3 Years Old Son Wont Poop in Potty !

What happens if you leave him with nothing on? Totally naked on the bottom with a long shirt. Will he poop on the floor? You might try it on a weekend or when you have time to just stay home. If its cold crank up the heat for a day or two. Be positive about it and don't traumatize him or make a big issue if he hates to be naked. My kids loved to be naked so it was no biggy. When he has to go he might panic a little just run him into the potty and say we go in here and have a reward he likes. I always said the diapers were all gone and the underwear was all dirty. Good Luck:)

I had the same problem when my guy was three too. I actually bribed him...I bought a toy he really wanted and put it high enough where he could not reach it, but could see it. I told him that as soon as he pooped in the potty he could have it. It worked like a charm! Good luck

He may not be ready for that step just yet. According to my pediatrician, boys potty train on average at 3 1/2. He may not be fully there yet. One thing that helped our son was getting the book "Everybody Poops." He loved reading the book and it helped to explain what a natural thing it is, and shows that boys go in a potty. We didn't push it, but he started to want to explore going on the potty all on his own. When your son is ready, he'll naturally take to it. It does help though to get some potty books so he can grasp the concept. I also have some other potty training story books that my son loved and even though he's long potty trained still enjoys reading now and then. I'd just visit your local bookstore and explore books that have a cute story about moving from diapers to a potty. But definitely, I highly recommend "Everybody Poops." It's one of those books I'm not sure I would have naturally picked up, but it came highly recommended and was probably the best one we purchased! He really took to it!

Best of luck to you as I know it's a challenging process!

Hi S.,My name is L. just to let you know that i had that problem before to my younger son too, i could'nt wait until his ready to use the potty to poop i did'nt have a problem on him to do # 1 but i've been encouraging him to do potty #2, sometimes i bring books inside the bathroom and read it to him or sing a song and rent the dvd from the library so he can watch it and see how it works untii one day that he feels like his ready so he run to the bathroom and seat then told me to close the door and he will call me when his ready to be wash. So my advice to you is just be patient and you will see.Actually my son learned how to do # 2 when he was 3 1/2 years old already. Thank God..

Hi S.,
I asked this same question over the summer for my 3 1/2 year old son. My son was in undies 24/7 until he needed to go potty and then he would ask for a pull-up. Well I didn't get any full-proof answers as each child is different. I know that the "experts" say boys are slower to potty train than girls but I figured if he could ask for a pull-up he knew he had to go so he should be able to go in the potty!! He always squatted with his diaper or pull-up so I thought the problem was he couldn't squat on the toilet. And he didn't even want to try. So when he would ask for a pull-up I would tell him to try on the toilet while I get the pull-up. And he always had a potty insert and a stool for his feet. UNTIL we went on vacation and didn't have either at the hotel. I had brought pull-ups and sent him to the toilet until I could go get it. Well since he had neither a stool or an insert, he had to hold himself up. This meant that his bottom was lowered inside the toilet (like squatting) and as he waited for me a tiny bit came out!! We made a big deal out of it of course. A few days after we came home, he tried it without the insert and it happened! He was SOOO proud of himself that he walked around singing the "poopy in the potty" song! I had already bought his reward that sat by the toilet until that day. We all made a huge deal about it and since that day he goes just fine on his own, no insert. I think with the stool and the insert he just wasn't in the right position. So, be patient b/c it will happen when he is ready!! I was afraid to force the issue and have him hold it in which I knew was not healthy. So, I am not sure if that helps at all, but at least you know he is NORMAL!!

Good luck!
J.

Don't worrie this is normal of for the poddying training faz suggesting maybe he should watch ethier you or your husband go if he does'nt understand already. 2. put up a rewards chart over his poddy chair or toilet and let him know that every time he goes he will be rewarded you could use can stars or smilies, ethier way when he's ready he'll
go,with allot of praise every time he sits on the poddy.
Good luck.

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Be grateful that he is peeing inthe potty. My daughter wouldn't poop in the potty until she was over four. I pushed it and she ended up constipated. Trust me, you don't want that and neither will your son. Back off, he'll get there. Good luck.

Kids have full control of the # 2 don't push him to do so, kids freak that a part of them is being flushed down the toilet, you just have to catch him the right time while he is doing it, take your time your half way down training..

My son was pee potty trained for 3 months before he was poop trained. It had ended up becoming a power struggle, so we just backed off for a few weeks. We had him tell us when he needed to poop and he would put on a pull-up. Finally, one day he was outside playing and told me he needed a pull-up to poop. It was obvious it was an urgent need. I rushed him inside and sat him on the toilet, telling him I was going to get a pull-up from his room. Of course, he couldn't hold it and he went in the toilet. He was so excited and proud of himself and he's never needed a pull-up since then. If you think it's become a power struggle or he's scared, then maybe backing off for a bit will help. Catching him at the perfect timing would probably also be great to boost his confidence that he can poop in the potty. Oh yeah, he was 3 years 4 months when he was finally completely trained.

There are a few answers to your question, but taking your time is important. When he does poop in his pants/diaper/pull-up you should go with him to the potty and put the poop in the potty with him standing there and flush it and make a big deal out of it. "bye, bye poop!!!" Are you using a potty chair that you can move to a different location? He may need more privacy for example. Do you know when he poops?? As in the time of day?? Does he hide to poop?? Is he active and playing when he poops?? I watched my kids for all of these cues to use them to help with potty training. Some kids will poop at nap time when they are more relaxed for example. So, my advice is to be patient, watch his habits and use them to help with potty training and try to help him feel comfortable with his poop going in the potty even from his pants. Good Luck!!!

Hi, I had the same problem with my son. First off, let me tell you once he was trained there were no accidents. I also used "poo poo presents". I got a bunch of little stuff that I knew he would like from the 99cent store. I wrapped them and and when he went he got to choose and open it. That took less than a week. Hang in there!!!

Hi S., my first question would be to you is what are the coinsequences when he does not poop in the potty? I ask that because when a parent tells me a child won't do something they are told to do or supossed to do, that is flat out defiance, and if there is not discipline or coinsequences there's no reason for it to change. At 3 sweetie he is way old enough to have the undersatnding about pooping in the potty. So what I think you should do now id talk to your husband about a form of discipline, so you are the sanme page, and work together to get you son Pooping on the potty, I started my kids fairly young with potty training, but I used the reward and discipline with all 3 of my kids all now grown, but I use the same method with my daycare kids. Good luck, hope i didn't offend you, if i did it was not my intention, and I wish you the best of luck with this. J. L.

This is pretty common for all children. I found that a lot of why this is so, is that the kids don't want to take the time to stop what they are doing and sit on the toilet. I broke this habit by constantly sitting them on the toilet. Interrupt their activities with frequent trips to the bathroom. It sucks and it is very time consuming for you as the parent but if yo keep this up, your child WILL BE COMPLETELY POTTY TRAINED in less than one month.

One they are out of diapers it is better to let them mess their pants a few times then it is to put diapers back on them.

Hi S.,

I went through the same thing with my son. When he was 2, he would pee in the toilet, but asked for a diaper for "#2." I had visions of him going off to college and having to explain to his college roommate why he had a box of Depends. What worked for me...He got a Bob the Builder sticker book for his 3rd birthday and really wanted to have it (he was a big-time Bob the Builder fan at 3). We put it in the bathroom and told him that he could put a sticker in it when he pooped in the toilet. After several days of looking at the sticker book longingly, he decided to poop in the toilet and never asked for a diaper again. We kept the book in the bathroom for when he pooped. After he established the routine of pooping in the toilet, then we let him take the sticker book out of the bathroom and play with it.

From what I've heard from friends and from my experience, this is a very common thing with boys. Your son won't go off to college or get married with adult diapers, no matter what you're thinking now :)

I already submitted this answer to another similar question, but it's the same answer for you...

Ok, this is totally gross but... My son, when he was 3, would pee in the potty and ask for a diaper when he needed to poop. I accommodated, because everyone says let them get there when they're ready. Until we went to an amusement park and I forgot to bring diapers in with us. Between every line and ride he was crying to go to the bathroom but then we would get there and he wouldn't do anything. He would just sit on the potty and whine that he needed a diaper. I begged, pleaded, cajoled, nothing worked. He would get up and have done nothing. We would go back out, meet up with everyone, stand in line and he would start crying again, that he HAD to go! So back to the bathrooms, repeat chorus. Finally, he couldn't hold it in anymore and he messed his pants, but just a little bit. So back to the bathrooms, clean him up, beg him to go in the potty, rinsed out his undies, dried them under the hand dryer, back out again. We did this for HOURS. I swear, that child pooped across the entire park. Finally, FINALLY, he had released enough to be done, near the end he got some of it in the toilet because my dad made him sit there while he cleaned his underwear again (me & hubby were on a ride at the time). But, this seemed to break the diaper cycle and he never had a problem again. So, it was ugly, and very hard, but not having the option of the diaper was what finally put him pooping on the potty. ---suggestion? carry a change of undies & pants and then take him out for the day without diapers. Then he doesn't have an option except to go in the potty and you have a spare set of clothes if he messes his pants.

My daughter on the other hand, was fairly easy. When she decided to start going, she just went. She peed on the potty for a week, and then I took her to the store for a "good job" present for peeing in the potty. I let her pick out a second gift too. When we got home, she only got to open one gift. The other went up on the shelf and I told her when she made poop in the potty, she could have that one. Within a couple days, she yelled for me to come to the bathroom and sure enough! Success! There was much celebrating and hoopla, and she got her special toy and we've not had even one accident since. ---suggestion? reward for positive behavior.

ok, kind of gross, but make a game out of it. Poop astroids, Poop bombers. Put some cheerios in the toilet before he has to go & count how many he bombs. You must do your best to sink the the asteroids!

I just wrote this to another mama, so I thought it might help you, too.

I have potty trained my 2 girls now, and poop was a challenge with both of them. Most recently, my daughter (who was 27mo at the time) would panic when she would start to go, and then jump off the potty. She went a couple of times, but she was really worried and upset about it the whole time, although proud as could be afterwords. We would do everything we could think of to keep her sitting there, hoping the need to go would overcome her fear. She finally started running away when she had to go. I was worried that she would get traumatized, and was thinking about giving up, but my husband reminded me how close we were, and said to keep going. The next time she had to go and started crying and trying to run away, I asked her if she wanted to go 'silly poo poo'. She was intrigued enough to stop crying and running. I told her that it would be 'very silly poo poo' to put the potty seat in the yard somewhere and go outside. She laughed and wanted to try going silly poo poo. Sure enough, she picked a spot in the yard, and went without a big deal. That seemed to get her over the big hurdle, and really only had one poop accident after that.

We also had a box of 'poo poo prizes', which were some Backyardigans beanie babies and books, which is her favorite tv show. She got to choose one of these prizes each time she went poop in the potty. There were only 10 in the box, and once she earned them all, she no longer needed the rewards as an incentive to go. She is now almost 2 1/2, and she is doing amazing at using the potty, even wearing underwear for naps and nighttime.

You've had great success with going pee, so just try to hang on to your patience, and he'll figure it out. Good luck!

Mostly, just don't put any pressure on him. You can always suggest it, and certainly have a small incentive ("when you go poop on the potty we will go have ice cream together...or go to the park") but never be disappointed in him - he's still very young and it can take quite a while. You're totally within range, so don't worry. When he pee's, praise him like crazy and be sure to make it clear that you're happy about it because it's on the potty - so that he knows that's the key! Sometimes, a couple weeks (or even a couple months) of no pressure can change everything - then he will try again and be successful.
M.

We just started potty training our soon to be 3 year old daughter about 3 weeks ago. She held her poop in for 2 days the first week. We noticed that she needed quiet private time alone to concentrate on releasing her stool. We bargained with her, as I had a Cabbage Patch doll brand new in a box that I saved for her from last Christmas. We communicated to her that once she releases her stool she would receive this gift. When she did, she received the doll immediately and she was so proud of herself and so were we. Daddy explained to her that she would never, ever, ever go back to diapers again and we were on our way. It took a good week for her to realize that releasing her stool in the toilet was not as frightening as she thought and that her tummy would feel much better. Til this day, she still prefers private time and does not want anyone around while she releases her stool. I know all kids are different, but this is our current situation. Hope this is helpful and best of luck as once your child has accomplished their potty training skills it is so well worth it!

Hi S.,
My son did the same thing because it was "scary" to go on the potty. One weekend we went away, took the potty with us and said, "No more diapers" (he wasn't peeing on the potty either at that point). The first day he peed in the potty and the 2nd day he pooped and said, "That wasn't scary". If you think your son might respond well to this maybe try taking away the diapers. (We did keep pull ups on at night until he was able to wake himself to go).

Another suggestion is a behavior chart where he would get stickers if he poops on the potty then gets a treat after a week or whatever amount of time you think is good.

Good luck! Hope this helps.

Aloha,

I am also a mother of three, aren't they all so different? Anyhow my 2 cent advice is do not force him or even think about it or talk about it anymore, do not act like it means anything to you, give him a diaper, or put it on him when you think he needs to go, and as soon as he is ready he will poop in the potty. Sounds simple, and it is, most doctors, nurses and mothers alike(who have had that issue)will tell you not to rush it or he will have a problem for years!!!! My daughter's god mother great mom, person and nurse gave me this advice, because with her first child of several she pushed and pushed, and to this day she has to tell her daughter when to go potty and she is almost 14. God Luck!

#1. He's a BOY. they're slower and need more time.
#2. My 2 boys went in the potty at 5 years-completely; and 3.5 years-completely.
#3. Since they are NOT at school yet and you are not forced to potty train, don't cause yourself or child to be overly anxious.
#4. Very expensive, but we ran to target and got a "book" or coloring book as a reward. It worked, little costly, but it worked.
#5. When he's ready, he'll poop.