3 Week Old Crying When We Put Her Down

Totally normal. Some babies are just like this. The pediatrition in the hospital noticed this right off the bat when my son was born. She suggested in investing in a sling. It was great advice. I'd recommend the same so you can carry her and also get things done with free arms.

My son did grow out of it on his own. When you're will -- I don't know. I do know that it will be over in a flash and you will be missing the days she would cuddle in your arms. I will also add that despite my son's insistence on being held, he's very independent and not clingy in the least.

Hi J.,
I can relate. My son, now 2, was not much of a cuddly baby. He was happy as a clam in his bouncy chair and swing. My daughter, now 12 weeks, was the exact opposite and always wanted to be held. Personally, I loved it. These babies grow up so fast that I just cherished how cuddly she was. At 12 weeks, so is less so - but still more than her brother ever was! I wore her in a sling A LOT and she loved it - but at this point, she likes to be out of it more and I already miss it (at 12 weeks!). So enjoy it...and good luck!

Hi J., don't worry about spoiling her now - she can't soothe herself yet. (I always think to myself, "you don't see any 15 year olds being carried around by their moms") ; )

I second Jill Ann's recommendation of "the Happiest Baby on the Block". Great book, and you might be able to get it and the DVD at the library. Also try 1/2 price books. It's such a shock to be out of the womb, I'm supprised they all don't cry and want to be held all the time. Take care and good luck!

Hi J.,

It sounds like you have 2 kiddos with very different personalities! Your baby is normal but just needs this constant body contact to feel secure. She will grow out of it eventually, probably around the 6 month mark when she starts crawling. In the meantime, enjoy the snuggle time and don't forget to ask family and friends for help.

J., I have a 10 week old baby girl right now and am having a completely different experience with her than with my son 5 years ago. When I brought her home from the hospital, I tried swaddling her for a few days and she kept getting out of it so I thought she didn't need to be swaddled. A girlfriend came by and told me that she is probably startling herself awake without being swaddled. SO, I started swaddling her at night using the swaddling technique from The Happiest Baby on the Block video & book. It was amazing the difference, she was sleeping for 3 hours at a time and she only got up to feed and went back to sleep. I now am using the MIRACLE BLANKET which is really easy to use and she can't get out of it. In the afternoon I also swaddle her and put her in the swing on a fast speed (you can open up the blanket at the bottom so her legs are free) and she sleeps for 3 hour naps! The other saving grace is white noise. I made a CD by downloading sounds from the internet, of white noise, blow dryer sounds and womb sounds. I play the white noise next to her bassinet all night long. If she fusses I turn on the blow dryer noise really loud and she goes back to sleep within minutes. I also have a bassinet that vibrates and if she starts to fuss I turn that on and sometimes that alone calms her down. If you haven't read or watched the video of The Happiest Baby on the Block that is well worth looking into! The difference with this baby and my son is I didn't swaddle my son because I thought he didn't like it and I used a womb sound in his room but put it on quietly because I thought he wouldn't like it loud SO I gave up and thought that didn't work either. NOW I wish I knew those simple techniques with him, I may have gotten more sleep back then! HA! ALSO, you could play the sounds near her if you set her down in a bouncy seat, it may soothe her and keep her from crying. Anyway, my daughter is 10 weeks old and has been sleeping thru the night since 7 weeks, I believe it has something to do with using the techniques because she really likes them. Sorry for the long winded answer, hope it makes sense and hope some of it works for you! Enjoy your little one and keep snuggling her like crazy! : )