I have an 8 year old that was diagnosed with type I diabetes 1 1/2 years ago. It is really common for children (and adults for that matter) to go through a period of depression after being diagnosed with a cronic disease. My daughter did pretty well at first, but after about 2 months she got really depressed and didn't pull out of it for 4-5 months. Just make sure you are there for her and as supportive as possible.
Here are some things that have really helped with our daughter.
1. I followed the diabetic diet with her. She felt a lot better when she felt like the family was supporting her and she wasn't the only one who couldn't have cookies whenever she wanted. We all tried to keep treats out of the house. I also recruited my mom and my sister to follow the diet. She would get excited when she know that someone else was supporting her.
2. Get her on a pump when you can. A year after the diagnosis we put my daughter on a pump and it was such a life saver. Now she can have a snack whenever she wants and if dinner was late it wasn't a big deal. We all felt like we had our freedom back.
3. I liked the idea of testing family members and friends that was mentioned earlier. We have done that when we went to visit family and I can tell my daughter loves it when her cousins want to check their blood sugar with her.
4. Try to keep things as normal as possible. Focus on what your daughter can do, not what she can't do. Two days after getting out of the hospital we went to the zoo so that we could reinforce that most things will stay the same.
5. Have your daughter participate in nutrition decisions and let her do as much as she can when testing her sugars and getting shots.
6. One of the most helpful things that that we don't make a big deal about her diabetes. Don't get me wrong, we follow all the rules and are very careful about managing it. However, when we talk about it we act like it's no big deal.
7. It's a bit of a drive, but we are seeing Dr. Michael Swinyard in South Jordan. He is a Type I Diabetic and has been wonderful with my daughter and me. Our previous doctor was also really good, but Dr. Swinyard can relate better than our other doctors because he deals with it on a personal basis. I have been very impressed with how well he can help us keep her diabetes managed. We are moving to Idaho Falls in 2 months and I like him so much I plan on keeping him as her endocrinologist after the move.
Your daughter will get used to it over time and it will get easier. Hang in there!
Feel free to email me.
P.S. The better you are at counting carbs and measuring portions the easier a transition to a pump will be.