Advice on Divorce

There are 2 types of custody, Legal custody deals with financail responsibility, and physical custody is whom the child will primarily stay with.

Legal custody-most courts award joint legal cusody, this means each parent will be 50% responsible for childs expences (above and beyond daily living expences, witch is covered by child support)This usually includes things like school tuition, extra curricular activities and DR bills not covered by insurance.

Physical custody is given to whomever will be primary care giver of said child, this person also recieves child support from the other parent for day to day living expences.

Visitation really depends on the wishes of the non custodial parent. You cannot force someone to visit with his/her child. (while actually you can through the courts, but with disaterous results. IE dad takes child and drops him off with another person until it is time to go home).

Make sure to at least talk to a lawyer who specailizes in family law BEFORE signing any thing at the court house.

If things get nasty the court WILL appoint a gaurdian at litem for your child, which doesn't mean you lose you child, but this person will make a recomendation as to who gets custody (and 9 times out of 10 the court will follow the recomendation)

Let me know if you need to talk or vent. And do get that counseling-if it's not covered by your insurance you can still get help.

HELLO, I AM A MOM WITH 2 GREAT KIDS, THAT I HAVE BROUGHT UP ON MY OWN. CUSTODY AND VISITATION REALLY DEPENDS ON THE KIND OF PERSON THAT IS TO RECEIVE IT. IF NESESSARY, YOU CAN ASK FOR SUPERVISED VISITS IF THE FATHER IS UNTRUST WORTHY. VISITATION AMOUNT DEPENDS ON THE LOCATION OF BOTH PARENTS, IF THEY LIVE CLOSE, THE VISITS WILL MORE THAN LIKELY TO BE MORE OFTEN THAN FAR AWAY. AS WELL AS SOME HOLIDAYS. THIS IS WHAT I'VE BEEN THROUGH AS MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. I HOPE THIS HELPS.

I will make it simple, get a lawyer. you may not have to worry, because a bay needs their mom more than their dad; but to be on the safe side, at least talk to a lawyer, so you will know what to expect. Maybe even talk to a few, and a guardian at litum(not sure if i spelled it right)they are lawyers who represent the child and only the child.

I am a mom who willbe filing for divorce from my husband after 1 year of seperation and little to no contact with his childeren. It is hard so hard. The best advice is to seek legal advice. Also, seek comfort in whatever gives you joy. I too nursed my son until he was 18 mos old and he could feel my stress. It was in my milk! So, take things one day at a time. In our seperation, my husband agreed to No visitation and he pays little child support. I plan to renegotiate all terms in my divorce. If you need support, I'm here.

First, I'm sorry this happened to you. Second, I am also a single mother, and unfortunatly for my son, his father doesn't really want much to do with him. I also don't want his father around due to some bad things that he's done. I fought for sole custody and won, and his father gets 2 hours supervised visitation every other weekend. Most times he doesn't show up anyway.
I don't know how your ex feels about his child, but the one thing I'll say is that if he is a good father, regardless of what happened between the two of you, you need (for your childs sake) to allow him in his life. If he's not a good father, then you can do the same that I've done. Either way, it's really about whats best for your child.
I wish you luck, and hope it all turns out good for you and your child. And whatever you do, don't let your child feel the stress of the situation. If you need any other advice or just want to talk you may contact me.

S. I am a mom that just went through a divorce 9 bout 4 years ago ( and I am still going through some tuff times here and there). #1.) advice please, even if you don't think you need it get couseling, it'll give you someone to talk to. #2) visitation and custody all depends on where you live, every state and county is different. 9 times out of 10 it's awared to the mom, which you stand a good chance since you are nursing. Most courts look at the living arrangment's, physical and emotional stability for the child. If you and your X are civial and both are decent care taker's for the child chances are it will be Joint custody, with visitation to the other parent. If you want to talk more about this I am here to talk. I am not going to lie to you things are going to get tough, but in time they get better, you just really need a strong support group, and I cn be there to talk to. Let me know, good luck