2 Year Old Potty Training - Mesquite,TX

I have ascertained two things about potty training from my own experience and that of my friends.
1) no pull-ups (except when sleeping). If you're doing it, you do it all the way. No switching for an outing, etc. Don't get me wrong, pull-ups are fine as an alternative to a diaper, but if you're actively potty training, it's undies all the way.
2) if the kid doesn't want to do it, stop trying. It's a control/power battle. The more you want it to happen, the less she'll make it happen. Let it go, let her decide. "OK, if you don't want to pee pee in the potty, that's fine. I'll put these panties away until you're ready." Then re-stock her dresser drawer with diapers.

My daughter was the same way. I had searched on the internet for some different ways to try and found one where you take about 2-3 days and really work with them on training. You have a little "goodbye diaper ceremony", and then it's nothing but undies. I'll warn you, you will be doing lot's of washing! I bought about 30 pairs of undies! You give them liquids constantly, so they have to go potty. Another thing that helped us was getting my daughter her own potty chair. We got the one made by Boon. It has a place for toilet paper and to put some books. That helps the time go by when you are sitting there for a while. We had a sticker chart and each time she went on the potty, she got a sticker. That was very exciting for her. She was potty trained by the 3rd day. We did have to go to Pull-Ups at night because she just can't make it all night yet. The website is www.easypottytraining.com
Good luck with which ever way you go! If your daughter is like mine, you have got your hands full!!!

Have you tried a reward system? That's how my mother potty trained my sisters and I and how I plan on training my son. They go to the potty with the parent and sit on thier potty while the parent sits/tries ... if you both go you both get a m&m or a treat they will recognize as a reward, if one goes that person gets one. Once it's consistant ... begin to give the treat only for stool then begin to make it only for keeping dry all day and soon they wont need the reward. Try it ... it just might be the relief you are looking for.

hey there!! i feel your pain! i have a 2 year old that will tell you when she is "stinky" and when she is "tee tee". brings me a and wipies. she will tell you where it goes and where the potty is, but WILL NOT GO!! i also have 3 more kids that i have done this with before. my boys are 2 months apart and one was trained by the time he was 21 months are the other one didn't do it untill he was almost 4. don't rush don't push and don't yell. the only problem with stickers and candy is that they will end up wanting a reward everytime or wanting one any time they do something right. boys are easier...GOD LOVE CHERIOS! hope you will make it through and don't lose your head and always remember all kids are potty trained in school :P good luck and just pray...lol

R., I had the same problem with my daughter.Give her time believe me it will all come together.I set the timer and every two hours I sat her on the potty. i was beginning to think she was never going to be trained and then a week before she turned three,she started going. she still had a few accidents, but that was usually when she was outside playing and waited to long before running for the bathroom. Good Luck,A.

My two year old daughter is just now getting interested in the potty as well. She's doing very well recently, we keep panties on her so she feels wet. My son didn't get potty trained until he was 3 1/2. He knew how just wasn't interested at all. Good luck.

I agree with both responses. My daughter was advanced too, and I did with her the same as my mom did with me. Put her in regular panties or cloth training panties(NO pull-ups!) during the day and just let her run around in them. She messed up in them a couple times, and after really feeling the wetness, decided she'd rather use the potty. She was in diapers at night for a bit longer, but it didn't take long for her to stay dry through the night. We had a lapse for about 6 months where she wouldn't use the potty, then she just picked up where she left off, and has been going fine ever since.

well, i have a 3-yr-old boy, so ... but i have learned that you cannot force them and cannot put one ounce of pressure on them and cannot impose any negativity onto them when accidents occur or they refuse to go.
our son was almost 100% there this summer, and the only reason we started was for pre-school -- we had to -- and now after bouts with constipation from him holding poops for days, we're back in diapers EXCEPT for school days (2 days/week) where he wears undies.
we ask him all the time, every day about going in the toilet, etc., and he says 'no' and we say okay and move on.
just let your daughter lead you.

my son did the same thing some times it takes awhile and others you have to reward there good deads try coloing books or stickers everytime she goes. not anything big just somethin to let her know she did a good job and tell her what a big girl she it everytime she does it. Also i put my son in bigh boy undies and we stoped using the diapers one day i kept them around but out of his view and after about a week or so he had it down you also just have to ask them all the time and make sure that they go before bed and that will help with they night time pottys in the bed. Its harder for mom and dad then it is the kids during this time

R.:

I don't know if this helps or not, but I worked with my daughter on potty training at home, day-care, etc. from the time she was 18 months old as she too did show signs she was ready, to no avail. She would go in her training pants all day all, not care if she was wet, but at night was a different story. She would get up at night and use the potty, never wet her diaper at night or the bed for that matter. So she was trained at night but not during the day. Odd I know. Then she had her 3rd B-day and never had an accident again.

So the long and short of it, is be patient. It will heppen when they are ready. I worked in day-care for 20 years and know it cannot be pushed or forced without usually driving them the opposite way, so be patient.

J.

My daughter is potty trained and has been since she was 20 months old. She is very advanced. It sounds like your daughter is advanced as well, and can used the potty. I Potty Training 1-2-3 by the Ezzos, and some of the methods in that book really work. When she understood the concept, I put her in Gerber training pants during the day, it is a lot of work, but it really helps them to understand that they are wet. I bought like 20 pairs and washed them, almost every day. Then I rewarded her for staying DRY. The book suggests going this to reward them for staying DRY, not just for going in the potty. Every couple of hours, I would ask her if she is dry, and she would feel and say YES, give her a small reward, like sticker, something they really like. Then get in the habit of taking her every couple of hours at first to the potty and they will go, and give them a reward for going as well. In a week or so, they will wanting to stay dry. As they get better, the reward taper off, but it works for us.

hi sahm. it seems your little girl may have a little performance anxiety. it's good to keep asking her if she needs to potty and even sitting her on it for awhile to see if she goes. i had the same frustration with my little girl now 5 and little boy now 4. try not to put so much pressure on her "going". she will do it when the time is right for her. my children started going potty when i relaxed about it. they just all of a sudden do it one day. she is only two. most children should be fully potty trained by age 3. they will have night time accidents but that is completely normal even up to age 5. i was very lucky with my children. they have been potty trained since ages 2 and 3. even stopped having night time accidents at the same time. just be patient and she will start to understand! hope this helps, T. p.s. another thing and a lot of parents may disagree but i allowed my daughter to watch me go to see that it wasn't so bad. my daughter was scared she was going to fall in and also scared there was a monster in the toilet that was going to bite her hiney, lol... my son had the same issue about the toilet monster. i am not sure where they get this idea but i hear it is pretty common. i want to add one more thing after reading all of the responses. i kept my children in pull ups until they were completely trained. they know when they are wet regardless of what they are wearing. wouldn't you? they get comfortable in their pulls ups and diapers and that is normal. sometimes if that is taken away from them they really get shy and embarrassed when they have accidents. i tried that with both of my children and the effects were no different with pull ups verses undies. they need our guidance. but will go only when they are ready not when we are ready. and another thing when you think they are trained just to be cautious keep them in undies at home and put them in a pull up when you leave the house. this will prevent accidents messing up your car and having to change their clothes after an accident when you're out.

I have a two year old boy who seems to be going through something similar. Give her time and she will go when she's ready. Just keep reminding her daily about the potty. You could try withholding her favorite snack in exchange for sitting on the potty. If she sits on the potty after she's done give her the treat anyway. This will get her accustomed to being on the pot.

My son went through a period about 3 months after being potty trained, which coincided with turning 2, of not wanting to sit on the potty. Like your daughter, he'd done it plenty of times, understand and could talk about it, didn't want the diaper, etc. But I could see that he needed to pee, would ask/tell him to go to the potty, and he would say no. Or that he didn't have to pee. Even when his underwear were wet!! This went on for about 2 months. In retropsect I think that it might have been one of two things - he was learning to hold it/see how long he could go without actually going to the potty and what happens with his body if he doesn't go. Or I think that maybe he was just needing to be in control of the process himself. I stopped pushing the potty on him, just got him dry underwear as needed, let him know that he was in charge of peeing and to get himself to the bathroom if he needed to go, etc. It was a phase that just passed, although at the time I felt it was challenging.