4 Weeks Pregnant and Doubting

I found at at only 3 weeks pregnant and at 5 weeks I started cramping and had bleeding. I rushed to my dr. and I was indeed pregnant and it was implantation bleeding but a lot of it. I had to take it easy and rest as much as possible. I bled on and off my whole first trimester and a couple weeks into the second. It was so scary thinking i was miscarring every time I saw the blood.

I had a lot of issues with the pregnancy, but ended up having a healthy baby girl 7 months ago.

I would confirm that you are pregnant first, but then if you would tell everyone anyway go ahead and let them know at Thanksgiving.

I would wait, even though you want to tell them.

I would just wait the 5 weeks and tell them at christmas. theres too many risks involved with telling everyone this early esp with you having cramping. cramping is not normal

I dont see any harm in telling them, cramping is in fact very normal in early pregnancy. Besides, even an early miscarriage is hard and you will want love and support. I would ask them to test your hcg and progestrone levels, if your progestrone is low you can certinally ask for a supplement to help. HTH
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Cramping can be a normal part of pregnancy. I had cramping and spotting with both of my pregnancies, which both turned out to be nothing to worry about.
It is very unusual to get a false positive on a pregnancy test so it is highly unlikely you are not pregnant. Congratulations :)
The midwife will probably have you do a pee sample so they can confirm the pregnancy, but they just use the same sort of test as you would at home really.
I say tell people when you want to. We found out on Thanksgiving morning that we were expecting our second child, and decided it would be the perfect time to tell everyone what we were thankful for. We announced it at dinner that day with our closest friends.
Congratulations on your news.

Well I am no MD, but I am 9 months prego. This is my third pregnancy so I kind of thought I knew it all. My hubby and I had not been trying to have another as I have my hands full with 2 boys already. So when I had a missed period and cramping and a little nausia I was thinking something was wrong. My hubby bought me a pregnancy test and said he was sure that was it! I took it and passed out when it said it was positive. I have had cramping the whole time and just a totaly differnt pregnancy then what my last two were! Turns out I'm having a girl so I'm guessing that would be the reason for the differance since all the tests I have had turned out great. I wish you as much luck in your pregnancy. remember they are all different so get a MD take on it before you start to worry to much. Good luck!

I had cramping like crazy when I was pregnant with both of my kids. The cramping was so bad I was convinced I was getting my period both times before I took the pregnancy test. Then after I found out I was pregnant I was sure I was going to miscarry. I was even bleeding in early pregnancy with both of them. But I now have 2 healthy little kiddos! The cramping can be normal and can just be a sign of implantation.

I had cramping early on with my current pregnancy (2nd baby). I'm now 23wks and everything is going great! I did have 2 early miscarraiges prior to this pregnancy that started with cramping, so I was VERY paranoid about it, sure I'd lose this one too.
My advice to you would be to have the midwife run a blood test and go from there. Explain your symptoms and concerns to her. If you guys want to tell your family on Thanksgiving, go ahead (after your blood work has come back). Everyone tells family at different times. We waited till 13wk (Christmas) with our 3yr old DS, but told them around 10wks or so with this one. They knew after each of the miscarraiges, but not before them.
All you can do at this point is try to be positive and not worry TOO much (I know, it's way easier said than done). My theory after my second m/c was hope and pray for the best, but expect the worst.
I hope everything goes well for you guys and that next Thanksgiving you'll be celebrating with a new little one!

If the pregnancy test said positive then you are definitely prego. I've been prego five times and I have three little ones now. Unfortunetly this early and having cramping isn't always good but it could just be your nerves messing with you. I never had any cramping. I had one chemical pregnancy. The test showed positive and a couple days later I started to lightly bleed. I have also had one miscarriage at 9 weeks, baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. Personally, I would wait til Christmas to tell family but I totally understand you wanting family to know now to be there for you in case of something goes wrong. You could take another pregnancy test and also have blood work done to confirm your levels are rising. good luck

My first pregnancy I thought I was getting my period because I had slight cramping and spotting right around when I would have gotten my period. I told my mom and best friend right away since no matter what happened I would need to talk to them for support. I waited to the 3 month point to tell the whole extended family.

In your situation I might wait to tell you SIL. Even, or maybe especially, if you have a healthy pregnancy you may need to be sensitive to her. She may be dealing with her own emotions and not be able to be happy for you right now.

I am currently only about 14 weeks with my second baby and I had some cramping too when I found out. I also cramped with my son. I think your ok, but if you are still worried have your midwife check you and makes sure everything checks out. Better safe then then worrying. :) You'll be fine. Congrats and good luck. :)

Hi, Im happy for you and I totally understand your anxiety about this pregnancy. I hope my response makes you feel better....I'm 18 weeks pregnant, I have a 2.5 year old, and we lost our first to miscarriage at 13 weeks after loosing symptoms at 9 weeks. I didn't have many symptoms with my son so I worried that something was wrong with my current pregnancy when I had lots of cramping. Turns out this is normal according to the midwife. It's since tapered off but if I overdue exercise and activity, the cramping returns which is also normal.

As for your search for a midwife, we tried to have our son naturally at a birth center in Texas but his head was tilted and I needed help. Good news was the hospital was a block away so I was there quickly, got an epidural, and petosin. I loved, I mean, LOVED the epi after many hours of natural, hard labor. So when we found out number two was coming we began our search for a midwife but I still wanted the option to get a epidural. Long story short, two hospitals in the area have doctors and midwives that practice together. We go to one at St. Vincents not to far from the zoo and there is another hospital across the river that has a similar practice. In fact, my natropathic doctor planned a home birth but was transferred there and got an epidural. Here's the number for our doctor's office ###-###-####.

As for when to tell everyone, I say go for it at anytime. We told at 10 weeks and lost the baby at 13 and we were glad for the support of family and friends. With my son we told at 14 and at 8 with the current baby. We learned that the support that we receive is worth the risk.

I would wait to me sure you are pregnant before you tell anyone. I know you are excited but it doesn't make sense to me to say anything if you aren't even sure.