19-Mo-old Keeps Waking up at 3Am

Updated on April 27, 2008
H.P. asks from South Hadley, MA
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Anyone have advice on getting our 19 month old to sleep through the night again? She's always been a challenging sleeper. Things to know: she has a snotty nose cold now for almost a week... that's the latest issue affecting a good night's sleep. But it's always something... because she has mild sleep apnea and is on oxygen as well (she had a stroke at birth) and has been teething (big time... lots of them coming in at once), but this 3 am wakeup time has been going on now for several months. We also have a 2 month old, so my poor husband and I are totally sleep deprived, sick, and feel like we're withering away. We need help! Any advice?

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Thanks, ladies, for all your advice! I am going to try the teething tablets to see if they help her out. I really appreciate the tips!

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answers from Pocatello on

Make it totally boring when she wakes up in the middle of the night. Keep lights to a minimum, don't talk more than you have to, don't play games or give lots of hugs and kisses (a little's okay, for calming). Tell her it's nighttime and time to sleep. Check on her when she cries, make sure she's okay, then turn out the lights and leave her alone. Then don't go back right away if she cries again. Not too long, just a tiny bit longer than you would otherwise. So if you want to rush in as soon as she cries, wait just a minute. Then go in and check and leave again. Also, you say you have a 2 month old. Did this night waking for your daughter start when you brought the baby home? Does the baby wake at 3am? Try explaining to your daughter that the baby needs to be fed in the night, but she's a big girl and doesn't need feeding at night. I hope some of this helps.


answers from Pocatello on

Well it seems like she has a lot of things going on that would make it hard for her to sleep. But she could be waking up because she is not getting enough sleep. My daughter was waking up a 6:00 every morning (bedtime 8:00) and only napping for about 45 mins during the day so i slowing moved her bedtime up to 7:00 and now she sleeps until 7 am and takes an hour and 1/2 nap. I know it sounds back words but it works. When they don't get enough sleep it's harder for them to sleep more soundly. but she also might sleep better once her teeth are in so try to hang in there.



answers from Colorado Springs on

Hi Alexa,
Our daughter wakes up every morning at 4:30am. We have FINALLY found a solution that works for us...maybe it will work for you. A CHANGE OF SCENERY! I know this may sound REALLY inconvenient, but it is worth it to us because it buys us another 2 - 3 hours or so to sleep in the mornings. My husband brings her down stairs, gives her a bottle, warm blandet and turns on the Baby Einstein Video. In a matter of 30 - 45 minutes, she (and my husband) fall right back to sleep for 2-3 hours on the couch. Our couch is BIG...it's a sectional, so I'm hoping you have a large couch too and this might be an option for you:) Just a thought. Best of luck!



answers from Denver on

I am so sorry. I understand sleep deprivation. My daughter had sleep apnea and enlarged tonsils so we had them removed at 2 1/2 and she did wonderful after that.
If she is congested at night, see if you can use one of those plug in Vick Vapor Plugs! They last up to eight hours, you could put it in before you went to bed. It fills the room up with that smell of vapor rub and keeps them cleared up. Ask your Dr if you can use that with her in her room. If she is teething the pain may be distrupting her sleep. Try tylenol before bedtime or even motrin if she is allowed to have that. Also those natural teething tablets were a life saver for me with my son. They didn't work on my daughter but relaxed my son and reduced the pain immediately. I hope you get some rest soon! My almost 4 year old son is waking everyone up at 5:30am every morning, I know how tough it can be!!!



answers from Colorado Springs on

I can almost garantee it is her teeth bothering her. My daugter went thru the same thing. Teeth are hard! What I did was when she woke, I would rub her gums with oragel and give her a dose of Motrin (it lasts longer). It is really hard when they are all coming in at once. I am not sure of your routine, but if she is getting up to play that is another thing. How long is she up at 3:00? If she wakes and then goes back to sleep I would say try making her more comfy with her teeth. I also used Humphreys teething tablets (the only brand that worked) they seem to help sooth for her to get sleep. You can get them at walgreens for like $5. Try this and see if it helps her. Sorry, I know how teeth can be. If she wants to play then you have to make it so she knows it is time for her to sleep. My daughter sleeps thru the night and when she wakes I know something is not right. Everything sounds right and teeth seem to be the only reason behind it. Let us know how it goes!

J. S

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