Advice on Pregnancy After Miscarraige

G.,

I've had 2 miscarriages and 2 healthy pregnancies. It went m/c, baby, m/c, baby. Just because you've had one miscarriage does not mean you'll have another. Pretty much everyone I know has had a miscarriage. My doctor said that pretty much every women does but in the days before the really early home pregnancy tests, many early miscarriages went "unnoticed" because they'd happen before a women knew she was pregnant. Now women find out earlier so early miscarriages are more commonly recognized for what they are. I know it is hard to relax when you are pregnant and you've had a miscarriage but try to enjoy this special time. Good luck and congratulations!
T.

Hi G..
I actually heard you are more fertile and less likely to miscarry after having one. Good luck!

Unless the doctors have said this is going to happen again, think positive it won't I say suprose the hubby what a great idea, a lot of times I hear women say they are to afraid to get pregnant again after having a miscarrage, then they do and a perfect baby is born, I always said God decided to take the baby back, that something could of gone wrong, its not the mommy's fault it just happens.

Blessings on the new baby, if you want to make sure maybe wait until safe before you share this with everybody else.

I sent a prayer,

Hi G.,
Your name says it all!!
By God's G. you have a little boy and God is taking care of your second child. God blessed you with a 3rd pregnany. Enjoy it and celebrate it. The baby feels when your happy or sad or excited or stressed. Sing to your little boy and laugh when he does something funny. Your new baby will exsperience your joy. Every child is a gift from God and we are only the caretakers for God. You wouldn't of gotten pregnant if God didn't want you to.Rely on God to carry you through this pregnancy. Tell your husband tonight when he gets home so you can share the joy together.
Look at your daily routine. See what you can change. Put your feet up(lay down on the couch and put your feet higher than your head,maybe on 2 pillows) when you get home and take a short break to pamper yourself. Make a candlelight dinner. Turn the house lights on low and relax. Get a joke book, and read some of it to your husband each night. Make sure you are taking time for you. Pray for God's protection over this baby.
If you have morning sickness(any time of day sickness), eat raisins and it will replace the blood sugar that the baby is using.May God bless you!! D.

Sorry for your loss and congrats on the new pregnancy!! I had a miscarriage at 8.5 weeks, waited 2-3 cycles and got pregnant on the first try. I gave birth to a healthy daughter. I got pregant 2 years later, and had a miscarriage VERY EARLY! I then got pregnant again the following month...now I have 2 healthy girls!!

I was nervous and afraid to tell people, but I did give my husband the positive test as a birthday present. It's scary and emotional, but enjoy it! Try not to let it stress you too much!

My second pregnancy ended up being a miscarriage at 9.5 weeks. This was after trying to get pregnant for 2 years. To my surprise, I became pregnant 2 months after my miscarriage. I was also very nervous about miscarrying again. I even had some unexplained bleeding at 11 weeks. But, everything turned out just fine. The one that miscarried never had a heartbeat, so for the 3rd pregnancy, I had an early ultrasound, and a couple of others, just to put my mind at ease. That baby is now 6 years old, and we also have a 17 month old. I wish you the best of luck.

Congratulations G., I hope all goes well with this pregnancy. I am sorry for your loss back in February and hope this one is successful. When my husband and I first started trying to conceive, we had no trouble getting pregnant, but I lost 3 to miscarriage. My last being in Dec. 2007. It was heartbreaking and by the 3rd I was ready to stop trying and not wanting to go through all that pain anymore. I had seen heartbeats with 2 of them and lost them both at 8.5 weeks and 9 weeks and had a very early m/c with the 3rd (around 5-6 weeks). However, when the end of January rolled around...there apparently was a different plan for us. I have been able to maintain this pregnancy and am currently 8.5 months along. We can't wait to meet her in September!
I would definitely share the good news with your husband, but maybe wait a period of time to tell family and friends. Chances are you will not miscarry again, but I found it exhausting to have to tell people that I had lost another pregnancy.
Best of luck with this and wishing your family happiness and peace.

My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. It was devastating, but I was also completely surprised. No one in my family had ever had a miscarriage and I didn't think I knew anyone who had miscarried (once my miscarriage became known, several acquaintances shared their own experiences with me). My doctor told me that the exact statistics on miscarriage are not known, but it is possibly close to 50% - and probably half of those women never even knew they were pregnant because the miscarriage happended so early on they just thought it was their period, a little late or heavy. Since you have a positive pregnancy test, that takes you out of the broadest category for miscarriages that occur early on. And once you get a heartbeat, I believe the chances of miscarriage are very low after that (I don't remember exactly what my doctor said, but I think it might be 95%-or more- of pregnancies that get a heartbeat within the first 12 weeks carry to term).
When I got pregnant the second time, I was sooo anxious. We got an ultrasound as soon as we could (we had no idea there was a problem with the first until 12 weeks, when the baby had died at only 6 weeks and stayed in my uterus, so we wanted to find out how things were going right away). The ultrasound showed our little "Gummi Bear" (our first nickname for him) was 9 weeks along, and we saw/heard his heartbeat! I relaxed a lot after that because the chances of miscarriage were very slim at that point. That little "Gummi Bear" is now a rambunctious 3 year old boy. He also has a rambunctious 2 year old little brother. No more trouble with miscarriages after that first one!

Congratulations! And I think your idea for surprising your husband is great! I like a lot of the ideas that you got from responses, too. Have fun!

I would not do it that way. I think he may feel as unsure as you do about the whole thing, excitemently speaking, and may have reserves for you and would feel pressured to "react" a certain way in front of others/your family. I would just wait until you have a minute and share the news privately, so he can ask you questions and think a minute about how he feels about it. I know my husband isn't sure on what reaction I am looking for until I can explain a little bit more. You may be dissapointed in what comes out of his mouth initially and he shouldn't have a crowd around to watch him fumble through this exciting but frightening at the same time moment. Congratulations and good luck with everything.

Congratulations!

I had a miscarriage once, at 6 weeks... then about 8 months later I was pregnant with my son! So yes, you CAN be fine!

I too was nervous after my miscarriage... but that's natural. Just go to your doctor, and feel positive, and take care, take your prenatal vitamins, and anything else your Doc advises.

That sounds like a great way to surprise your Hubby!
How wonderful!

You take care, and all the best,
Susan

I totally know what you are going through!! I had a miscarriage in February 2007 (blighted ovum). I got pregnant in August of 2007 and was paranoid! To be completely honest, I had anxiety at every doctor's appointment throughout my entire pregnancy. However, I was completey blessed to have an amazing pregnancy. In May of this year I gave birth to my handsome baby boy. I spent the months leading up to my pregnancy researching everything there was to know about miscarriages. My husband of 5 years was very supportive and encouraging. After experiecing my miscarriage, it was difficult to think postive 100% of the time. It helped that my doctor told me that miscarriages are completely normal and not a future predictor of any problems.

What a great homecoming "gift"!!!!!!!!! Hope that my experience can help in some way.

Excellent idea about the gift! I also miscarried and got pregnant again about 9 months later. I was nervous and always worried that something will go wrong. The only thing that I can tell you is, listen to your body. If you are tired, then rest. Hungry? Eat what you can tolerate. But try not to worry. Sometimes the stress of worrying can cause your body to react to it, and it may not be in a good way. Prayer or meditation is another way to assist with peace of mind. Good luck!

Hi G.-

I had 3 miscarriages before my daughter, (two were extremely early and I hadn't realized that I was pregnant yet,) and then one before my son. I had testing done and they found when I was pregnant with my son that my progesterone level was low, so I was on vaginal suppositories twice a day, for the first 20 weeks. It apparently worked because I now have a wonderful, healthy 9 year old son!

I love the yoga idea to help relax. The stretching and relaxing should feel so good for you and the baby.

Good Luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!

Hi G.,

I had a miscarriage and got pregnant two weeks after losing the first child and I did not have a problem. I was nervous as well because i wasn't sure and there was no real explanation as to why the first one happened so I didn't know but what you need to do is make sure you go to the obgyn and make sure they check often. I believe that's what helped me because i was there every two weeks or so to do ultrasounds and just to ask questions. It eased my mind completely.

Good luck and I pray everything works out for you.

This baby will be fine, you are a "proven" baby maker, just be happy and enjoy the little life in you. I love your idea for telling your husband - I think that he will be so happy!

Miscarriage is so terrible, but seriously, this one will be fine so just relax and enjoy it.

Every pregnancy is different...but many women have miscarriages and as long as you wait sufficient time for your body to heal (which you have) you have good chances of not miscarrying again, unless something in your girlie system is just not working right. I have had miscarriages (depends on how far you were when you miscarried, as well) before and between pregnancies. Just take it easy (I know, easier said than done-noticed you work full time & are already a mommy) & focus on getting past the 1st trimester. Take care of yourself! Great idea for your husband coming home, although I think you may have already surprised him! Congrats!

Congrats! Great idea to welcome back your husband. I announced my second pregnacy in similar way. With my help, my then 2 year old son wrote a note to Daddy saying "Mommy is pregnant!" or somehting like that. The sign had the test taped to it :) What a moment! Wish you the best, including that you work on finding a way to work less and spend more time with your babies. Nothing has been better for my family since I made that decision. A :)

Hi G.,

Congradulations! One miscarrage doesn't mean you will have another. As long as everything else hasn't changed (like you have other health issues now that you didn't have before) you should be fine.

About the announcement at the airport - you said WE are picking him up. I would say it depends on the WE. If it is just you and your imeadiate family - go for it. But if it is like your in laws or parents or friends - wait till you get home and have a surprise just for him. He may not want to tell everyone right away (my hubby liked knowing for a while without the whole extended family in on our secret) and this way you get to surprise him while keeping it to yourselves for a while.

Just my thoughts,
G.

I had 2 miscarrige before my son was born. It was due to lack of progestrone, so when I found out that I was pregnant for the 3rd time, I had my doctor put me on the postertrone and everything was good. Please talk to your doctor about why you might have miscarried the first time. Unfortunately, they some doctors won't due anything until you miscarry 2-3 times. I wish you all the luck in the world.

Dear G.,

Miscarriages seem to be a part of some mystery, only our body knows the answer to. In my family, the women have all experienced miscarriages at one point in time or another. In between successfully carrying me and my younger sister to term my mother had three during her first trimester, within a two year period.

Before having my son, now 2, I had two miscarriages. The best thing I did was go talk to my OB/GYN. She did blood tests very early on after my miscarriages that helped us find a 'medical' answer. Lack of certain hormones, etc. But, once I was pregnant again I made sure I went to my OB and asked her what we could do to maintain my health and this pregnancy. While hormone therapy wasn't needed, she did give me strict orders for diet, exercise and me time.

I would agree with the last post, meditation and yoga can be extremely good for relaxation and maintaining a healthy state of body and mind, while pregnant or not.

Good luck!

G., I went through the exact same thing. I had my daughter in November of 2005, then got pregnant in Febuary of 2007. 2 weeks after finding out that I was pregnant the doctor could not hear a heartbeat and they determined that I had a miscarriage. My doctor told me to wait at least 6 months to try again. We got pregnant in Sept. of 2007 and just had our son in May. The best advise I can give is try not to worry. The more you worry the worse it is. Talk with your doctor about whatever your fears are and just try to take it easy (which is hard since you already have a little one). I think you should tell your husband but then wait to share your news with anyone else until you are in your second trimester. I know it is hard and the fear will always be there but just put all your fears out in the open so you don't bottle them up and you should be fine. Good Luck and Cograts! J.

Hi G.,

I miscarried in my third pregnancy at almost 4 months. When I found out I was pregnant again (about 6 months later), I was thrilled, but terrified! The best thing you can do for you and your baby is relax. Stressing out will not help anything. Go for your regular prenatal visits and let your doctor know your fears. Sometimes, depending on the cause of your first miscarriage, the doctor can prescribe progesterone pills (which he did for me) or provide other suggestions for a successful pregnancy. Good luck!
S.

G.,

I had a miscarriage in October '06 and got pregnant again in January '07. I now have a gorgeous 10-month-old baby.

At the time of my miscarriage, my OB said to me that I should wait 3 months before trying again.

Some advice: Just take it EASY for your first trimester. Avoid a lot of activity as your bady is very sensitive right now. (I miscarried 3 days after taking my family to Magic Mountain, even though I didn't get on any rides.)

As for your thought on surprising your husband...sounds sweet. He'll be nicely surprised with the gift and then REALLY surprised and happy with the CHERRY on the cake.

Good luck to you and your family.
-I.

Idea for you:Put a tee shirt on your little boy that says BIG BROTHER or I AM GOING TO BE A BIG BROTHER. Don't put a used test inside a gift box, that is not clever or sexy.

Congrats!
K.

I have had two amazing children and one heartbreaking miscarriage. My first pregnancy, I miscarried and the two following pregnancies resulted in two incredible boys! I noticed that with my first I was worried the whole time, and with my boys I had a different outlook, very positive and I feel that made a difference. Keep your eye on the prize! And, that welcome home gift is a great idea. Good luck to you!

Dear G.,

Of course tell him, and be grateful that you are pregnant, but be wary. It COULD happen again. I had 5 miscarriages and then adopted my babies , which turned out wonderfully. So don't be afraid, just be cautious. ....and pray.
Sincerely, C. N.