7 Yr Old Getting Dressed.

Be with her in her room and help her. She doesn't "get" it. A., she may not even FEEL the discomfort of her clothes not fitting, which is actually a sensory issue. Don't make her "grow out of" this. You don't want her to be made fun of at school by girls who DO "get it".

Help her.

I am not being snarky but, have you ever taught her how to dress herself?
I mean, she seems awkward.... so maybe she needs more help with it?

Don't send her to school that way.
She will get made fun of.
And the Teacher will or might, say something.... and then wonder why the Mom sent her child to school that way.
She is 7.
2nd Grade?

My son is 6.
He can dress himself fine.

Even at 4 years old, my daughter understood "tag goes in the back" and could put a shirt on the right way. Same for undies. She can recognize when something is inside out, though still needs my help to fix it.

Maybe you should just write down some of the basics - like tags in back, tags inside, sock heels on bottom, etc. and post it in her room where she can see it while getting dressed. Make pictures or include photos if it makes it easier. Have a list showing it right vs. wrong. If she comes out with something still out of place, make her go back and do it over again herself instead of you doing it for her.

Is it possible she has trouble with concepts like front/back, top/bottom, left/right, etc. and figuring out or being able to see which is which? Or has she just never been taught?

Put a full length mirror on the back of her bedroom door and encourage her to check and make sure everything's in the right place before she goes out.

Instead of telling her what's wrong, ask her questions that make her think. "Where does the heel of your sock go when you put it on?"

"Do the seams of your shirt go on the outside or inside?"

The tongue of her shoe is being shoved down most likely because she's not untying them. Just shoving her feet in. Teach her to do it.

I say give her the information, but if she doesn't find everything with the tools you've given her, you have to let real life be the teacher. Someone's going to notice and tell her. And then she'll learn. Love and logic.

ETA: I couldn't disagree more with those moms who say that you shouldn't send her to school with anything wrong. You have to teach her how to pay attention and take responsibility for her appearance. Having a mirror, making reminders and so forth causes HER to have to look for her mistakes. If you do all the work, she never will. And if she misses something, then it's her responsibility and the repercussions (someone mentioning it on the bus or at school) are hers as well.

She's not going to be scarred for life because her shirt was on backwards and some kid noticed it. And she'll be less likely to do it again.

Well I managed a retail store when our child was young, She helped fold and helped pick out things to go on the mannequins. She learned from being around all of the merchandise, but we also taught our daughter how to dress herself when she was about 4.

We had her practice with one of her Teddy bears and her Barbies were a constant practice since she loved to dress them in all sorts of crazy ways.. .

Did you ever actually teach her about tags are in the back.. Seams go on the inside the sock only fits properly when placed on the foot with the heel on the heels?

Maybe she really never learned and would be surprised to hear the details.

Does she have a full length mirror?
I know during a school day you do not have time to lay the "I spy with my little eye, something you are wearing is inside out.." Or "I spy something strange happening on one of your feet. "

But maybe you can do this on the weekends.

Point it out to her, and have her fix it herself.. no, I wouldn't let her go out like that.

There is nothing wrong with teaching and guiding your daughter how to dress! You are her mother - you have every right to show her how to put on her clothes. As a matter of fact, you're doing her a favor and will probably save her from teasing from other kids.

Find some time during the day, maybe after dinner, for her to practice putting on the next day's outfit while you supervise. That way noone is in a hurry and won't be late for anything.

I would just let her go out as she's dressed. She may be doing this to get attention from you. Is she wanting you to dress her? Asking you to do it?
At that age I often helped both of my grandchildren to get dressed. It was a happy time together for us. It may be that she hasn't learned how to do it and needs some remedial assistance.

If you're chiding her about the way she's dressed, stop doing that. Be very matter of fact as you send her back into the room to correct her outfit.

Kids this age dawdle. Perhaps give her more time to get dressed. Perhaps change up the routine. Does she get dressed after breakfast? Then change it to before breakfast. Breakfast may give her an incentive to get it done. Set a timer. Don't nag. If she's running late, go in and cheerfully help her.

My grandson, who is 9, dresses faster if the TV is on. I do have to remind him a couple of times but I'm usually in the area anyway. I say, shirt goes on next as I pause by the door. The TV keeps his hands free to dress and seems to help him focus.

At 7 she should know, my 4 year old does, he dresses himself. I would show her, take time from when she would normally be playing or watching TV. Tell her it's a lesson, even though you more than likely have shown her 100's of times. Have her put on different outfits the right way, correct if she makes a mistake, after she's put on several tell her this is how you want her to do it in the morning. Make sure she has a full length mirror to check herself before she comes out in the morning. If she keeps it up I'd have more lessons on her time and point it out, "Turn off the TV, it's time for a dressing lesson." Stop fixing her and put the responsibility on her to learn, unless you don't mind "fixing" her. My aunt did it until my cousin was 9, but she acted like a baby incapable of doing it. When my aunt said she wasn't doing it anymore my cousin learned super fast :)

First, make sure she is grasping front-back, top-bottom, etc. Is there a chance, that she needs help in that area? Second, get a full length mirror and help her until she gets it. My 4 year old can pretty much dress himself completely, but it certainly took me helping him a lot.

My son is almost eight and he puts one sock on inside out every day. Sometimes I tell him to fix it, sometimes I don't. It depends if we have time for him to fix it. She probably just doesn't care all that much about how she is dressed. I'm sure she'll grow out of it.

Does she have a mirror to check in?

I would fix things like a shirt (don't want her to get teased), but wouldn't worry about things like socks.

Maybe say, "Did you check your shirt and shoes?" Or something so she has to become aware of what it is that is wrong might help also.

I would encourage her to find and fix her mistakes. Praise her for the effort and give her information as necessary, "If you put the heel on the bottom, they'll be more comfortable." Just today I told DD, "Thank you for picking out boots and putting them on. But they look a little funny. How about we trade them around so that your feet feel better today?" If I just said, "You put your boots on backwards" then she'd get upset, but if I tell her why, she seems to take that better.

You might also want to show her, at a time when you are not in a rush, how you know how your clothes go on. I've shown DD how to know her underwear is in the right direction, or what to look for so she knows it's not inside out. If you have her help you sort and fold laundry, then it can just be a conversation about clothes "Some clothes have fabric tags and some are just pressed on. Do you have more shirts like x or y?" vs her abilities.

You can also say, "Sometimes it's hard to know which way socks go, huh? Can you think of a way to remember? Should we mark a dot on the bottom?" Get her involved in a solution.

Or do a family "check" in a big mirror. "Everybody have a shirt? Pants? Socks? Are they in the right places? Are they right side out? Great! We're ready for school and work!"

I think that there are some things we need to catch at home to help our child avoid further embarrassment. Whatever you decide, I'd keep pointing it out and teaching her how to dress.

Fashion is not her thing. It's ok. So if you notice, remind her. Wouldn't you want her to tell you if you label was sticking out? :)

I'm sure, at 7, she knows how to dress herself and knows that she is doing it wrong. When you put a shirt on backwards, provided it has a tag...well, it's uncomfortable. When you put your socks on upside down and then put your shoes on, THAT'S uncomfortable. Tongues squished in the shoes are uncomfortable.

That being said, it seems like she's probably trying to ask for your help without actually admitting she doesn't want to do this on her own. Perhaps she feels like YOU feel she's big enough, and doesn't want to seem like a "baby"...but still wants help with it.

So help her! :) She is big enough to be physically capable of dressing herself, but perhaps she needs instructions on the proper way to do it and how to make yourself presentable.

And no...I am not the mother who lets her children go out with backwards shirts or shoes on the wrong feet or any other such nonsense. It truly won't help your situation to do that.

Can you lay out her clothes? I have been doing that for my 5 year old for over a year and it almost always works out fine.

My 9 year old is the same and honestly she just doesn't care yet. I am sure she will once she starts to get into boys etc, but she has always been very tom boyish. She could care less if things fit or one pant leg us up and the other down.

I just remind her to fix it, and I am sure once they get into boys etc, she will start paying more attention.

tonight take pictures of how things SHOULD look and another picture of what they shouldn't look like, try to create all her mistakes.
Print these out and post them with an X through the mistakes so she can check herself each day.
Then don't correct her again.
Make sure you give her a what if talk - what if someone in your class came with their shirt inside out? how would people react to that? etc