2 1/2 Year Agressive/frustrated in Daycare- Indigo Child?

Yes a child as young as 2 can exhibit bipolar or mood disorder, especially if they are "gifted" or advanced for their age.

Advanced children can show "behavior problems", they question authority figures more, they may seem hyper, or just in their own world.

My son is six years old, he has always had aggression issues, and "tested" authority figures. It was frustrating to say the least. He is a very lovable child and would show empathy. But at times he will show a lot of aggressive behavior. He has been tested as gifted. He is showing signs of possible ADHD, as he says I feel like a spring inside, and I try so hard to calm down, but I just can't.

I wish I would have pushed for theraphy sooner. I kept thinking it was something that I would help him through. I was being told it was a phase, and try this or try that.
He has gotten better since he can communicate his feelings better. I knew he needed some help when he was able to tell me he wants help with how he feels inside ( it was heart breaking). He goes for his first evaluation next week.

I know somethings that has helped us was rountine and letting him know his schedule and be apart of making his schedule. Free play with little or no say from me, of course you have to keep them safe, his favorite thing is hiking in the woods, breaking open nuts or sticks and discoving things.

I think you are exactly in the right direction, about seeking further help.

Best of luck!

I am currently taking a Child Psychology class but have not ran into the term indego child yet. The class is going slow due to my work schedule.

But the behavior you describe is something I have seen in so many of my kids at one time or another. I have seen kids like your son get better with time. But more times than not I haven't seen the changes made because parents so often become upset with the caregiver or preschool and change several times before they realize that it's not the teachers fault.

I have a boy now that is 5 years old in the daycare. He is capable of all those behaviors. But he is on meds and yes they do think he has bi-polar. When he came to me he was mostly over the violence but we saw just enough of it to see what he is capable of unmedicated. I am not a fan of medication but I know that for some kids it is very necessary. But what I want you to know is that this child has become almost a different child while in my care. I am the first person he actually has decided to like and it's taken months. He was kicked out of 4 places prior to coming to me.

If you ever want to bounce ideas off of someone, feel free to email me privately anytime. I come on here to check early mornings and sometimes late at night or during quiet time.

Suzi

I have done a limited amount of reading about Indigo Children---this is not a mainstream psychological term - and I am sure most traditional therapists wouldn't give it a second thought.

From what I know the label of Indigo - if it exists and is applied to your ds it would not really help in understanding his aggression.

Typically at this age, as others have said, aggression is a sign of frustration. It may be he wants more 'family time' or more challenge intellectually....

I think the first step is to recognize aggression as some sign that he has a need that isn't being met.

While mental disorders are being diagnosed at earlier ages, I would be hesitant to medicate a child so young w/out first trying other approaches. My concern is that the medications that affect brain chemistry can have permanent effects beyond the 'treatment effect' - and little is known about the effects on developing brains. For obvious reasons we don't test drugs on little kids - so essentially those kids being placed on the meds are guinea pigs. (I realize that in many cases that may be the only/best solution to a really terrible situation...but many times I think some doctors push drugs as the 'quick' fix)

One other thing- how is your son's aggression in other settings? Is he only aggressive at school or doest it extend to home or play time with friends outside of school?

Whatever therapist you see - I would do a lot of research and ask many questions-- their background and experience with extremely young children would be very important to me.

Hopefully, you will quickly get to the cause of the aggression ----at least you are looking closely at the problem and trying ot get help before things really get out of control.

Best wishes to you and your ds!

Boys have a much harder time in daycare than girls. I do not know what Indigo Children are, but I bet if he could spend more time with you and his dad he would behave better. Aggression at his age is about a loss of control over his life, frustration, etc. While children this young can possibly be bipolar, I would hate to see you put him on medication. Most kids just need more attention from their parents. Therapy can't hurt, but it is no subsitute for your attention.

Maybe he misses you!