We have been married over eleven years. we have been through the whole fertility process with no luck. We had a failed adoption back in July. The birthmother changed her mind at the last minute. We have all the love to give to a child. We live in a nice house in Philadelphia with a nice back yard and lovable Labador Retriever. We want to give all our love to a child. We have a adoption attorney that has had no positive results as far as finding a birthmother. We have shyed away from the adoption agencies because of the long waiting lists and we are both in our 40's. This is our dream to have a child. This is the only thing missing from our life. We would be able to give a child the best life. We have a big extended family with alot of siblings who all have children.
Going to family gathering is very hard for us. All the children running around having fun. It is a constant reminder of of us not having any children, which we want so much. Please help us realize our dream and help us fill the void in our hearts. We live in the Philadelphia area, but are willing to travel to another state. We are home study approved an ready to adopt immediately. We need help to find that precious gift that God wants us to have.
Thank you.
B. & Glenn
Correct me if I am wrong, but it sounds like you are trying to adopt a baby. There are lots of children that need homes. I don't think it would be a problem, unless you are being choosy. Adopt an older child, they need homes too. Go to an adoptions center and ask them about adopting a child that doesn't have any parents that will be coming looking for them.
I noticed that in your post you listed a new born or infant. If you really have love to give, perhaps you should consider a child who really needs you - an older child who is an orphan or a child who has been bounced around in foster homes. You could be the one, first positive thing in a child's life. Don't turn away an older child just because he/she is not an infant. There are SOOO many children who need loving parents. Don't turn them away simple because they're older. With all you say that you have, why limit yourself to an infant?
I cannot even imagine your pain. My cousin is also suffering in a similar way. I will ask what I asked her. If being a parent is SO important, why does the child need to be an infant? Just something to consider. Are you willing to give up your dream or are you willing to accept it on differnt terms?
I wish you nothing but the best.
ER
I can certainly identify with you, as we waited, prayed, and suffered agony nearly 10 yrs. before God began bringing our family together via adoption. We now have 4 adopted jewels, ages 12 down to 1. You might check out www.christianadoption.com . We have been with them since 2000. They are not an agency, they are a ministry. I would love to talk to you privately, as adoption lies close to our hearts.
Hi, B.:
Have you tried the Jones Institute associated with the Eastern Virginia Medical School in Norfolk, VA.
Just wanted to know.
Good luck. D.
Can you expand you list of potential kids to include bi-racial kids? A toddler? www.adoptpakids.org
My Aunt and Uncle are also in their 40s and wanted to adopt. They ended up doing a foster with the option to adopt program in NJ. They specified that they wanted an infant boy. Within a few months they were the foster parents to a 2 month old baby boy. He will now be 2 years old in a few days and has been officially adopted by them! It was a process but ultimately got their little boy. You are taking a risk with foster that they may return to their parents but these children need love. It is a great option to consider. You are both in my prayers. There is a child out there waiting for you.
Have you considered adopting from the state or adoption from foster care? Adoption from foster acre is a separate program than foster care and these kids are either already emancipated or in the process of it. My husband and I are considering that route now.
B.,
My husband and I have a story similar to yours, however we have successfully adopted 2 wonderful children. We opted to go through the Children and Families First organization in Wilmington, DE. This agency required educational training and home studies and we met both of our children before the home studies were completed. Our first child was 2 mths old and parental rights had already been terminated. Our 2nd child was 11 mths old and had been in Foster Care since age 6 wks.
You may want to contact Children and Families First to see if they have an agency in Philadelphia.
It turns out that one of my son's good friends was also adopted and in talking w/ his mom I learned she went thru the same agency.
All the best to you. Children are a blessing from God and require much love and patience. But, oh the feeling you get when you see them grow and blossom - it's indescribable!!!
Did you contact the. Facilitator that we are using (- sent info in email)? I think their longest wait was 14mos. Our friends who used them, specified blonde girl and had their baby home 10mos later.
Please consider taking a look at the website, www.adoptpakids.org
If you really want to bring a child into your hearts, these children are exceptional and need a loving, supportive home like yours. Some are mearly 5 years old.
Perhaps limiting your search to a newborn or infant is a sign... maybe you are the loving couple one of these kids REALLY needs.
Why don't you try the foster/adopt route and only take infants that have a small chance of going home. I have seen a lot of people get babies this way. Especially if you are willing to take a different race child.
If you adopt from the state, there are many waiting children. You can specify newborn. Many of the babies have special needs. If you sign up as foster parents though and limit it to newborns, there is a chance you could adopt a baby right from the hospital (even a healthy one).
Many of the sibling groups have children without special needs, just two or more kids needing a loving home. Your dream of having kids running around would be answered! I am excited for you because if you really want to adopt, it's actually not as difficult as it sounds, and I believe going through the state (which is free) entitles the child to a monthly stipend for his/her needs until he/she becomes an adult. State rules vary, but there are many wonderful children just waiting...
It's my dream to adopt, and I hope when we decide to do so (we have three biological under 4) we can get a waiting child, or really any child needing a loving home.
