Well, as far as the oweys go, have you tried Anti-fungal creams? My sis. daughter had a yeast infection, and that sounds similar, the red bumpy kinda pussy bumps.. It worked for her.. Maby even go to your local health food store, and thell be dure to have, or sugest some whodoes have a natural ccream, or osmthing inernaly she can take.. There great about that! Just tell them the prb. and I'm sure they can sugest something..
As far as the potty training, I used the Dr. phil method Potty train in one day. I kinda changed it accordingly to all my childrens needs tho. Like With the last one I potty trained, she was 2, and she has the same porblem as your daughter. She just would not go pee on the potty, and constintly went in her underware. So Once I saw she was not responding to the underware,I let her run around bare bottom, and gav her TONS of fluids.
But first picked a dolly that looked alot like her, put big girl underware on her, and showed aslynn. I told her ok dollys going to go pe pe on the potty like a big girl! Ok dolly, go pe pe! Id pull doen the dollys underware, then put her on the poty. I didnt have one of those dolys that go pee when u squeez them, but befor time I put water in the potty when she wasnt looking, then sat infront of the potty where she coudlnt see the water. Then when I sat her down, I moved to where Ashlynn could see, and waited a couple secs, then I looked at her and gssped, and said did dolly go pee pe on the potty? I picked her up, then we both looked in the potty, and I said she did! Dolly went pee pee on the potty chair like such a big girl!! I danced and sang and said what a good girl dolly was to ashlynn, and I said good job dolly! Your a big girl you go potty on the potty chair!
Then I said ash, do u want to try now? I showed her a package of opend jelly beans, put them on my hand and I said Ashlynn, do you want some special candy? Of course she had no problem with it, LOL, and I said, ok, u can this special candy if you go pee pee on the potty like dolly did. Then Id make her sit down on the potty all by herself, EACH time, and put the potty in the front room where it would be way easier for her to go since her toys are right there, instead of having to go all the way to the bathroom.
Id have her sit on the potty and tell her ok, go pee pee like a big girl! Let me see.. then after 10 min. of her sitting there, Id let her back up and tell her ok, u gotta tell me go pee pee if u have to go, dont go pee pee on the floor, thats ucky, u gota go pee pee on the potty like such a big girl! Really be spacific. Then about every 10 min. I'd tell her 2 sit back down and tell her to go pee pee on the potty! I would have to pick her up tho, and stand her right infront of the potty, and sometimes have to hold her arms and kinda direct her to sit down, when she resisted.LOL. Id repeat myself every time she went to sit down. (Kids like repitition.)
Id continue givin her lots of liquids, and pretty soon with all the sittin down, and gettin back up she did, she would aventually go, and id bouce up and down and sing and be all happy and excited. Id give big hugs and tell her good job Ashlynn! You are such a big girl! I'm so proud of you! Ok, since you went pee pee on the potty like such a big girl, you get your special potty chair candy! Id let her take one, then id give her a 20/30 min. brake, then do it ALL over again..LOL.
If she had an accendent, i woulnt scold her, but i would let her knw that was ucky! You dont go pee pee on the floor! You gotta go pe pe on the potty chair! And shed get the point.. then Id set her on & off the potty 10 times, each time 10 min, brake in between.. id repeat myslef every time... By the end of the day, she was starting to tell me uh oh pee pee! B4 she had to go, and id run over there and shed sit down byherself and be going by the time I got there. ;) (Proud moment!) LOL.
They say that with makin gthem sit down and get back up that many times, it works out there Shpinkter muscle,
(Ok obviously I have no idea how to spell it! LOL,) and it streighthens it up, and when they have to go pee, they excercise that muscle, and it helps them to hold it, and have less accendents.. must be cause I started Monday morning early, and stayed home and worked with her all week and wekend, and by the time the following monday came around, I didnt put any diapers on her, and we went on a 30 min. walk to kinda let her get the feel of no daipers, but not by the potty, but didnt put underware on her either, and for the whole 30 min. I gave her her juicy cup, and she was drinkin and walkin right by me, and when we went back home, I took her over to the potty, and she went emeidatly! So, It worked!
I honestly tried every so many other methods with my first child, then by the time the other 4 came around, I was an old pro! LOL. No, but with Ash, I kinda had to re- think the whole thing cause she was havin soo many accedents, so kinda re- wrote Dr. phils plan, LOL, Doing the setin her down in the potty after she has an accedent 10 times, worked, but only I did it before she had an acendent as well. After that, My sis. stayed a week with me, and she was pratically givin up on her 2 year old boy, and I volunteered the first 3 days, and after that,she was a beliver, and did it herself, and has worked ever since.. Hope my huge...long advise helps..LOL