, sometimes the body cannot keep up with "tissue" break-down when exercise is too intense or repetitive so HEALTHY formula may need to be discovered by having a trainer who understands MODERATION and BALANCE to achieve the real change your goals mention so you can concentrate on enjoying and "outsource" to coach responsibility of setting goals and pace.

2nd: Check out Dr. John Ratey's book about the amazing effects of exercise, SPARK, at your neighborhood library.

3rd: Look at Ann Louise Gittleman's books and see if her approach appeals to you. She was one of the first to talk about healthy fats and broke with Nathan Pritikin over his exclusively low-fat regimen. She also talks about the effects of different chemicals on our body balance. While she has written most recently about flushing fat and fasting, her larger method is balanced and healthy.

It is my experience that a relationship with a talented, wise, cooperative complementary medicine professional will let you better utilize your "traditional" clinicians in their specialties (for scar tissue relief, etc.) As most of us have learned, you must advocate for yourself throughout the process and, often in the more conservative medical world, you will bring physicians into awareness of information and procedures formerly outside their experience. If they ridicule or aren't willing to take the time to cooperate for integration with other professionals and therapies, that's important information for you to use in deciding whether he or she fits your criteria to participate on your wellness team.

I wish you the best in your journey.

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L.G.

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For the anxiety- there is a medication that is safe and NOT addictive called Buspar. Buspar has been used to treat anxiety for several years now. Anxiety can be so overwhelming, it can also appear as depression. Leixipro treats depression mainly- though it does help alot with anxiety. Buspar is not as well known because it doesn't treat depression, which many of the newer medications do, which is why the new antidepressants are so often the 1st choice of doctors- especially general practitioners. The problem with the newer meds that treat both is that most of them do have an affect on the sex drive. Buspar is great and does not damper your sex drive. Counseling and yoga are all great, but if you truly have a "body chemistry" based anxiety disorder, you might ask your doctor if you can give this medication a try. I pray that you find the help you need.

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J.D.

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I'm responding to your question with the answer "GOD"who you need in your life. You don't need drugs to make you happy. God changed my life in such a way that I don'tneed any thing but HIM.He can give you peace and fill the void in your life too. If you don't know him,all you have to do iscall on him and ask him to come in your life. Read Romans 10-9-13. You may already know HIM and if you do,just depend on HIM to get you through this time in your life. I will pray for you and hope you will seek Him foryour problems. YourMarriage will be lots better as well. God bless you and your family.

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D.B.

answers from Dallas on

Have you every cosideration alternative medicine? There is a person in Plano, Tx her practice is call North Texas Dynamic Health Service - Danette Goodyear, M.S. they also have a Natual Wellness Center called Sparrow. They have done wonderful treatment plans for my two daughters who have allergeries, asthma and recurring infections. I have also used her for my IBS. Several of my friends go to her who have been diagnosed with bia-polar and anxiety. My prayers are with you and I hope that she can help you. Unfortunately insurance doesn't cover this type of service and it can be a bit costly, but the results are great. I highly recommended atleast going for the 1st screening and starting with whatever your budget will allow.

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Y.M.

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I can tell you that I got off of all medications and Xanax by memorizing and meditating on the Psalms in the Bible. I to thought I was going to die, but after 3 visits to the ER they finally loaded me with some anti-anxiety medicine through IV's and for the first time in a few days, I was able to breath and relax. I was paralyzed by panic attacks for the next three months and refused to take the Xanax due to fear of addiction. In retrospect, I should've just taken the Xanax because the stress went to my eyes and now I have vision problems. Nonetheless, I got through that dark period of time by memorizing scripture in the Bible...more specifically the Psalms. I am glad that I am off of all anti-depressants and anxiety pills, but wish I didn't have these floaters to disrupt my vision. My meditation and memorization of God's word is the only thing that eventually delivered me from anxiety. I understand what you are going through. It is a living hell. Try the Psalms in the Bible. Search for one or many verses that comfort you. Memorize them to keep your mind on something until the anxiety subsides and turns to peace. Also, you may want to clean up your diet. I truly believe it was the overdose of aspartame products that threw me into that living 3 month nightmare of panic attacks. Now I eat Whole Foods after reading a great book that a friend gave me called The Makers Diet by Jordan Rubin. You may want to pick up Dr.Oz book as well and start reading about how to eat healthy without chemicals and toxins. I can't help with the scar tissue, but there is an alternative Dr. that you may google named Joan Vandergriff in Colleyille that may help. She is a miracle doctor of nature that is helping me and has helped many people. I will pray for you.

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R.T.

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Dear T.,

I am so sorry for your pain and anxiety. I have had panic/anxiety since I was 7 No doctor would ever diagnose me with panic. I landed in the ER so many times just to hear that nothing was wrong with me. I am now 60 years old. I have made it my business to start support groups and now in email, I support the poor soul that anguishes with this horrid disorder. IT IS NOT A MENTAL DISORDER!!! It is not just on your head. Please, please let me know if I can help you, my friend. I DO know whatyou are going through. I thought I had cancer, having a heart attack, a brain tumor, and many other things which never happened.

T., you are NOT alone in this terrible ordeal!

I want to help!

____@____.com and place the word PANIC in the subject.

Bless you,
Richard T
How To Breathe the Right Way
Many people with panic disorder breathe shallowly, which may lead to increased anxiety and even panic. This technique will help you learn the right way to breathe -- deeply and with your diaphragm.

Here are very specific things for getting a panic attack to diminish, that have worked for me. It's a process of coming down, as you know. These are all specific things that more than once have helped me. My hope is there is something here that might help. It feels horrible, doesn't it? You can get better. Forget about perfection!
Difficulty: N/A
Time Required: Varies
Here's How:
I firmly tell myself to SLOW DOWN. I repeat calming phrases (see below #6) silently and very slowly. I physically slow my movements. I move my arms gently and slowly to try and bring body and mind down from the racing. It can work!

Light more than one candle (take care with flame). Stay as near to the candles as you can and try to let yourself go, to gently pull that golden light within you. Think: "I have a light that is this beautiful and strong INSIDE ME all the time, even if I can't always FEEL it." This is true.

It's likely my panic attack started from thinking too much. If so, my mind is racing with just THOUGHTS. Yes, my body feels like HELL because of this. But it's because of just thoughts, and I can pull in helpful thinking just the way I grabbed onto the nasty ones. My body will NOT go out of control, nor will my mind. My fear of this is only a THOUGHT. If out in public, I will head in the direction of a more safe place now, thinking: "I can do this! I can do this!"

I am much LARGER than this panic attack and this disorder. It is a part of my experience right now and I really hate it, but I am a lot bigger than it is. This is true even if it does not feel like it and no matter how low you go. Believe it!

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No matter how important the reasons the panic attack began are, I feel this way because I am OVERREACTING. I will be OKAY. I WILL be OKAY. Yes this will pass; yes it will.

Panic attack affirmations that have helped bring me back down (see above):
Calm is available now.
I am overreacting.
I am quite SAFE; it's just a perception that I'm not.
Are these thoughts helpful to me as I LOVE MYSELF?
This comes from a part of me that hates myself, and I'm NOT going to let it win, no way.
Go outside, or look out a window, and watch trees. Look at all they endure (weather, seasons, age, storms) with such grace and beauty. They live many moments of stillness and quiet peace. I have that ability and then some.

Put on a music tape (that you made earlier!) of songs that have irresistible nice feelings to them but do not jazz you up. I find most of mine from the early 60's, like Up On the Roof, Up Up and Away by the Fifth Dimension, and Smile by Nat King Cole. Whatever your favorites are that always feel good, make a tape of them; tape even just half a dozen. The right songs have stopped a panic attack for me.

Have a panic attack notebook where coping approaches that have helped are WRITTEN DOWN. For your car have a similar notebook plus any other panic attack "first aid" kit ready to go. For me this includes bringing a beverage in case I need to take some medicine. Keep mozzarella string cheese in your fridge; grab some when you get lightheaded hungry feelings.

If you can, call a crisis line and tell them you are having a panic attack. Saying it out loud to a person I do not know has helped me. You can thank them and hang up at anytime.

What You Need:
Notebooks
Cassettes or CD's
Candles
Comfort items
From-http://panicdisorder.about.com

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C.S.

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Could they be hemmroids? (sp?) I have them from and they just come and go. I don't know if yours are there all the time or if they come and go too--but they are VERY uncomfortable and can even bleed. Mine are external but lots of people have them internal as well--just inside the rectum. I know it's not very pleasent to think about---but maybe you can see your gyno about it. Good Luck with the medication situation. I have taken sarafem for PMDD (pre menstrual dysfunction dysorder) and it worked great but I only took it for 6 months bc I took myself off when I started trying to get pregnant. ANd I am glad I did bc it only took me 1 month to get pregnant!! Just hang in there! :) C.

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C.U.

answers from Dallas on

Hi T.:

I am 56 yrs. old with two children, ages 32 and 21.
I too suffered anxiety attacks at age 22-27.
I went through numerous tests and doctors to only find out that stress was causing my ill effects.
I could not get out of bed one day a week with stomach cramps and would miss my job (which was in jeopardy because of the recession in the 70's) and my panic attacks wherein I could not get my breath made me also think that I was having a heart attack.
Then one day I went to a general doctor and he said that I needed to get my "stuff" together. So, I re-thought my life at the time and made some changes.

I know that this maybe sounds too easy, but stress is a factor that leads to many problems, including disease. There are also all kinds of stress - family, kids, husband, jobs, friends.

Take time for yourself and decide what is best for you.

Your kids need you and need you healthy.

Take care and I will keep you in my prayers.

C.

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S.M.

answers from Dallas on

Leave the Xanax out of your life. It is one of the most dangerous drugs that you can put into your body. Taking it isnt hard, but the withdrawels are very scary. My brother is a councelor in the mental health field and is so angry that MD's hand Xanax out like its candy. My doctor didnt even have me come in the office, he just phoned it in before my flight to Europe.
If you tell your doctor that you want to come off it, they can take you off alittle at a time.
.............too avoid any withdrawels.
Gook luck.

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C.L.

answers from Dallas on

Check out Woman to Woman website. They deal with hormonal fluctuations, which could be part of the issue, especially with a lack of libido. Do not continue Xanax daily as it is highly addictive. Most doctor's will only prescribe 10.
A good antidepressant is Cymbalta. It works on both serotonine and norepinephrine levels, and begins to work in two days, rather than the two to three weeks other antidepressants require.
C. Lennox, Licensed Professional Counselor

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K.W.

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I got off Zoloft before my daughter was born and I've been off for about 3 years. My secrets: exercise daily (you're already doing that), eat VERY well, and spend daily time in prayer/meditation. As far as eating well is concerned, bananas increase the amount of serotonin released in the brain, so I eat lots of them. Salmon is also good for depression type problems, and I eat that at least once a week. The biggest thing, though, is that I don't eat refined sugar or caffeine. Everything I eat benefits my body - no fillers. So... no chips, no white bread, no desert (I eat high fiber muffins that have a tad of sugar in them to satisfy my sweet tooth and also bananas with peanut butter ), no artificial sweeteners if I can help it, no soft drinks... Start by taking sugar and caffeine out of your diet. They both affect me the very most. A good nutrition book for you and your family is The Healthiest Kid in the Neighborhood by the Sears family. My best wishes to you!

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D.M.

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T.
you are me 5 yrs ago. I have had all the same drug and some you didn t mention skip the valuim ( not a happy place lol )I laugh about it now But it is no joking matter. I with the help of my docs weaned off all meds lots of family support and I wish I could remember the program I m sure you can find it on the internet dealing with our anxiities You listen to the dc then do the leasson 20 cd 2 min review and it has changed the way i think and proess tention and stress. I have to also say I started drinking at the ripe age of 48 I lost my oldest son to a massive heart attack he was 31 But I no longer drink or take any regular meds and if you can find the time with all that happening with your would try to find those cds I will check my records But you will be the al you u love and adore lol the person you remember. Good luck and I will go back and look I know I charged the cd's. Hope I can help more later. Sorry though I gave my copie to My church
hoping they would go to a good use over and over again
D.

Mother of two wonderful boys and a great hubby

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S.Y.

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I know exactly where you're coming from!!! I have depression and anxiety issues as well and it can get pretty severe for me if I'm off my meds. I do best when I'm on Welbutrin and Prozac together. Are you seeing a specialist about it or a family dr? I started off seeing my family dr about it, about 8 yrs ago, and she got me started on a medication, but my psychiatrist was able to pinpoint which medication would work the best for me and my symptoms, which was a much higher dose of them combined. When I'm on it (I can't take the Welbutrin while preg) my sex drive isn't bad (not great, but if I were off it I'd want to strangle my husband- not have sex, so... lol) and my mood stays nice and even and all that. I know it stinks to have to take medication to feel like you're surviving. But it certainly beats the alternative! I say, talk to your dr more in depth about finding a medication that won't inhibit your libido and go from there. Maybe see if "favors" are good enough for your hubby when you just don't feel up to sex.
As for the other problems... I say get a second oppinion. I believe that if you're having physical problems, there has to be a source (and proof of it) somewhere.
I wish you the best of luck through this! Feel free to message me privately if you want/ need to chat about this anymore.

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J.M.

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T.,

Why would you even consider getting off the much-needed meds right now? It sounds like they need adjusting, rather than discontinuing them. This is likely a temporary situation that requires the assistance of meds but PLEASE don't stop them until you are in a better place.

Taking medication is NOTHING to be ashamed of!!! You have many other issues going on to stop that. The anxiety is related to Seratonin and GABA in the brain, there are so many new studies.

Please discuss this further with your doctor and maybe a counselor to help you with some behavior modification, etc. to help you manage better.

If you do not take care of YOU, you can't be a good mommy or husband. And, he doesn't have to understand. You can't make anyone understand unless they are experiencing it. His role is to support you and his children through this bump in the road.

Please take care of you!!!

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K.S.

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My advice would be to stay on the anxiety meds, but (no pun) keep looking into getting the rectal problem fixed. As far as your marriage relationship goes, set a schedule (in your mind, for yourself) and follow through, only giving yourself a day extra, if you emotionally need it. Your husband will never understand, but he can accept it, as long as his needs are met.
Once the rectal problem is resolved, then consider the anxiety meds issue. Like a diabetic needs meds to keep their blood sugar under control, so does a person with anxiety to keep their panic attacks under control.
I am more into the natural preventitive and healing, but I have anxiety issues too...and I have learned that it is better for everyone if I just stay on my zoloft! I have tried and tried to get off of the anxiety med., but some people just need it. Natural ways of helping with anxiety related issues are great, if they work, and they only work on some people.
You are in a season of your life, especially with your lovely girls...don't waste some of it on medication ups and downs, if you do not have to.
I struggle with the idea that people used to do fine without meds, when meds were not around. I'll think, "where were the anxiety issues and panic attacks back when?" Well they might have not been as common as our world has changed greatly, but they did still exist...many people just medicated themselves with alcohol etc...and those that didn't do that would hide the problem.
I hope you feel better soon... K.

Ps~I just read one of the responses, by K. F., and I have to say that the book she recommended is a good one. I saught counseling to educate myself about anxiety, and my counselor recommended that book. And~ I bet counseling could help you as well! I would recommend a Christian counselor, as there is healing at the cross.

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D.C.

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I have had similar issues. Although I have never been on Lexapro, I have done effexor, Wellbutrin, lithium you name it I've tried it. The only thing that helped me was Xanax. I also had 2 C-sections, still have pain in the scar and just had an ablasion last week for other female related issues. I got some relief when I started taking an 81 mg asprin a day. It helped with joint pain and overall lethargy.

I don't know about your other rectal issues, but it will get better with the medications. it just takes time to get them out of your system. I find time outdoors in the sun greatly improves my mindset. Something about the Vitamin D and bettering your moods. Good luck.

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K.F.

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T.,
I have anxiety issues as well. I have been on Xanax and Lexapro for 5 years now. I talked to my uncle, a psychologist, almost daily for quite a while, but long story short, the medications are what you need. You might need to adjust your levels, talk to your doctor about this. I also wonder if I will ever get off of them, but my uncle told me it is not something to be ashamed of, it is what I need in order to function. Also, I read someone said that anxiety sometimes goes with depression. Well, if you have anxiety, YOU HAVE DEPRESSION. Depression comes first, so they come hand in hand. If you have anxiety, you have depression.
As far as taking the medication, I take the Lexapro at night and I take the Xanax in the morning and at night as well. There are times when I need more and keep it with me during the day when I know I will be in tense situations. How much of each do you take? What is the dosage? I am no expert, except for the fact that I have been through the EXACT same thing. Have you ever seen the book, Phobia and Anxiety Workbook, by Edmund J. Bourne? It is a great book to get and go through. It helps you understand more about the different kinds of depression and anxiety. I recommend this book to anyone that has been through this. You can find it in the bookstores, such as Barnes and Noble, Amazon, or other places like that. I think it goes to the Fifth Edition.
Personally, I would get this book, read it, and stay on my meds. Getting off of your meds could be bad. Like I said, there are times when I wish I could stop all my meds, but then I stop and think, do I ever want to go through the panic attacks again? Well, that is an easy answer, NO. They were terrible. I do still have my down times, but I understand them now and continue my meds and after a couple days, yes, a couple days, I start to feel better. It is very good to have someone to talk to about it though. I usually call my mom, or my uncle, or talk to my husband, to get me through these times. The book is also something good for your husband to go through, maybe he will understand a little more. My husband is wonderful. He never makes me think that it is wrong to go through this, he understands that it is just my brain and that the meds help me.
As far as your weight and libido, my weight has also gone up not knowing it has to do with the meds, I started Weight Watchers, and have lost 10 pounds. It took me quite a while, but the first 10 finally came off and now I am working to lose a total of about 40 pounds, 30 more to go. If you stick with it you can do it. And my libido, yes, it does take longer to get me in the mood, but everything still works, if you know what I mean.

In general, stay on your meds, but see if you need them adjusted. Maybe start a weight program like Weight Watchers, and just be patient with your libido.

Good luck.

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K.H.

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T., where do you live..if its close or near Ft. Worth, I have a doctor I totally believe in, he is in Ft. Worth, his name is Dr. Joseph McWherter, he is a life saver for me. I have had 3 c-sections, the last one this past May, and then 9 months later I had to have surgery to remove a tumor from my uterus. Dr. McWherter is a wellness Dr, for men and women, mostly geared towards women. His web site is www.Femcentre.com centre, not er. His number is ###-###-####, he also has an office in Colleyville. He is not super easy to get into, but he is well worth the wait, or get on a cancellation list. See him only, not anyone else inhis office if you can wait.

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D.S.

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Hi T.,

I understand your pain! I am a chiropractor and I have had numerous patients with similar problems! I use a lot of nutrition in my practice. If your adrenal glands are out of balance (which is common with stress) or if your hormones are out of balance it will cause anxiety, along with many other issues! I use Applied Kinesiology (aka muscle testing) to determine nutritional deficiencies and to find the correct supplement to counteract the deficiencies. I have seen tremendous results with my patients and have experienced tremendous results myself! I really got into it after having my daughter. My hormones went crazy and I felt like I was crazy! There are wonderful products that can make an amazing difference! If you are interested in more information or have questions, please give me a call at ###-###-#### or visit my website at sullivanchiropractic.com. Thank you! Dr. Sandra S.

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L.C.

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T.,
I don't know if you have heard of craniosacral therapy. There is a woman in Dallas who is wonderful with helping with your issues. Her name is Doris Weiner.
www.living-solutions.com
She is fantastic.
L.

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M.T.

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I have had some serious anxiety issues in the past and was on several different medications. I am happy to say that I no longer take anything and I've been this way for about 6 months.

If you like you can email me offline and I'd be happy to go into detail to give you some helpful tips.

Tamara

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L.L.

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Have had similar problems, because the doctors tried to put me on those drugs also - peri menopause!!! All of the changes and challanges, stress and just daily living. I finally just started on over the counter drugs two twice daily and everything straighten out - got rid of the drugs and feel great. LMK

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T.C.

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I understand all you have been through. I went through alot with my divorce. I tried precription medication. I had alot of side affects.Putting chemicals in your body causes you body alot of problems. I am now taking herbal remedies. L Tyrptophan (not sure of the spelling) and Nutra Calm. My new husband was taking some precription medication when we meet. When he wanted to get off of them (he was taking them for 6 years) his doctor slowly lowered his dosage until he was winged off. I got him to taking these and he loves them. He has amazing patients with the kids and me. We depend on them. I order mine from Natures Sunshine on line or you can go to a health food store. I do not know where you are from but there is a Natures Remedy on Sunset in Denton. There are tons of herbal remedies out there that help with all kinds of health problems. I hope this helps!!

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