Am I Just Having Baby Fever

My kids are 10, 8, and 2 - My oldest were great with the baby. Rarily did they complain about the extra time the baby took and they were so loving with her. It was different with my 3rd 'cause she was on the go from the day she was born - off to soccer practice and all the other activities. I still tried to keep involved in the older kids activities which took some juggling (and baby backpacks are wonderful). I will say the sleepless nights were a little tougher the 3rd time around and my house hasn't truly been sparkling clean in 2 years, but we would all agree we are so blessed to have the 3rd. I'm so much more relaxed with time around. I really don't get upset with the day to day challenges (2 year olds!!) and take more time to enjoy the little things.

I don't think you are crazy. I want another one and my kids are 4 and 6. If you think you are just having baby fever I would a little bit to if it passes and if it doesn't then try for another one. I hope things work out for you.

This would be a good time to have "the talk" with your significant other. You know, the one about "I really want one, but can we afford it?" If you have 2 girls (me too, 8 & 9), that means 2 cars, 2 college tuitions, 2 weddings, etc. If you feel confident that you can handle all that, throw another one on top and still be able to retire in style, then go for it! :}

My girls are 13, almost 10 and 3. The last was a surprise, and all those different stages of development at once is a challenge, but I wouldn't trade them for the world. Best of luck to you.

I had a 7 year old and 5 year old when we found out we were pregnant with our "bonus". We had to totally rethink our life plans, move into a bigger home, etc... But it was honestly the best thing that happened to our family. The older kids love her and enjoyed helping me with her when she was a baby. Now my oldest is 12, my middle is 9, and our baby is 4. She is such a blessing. I really enjoyed having the third later on. I understood how fast the baby stages go and really enjoyed it. She was also such an easy baby and has such a happy personality. I always contribute that to the fact that she had to learn to be flexible because we are always at a basketball or baseball game or school or church function. She just goes with the flow and has brought us a lot of joy. I totally recommend having your last baby after the others are a little older. It's been good for us all. And, you have built-in babysitters to boot!:)My mother in law always said it was great for her because when my husband's youngest sister was graduating from High School we were having our first child. She went from Mom to Nana at that crucial time and that made it easier to handle the "empty nest."

Maybe give it some time but I think that if you want another baby and your husband does as well, go for it!!! You are so young and still have a whole life ahead of you to share with a new baby. And just think, you will have two in-house babysitters!!! I am currently pregnant with my first and think its wonderful!!! Good luck with whatever decision you choose!!!

B.,

I get "baby fever" a lot but since my husband ademately does NOT want any more babies, (he's 44 and I'm 40) I chose to get a tubal ligation after our last baby was born in 2006. Do I regret it? That depends on what time of the month it is, who has a new baby at church or if I've had an especially trying day with the 8, 5 and 2 year olds we do have. Besides the DH issue I also lose one baby for every one I carry and I was just tired of the grieving, taking hormones, physical pain and so forth.

If your husband wants another baby then I'd say go for it. If he doesn't, don't go behind his back like I did and concieve a baby. That one was diagnosed with Dandy-Walker Malformation (where part of the hypothalamus is missing) and although he is now normal, I worried from the time of his diagnosis to his follow-up MRI that this was God's way of punishing me for lying to DH. To keep me from being tempted to concieve again, I did the kindess thing I knew to do and took care of myself.

Will be thinking about you...

K.

B.,

You are young!! I say if you and your husband want another baby...and you can afford to have another. Go for it and enjoy! I am 33 and have two that are under 5 and have thought about another one but of course not yet because my youngest just turned one. But on the other hand I keep telling my self that I don't want one right now but if I wait I will be that much older. Its just a personal decision that you and your husband need to decide. Whatever you do decide I wish you all the luck. Have a great day!!

C.

What does hubby think? It's ok to get baby fever and actually follow through with it. If you and your husband are on the same page then go for it. I think your kids ages now are good for having another too.

Do you really want a toddler around when your oldest daughter is getting ready for middle school? On the other hand, now would be the time. Wait any longer and it could be disasterous. As your kids get older, they actually need MORE guidance and parenting, not less. By the time they are in high school, they need lots of attention to make sure they are on the right track.
Two kids is a great number, especially same sex kids. Very manageable.

Good luck.

My boys are 7 1/2 years apart and i loved it....both are grown now....sounds to me like you need to "borrow" a baby for a while....kids are kinda like puppies and kittens they grow up but ya still gotta keep them....lol...have fun! R.

I think it totally depends on you... do you want to start all over again, sleepless nights and diapers? You have two big siblingd who would probably love a baby to play "house" with. (depending on your kids).

Hi B.,

Im a 25 year old mother of 2 boy's age 3 and 2. I am pregnant with a third child and I have to be honest with you even though the third is not born yet, I think that it will be total hands full.
You may have forgotten your lack of personal time when your girls were younger, but with a third child you will get into that same problem again. On the other hand if you have one now at age 27 than in 5 to 6 years time you being at age 33 will have all the time in the world to do the things you want to do.

I think your choice should be: "do you want to be bound now at age 26 ? and be free-er at age 33."
Or do you want to enjoy freedom now like doing theme park rides with your girls and joining them on the pony instead of beside it all with a baby in your arms/carriage?

If you have a bb at age 33 your oldest will be 12 and will enjoy mommy time probably a bit less.

I have chosen to have a third one now because the age difference is very small. Your choice is much harder than that. But think as selfish as you can in this decision, it's about you and what you want. And not about your girls having a pooping and eating puppet.

Greetz
D.

I have 3 kids, 15, 9 and 3. They are all wonderful and if I had it to do over, I would do it again. Having them so far apart, gives you the time with each child. The older two are big helpers. I would talk to your husband and if he agrees. GO FOR IT. They are true blessings. Good luck.

I had my 3rd baby in December '07. My oldest child was 9 years 3 months , my middle child was 5 years 7 months. A new baby was a welcome addition to the family! The other two are old enough to help and to understand when you say Mama has to spend time with the baby. I'm a firm believer in spacing your children out so each has time to be the "baby"
I say go for it!! You don't want to have regrets. Children are a blessing from God

Oh my goodness. I am going through the exact same thing and I'm 26 as well with a 6 year old daughter. I've been going through this for months but my husband said no. He only said that because I had life threatening complications after having our daughter, but I still want another baby. I'm so sensitive that when I see any kind of baby, a baby dog, a baby cat, a baby chicken, anything makes me want one. I often think that it's just a phase and I'll grow out of it, but I've been dealing with it since the end of last year. I've been married a year and 2 months. What kind of responses have you received so far???

I would talk it over with my hubby to learn what he thinks about a new baby, then if you are both on the same wave link I would talk to my dr and see if there is any problems with you having a new one. I as sure after you do all this you will make a decison that is right for yourself and your family.

Dear B.,

If your husband is in agreement, have another baby. I very much regret stopping with two. The world needs children. Best wishes to you and your family.

L. (mom of two grown people)

If your husband is agreeable, I say go for it. I am 9 1/2 years older than my baby sister, and we have a great relationship. I also learned to become very responsible at a young age, as I babysat for my sister frequently. Your daughters would probably LOVE to have a real baby to take care of and play with all the time.

i think its wonderful you have been married for 8 yrs. Now if your husband and u decide this together then work on it together, children are a blessing from GOD!

B.,

I say so for it. I had a 25 and 20 year old daughter when we decided that we would like another child. I was not ready to stop being a mommy and at 46 we welcomed our son. His sisters were very excited when he was born and have well loved him the last 18 months. He is the light for my husband who is 50 and who is a much better dad at 50 than he was when are daughters where little. All of our friends and family thought we were crazy but we still decided that was what we wanted and we would do it all over again. As long as you husband is happy with having another child it is not anyone elses decision but yours as a family.

you are young, if you thnk you want one start trying and see what happens!!! good luck

That's a decision for you and your husband to pray about and discuss. I am a mother of 2 and that's all I ever wanted. Sure there are times when I miss my "babies", but it soon passes. Children are a blessing but along with those blessings comes some hard work, but you already know that. Again, that's a decision for you and your husband to pray about and discuss. Take care.