It is posts like this that make me so glad there is a sight like this out there. I am so glad that we can be so honest about what we are struggling with. Some men love it! Some men hate it. Mine was a little bit bothered by it. I looked for sexy nighties with built in bras and insisted on leaving them on.
Sometimes pumping right before bed helps, but sometimes it does not. I found anytime I went without a bra, even just to shower, I would get milk let down and leaking.
Good Luck! Know that it is only for a season.