4 Year Old Selective Communication

My momma gut tells me that something is not right at the new school.

A. put them back to thier orginal school
B. Find a new school.

I have my 4 year old in a special school. it helps with all the issues, sensory, ADD/ADHD, other challenges, speach etc.. My son is now thriving well. But we have had to take him out of daycare and put him with a nanny etc..

With the "sudden"change in thier personality From old to new.. and comming from somone who has had to deal with a lot of child care changes in the last 1.5 years.. I would say that this change is more than just changing schools/daycare.

It does sound to me like they aren't emotionally ready for school. Or at least they aren't ready for THAT school.

I would talk to the school counselor about your concerns. But be open to the idea that they might need another year in pre-K.

I had a child in special Ed. She was in a self contained school. Then NY state said all special Ed programs should be in a regular school. Self contained school closed. So come Sept. she goes to school, comes home and says she is never going back! She meant it too. Hysterics for six weeks. My school district said she will be fine. I did not agree. So I got in my car and spent looking at other BOCES classes ( this is a program in NY). Found one that I thought was appropriate. Went back to my district and asked them to look at it and if she was not placed in a new school by Friday at 3PM I was pulling her out of school. Well Friday came and she was accepted into the class. I told my daughter about it and she was happy. I also said Daddy will take you to your old school to get your things. She would not go!! She got on a new bus, went to new school with new teachers and never looked back. She flourished in that class. What I am saying is listen to your kids. Go with your gut. Something was not right at my daughters school. Never found out what it was. It could have been something small but to her big. Listen to your children. Good luck.
Can they go back to their old school?

It sounds like to me they just don't like the new, bigger school and perhaps feel like "fish out of water" there. Is there anyway to put them back at the old school?

They should not repeat preschool just because they choose not to speak to the teacher and students in the new school. In fact, unless a child has serious disabilities, they should NEVER have to repeat preschool. It is "PRE" school meaning before school. The most important thing for them to get out of going is simply how to be in school. Your boys already know that from having been in preschool. So no way in he!! would I have them repeat.

Teachers are always looking for an excuse NOT to work with a child to get them to succeed. If the child is not "cookie cutter" the teacher wants them to repeat which means he/she will just not worry about their progress for the rest of the year because they are going to repeat anyway or they want to diagnose them with something so the parents will medicate them.

Let them earn their money! Unless the teacher lived her life in a bubble, she KNEW or SHOULD HAVE KNOWN that people come in all shapes, sizes, colors and with their own minds, likes, dislikes, etc. If she didn't want to deal with that, she should have chosen another profession. And that is exactly what I would tell her.