2 1/2 Year Old Getting Her Ears Peirced?

Updated on December 18, 2008
F.G. asks from Fort Worth, TX
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Ok my husband ever since we had a girl he wanted to have her ears peirced I said no. I dont' want to do that to my baby we will wait unitl she can make that choice when she is older like 5 or 6. Well we had another girl same debate but then I started thinking well maybe when she was little but never did because she had bad ear infections. Now my 2 1/2 year old has been encouraged by my mother in law and husband to tell me that she wants her ears pierced. Is it too late? Has anyone gotten their daughters ears pierced at this age? I want to be really careful with this and make the right choice pleae any opions will help! Thanks!

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Wow thank you! I am going to stick to my guns on this and as one mom said tell my mother in law to mind her own buisness! LOL! I have always been worried about infections and her pulling them out and not wanting me to clean them that is just way too much drama for me right now! She can wait like I did and almost everyone else and decide when she is older. Once again thank you soo much!

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C.A.

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I personally would not pierce my baby's ears. It is a decision I would leave to my little girl. I didn't have my done until I asked for it when I was about 10 years old. My mom went over the pros and cons (risk of infection, care, etc) with me and let me decide. When I decided to do it she took me to have it done and then took me out to dinner without my brothers. It is one of my special "girl" memories I have with my mom.

I don't necessarily see anything wrong with a little girl having her ears pierced, I just don't think it is necessary. I'm also hesitant to put holes in someone else's body without their informed input and at 2 1/2 I don't think she really understands. She is just saying what Daddy and Grandma want her to.

Good Luck.

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M.D.

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I'm agree with the mamas... I personally would wait until she is older. My daughter got them done on her 6th birthday, when she asked if she could have them done. They had two girls at once pierce her ears with the guns. The problem is one of the guns jammed as it was going into her ear. She's never been the type to let people see her cry, but tears just streamed down her face. I let her pick out earrings for her birthday. The biggest problem she had was once she could take her studs out, the cheap earrings she picked out, she was allergic too and she got a nasty infection. We got it under control for awhile, but she always wanted to wear the wrong kind of earrings. After awhile I let them just close up because they got so bad. She had them re-done when she turned 11. She has taken much better care of them too and realizes she can only were certain kinds.
It's up to you and your husband, grandma shouldn't have a say in this one... However, if you allow her to get them done, I would make your husband go with you and see her cry, because she will. Also, make him responsible for cleaning her ears, changing the earrings, etc. And if her ears are sensitive and she can't sleep for the first couple of nights, have him stay up with her.
Good Luck!

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L.T.

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I did my daughters at 3 months. It was simple and never had any issues. I am not sure I would do a 2 1/2 year old.

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J.D.

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I see you have gotten a lot of responses on this one, but I will chime in. A child should get their ears pierced when they are 6 months or they should wait until they are old enough to completely clean themselves and can take responsibility for the care. The possibility of her playing with her ears with dirty hands or ripping the earrings out is too great at age 2.5. I have opted to wait until my daughter is older. My best friend tried at 2 and her little girls ears got so infected they had to cut the earring out of her lobes. They can swell up that fast.

So I would tell your husband she is too young and needs to wait. This is my personal opinion, but take care of your baby as only a mother knows how.

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T.F.

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I'm with Christine on this one.

There is nothing wrong with pierced ears, however, I do not "own" my daughter's body. Her body = her choice in my opinion.

My daughter will be 14 next month. She chose to get her ears pierced around age 10 and 1 ear kept giving her problems. She was very good at caring for her ears, he issue was not due to poor care. She chose to let them grow up and has no desire for pierced ears now.

I also look at it this way......I have a tattoo that I chose to get and I do not regret it but I would NEVER tattoo my daughter just because I wanted her to have one. It is her choice.

It certainly sounds like your little one is being influenced to ask for pierced ears. If you choose to go ahead and do it....let her dad and grandmother take her since they seem to want it so badly.

I mean no offense to anyone.....

Happy Holidays.

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C.T.

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Why not let your daughter decide when she is older if she wants them pierced? I agree with you, I would wait and tell my mother in law to mind her own business.

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J.J.

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we let our girls decide this one. My oldest got hers done when she was about 8 - did fantastic - my little one asked for over a year and finally got them done at 5 - she also did great!! I had to wait until I was 12 - but had no problem letting my girls get theirs done. We had to help my 5 year old at first with cleaning - she doesn't like to change her earrings - keeps her studs in - she is good about turning them regularly.

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A.

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Hi F.,

I agree with Christine. I think this is a decision your daughter should be allowed to make when she is older and knows what this entails. I also see ear piercing as a type of right-of-passage for girls (we get so few that we can have control over!), something you get to share with her when she is ready.

My husband and I had a similar conversation when my daughter was born, although it was a girlfriend of mine at the time who was trying to convince him this needed to be done. Not having sisters or younger female relatives when he was growing up, he didnt get what ear piercing entailed.

As far as your husband and MIL are concerned (your husband may not understand, your MIL is not the mother), it really isnt their business. As her mother, its your right to say no if you feel your daughter is too young for this, or needs to wait. And at 2.5, your daughter may be too young for this decision.

I hope this helps. It sounds like you are a good and strong mother. Good luck!

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P.G.

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From personal experience I say wait till she's older. I had mine done when I was about 10, and one ear kept getting infected. She's going to play with them with germy, dirty hands and that's NOT going to be fun.

Also, it's a nice "coming of age" thing for a young girl to get her ears pierced. Why blow that at 2.5 years? It means nothing to them at that age. It's a BIG deal when you're a tween and can't wait to do it.

I don't understand why your husband wants to do it unless it's a cultural thing. But I say, have HIM get his ears pierced to see how much work it is to take care of them! Cause I'm sure he's not the one who'll be cleaning, turning, etc. the earings and soothing her when they get infected. (I could be wrong here ;) LOL) Mom-in-law won't be taking care of it either, I'm sure.

Good luck!

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