14 Month Old& Positive Pregnant test..confused:/

Think of people who have twins, or triplets... you can do this mama ;)

My eldest was 1 year exactly (almost to the day) when I got pregnant with my 2nd. It's going to be okay!

Congrats :) Once they're both out of the house and living on their own, you'll wonder why you ever worried to begin with!

I've been there too- yes, it's hard (mainly the 1st 3 months)- but soooo worth it!!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!

I have a 20 yr old daughter and a 3yr old boy...never thought I have any more after the first. She grew up with her cousins and never saw anything wrong with that. Now my little boy is growing up by himself and has no one to play with, interact and or do other things toddlers do. I really wish I would have had another baby close to his age. It really breaks my heart to see him play by himself. He goes to daycare and see him out cast from other kids its not fun to see him do that.
You should be fine and will find the ways to pull through.

Congrats!! :)

I totally understand how you must feel right now. Just 2 days after my son's first birthday, I discovered that I was pregnant. We had been faithfully using reliable contraception, but it failed. I cried for a few days, my husband became an insomniac, but we lived through it. It was hard. I was sick all day long for more than 2 months, yet I still had to care for my 4 yr old and 1 yr old. I was still having to get up with my 1 yr old 3-5 times a night too. There were times when he would wake and I would be holding him under my arm while he cried and I puked in the toilet. After our baby was born, my husband got up with our then 20 month old a few times a night every night while I got up and nursed the baby. When my husband traveled for business, I felt sometimes I wouldn't make it through since I was getting up with 2 kids all night long and home schooling my kindergartner. Life was rough....but it got better. Now my youngest is 2 and I couldn't imagine life without him. He's a wonderful playmate to his brother and such a happy little guy. My husband picked our youngest up the other day and nose to nose with him said, "We may not have asked God for you, but I'm SOOO glad He sent you anyway." Nurse Midwife Mom of 3

You'll be fine! Some days will be hard and other days won't (regardless of the spacing between children). You just do what you have to do. If you have to rest instead of cleaning the bathroom so be it. If you have to let your 14 month old run amok every now and again that is ok too. I was on bed rest with a 2 year old running around so believe me, I get it, but all will be well. Best of luck.

Congratulations : )

My parents had 11 children, and I have a brother and sister 13 months apart :-/ Mom did it somehow, and in retrospect I have to say there was probably some of the least sibling rivalry between these two than any of the rest of the clan...possibly because they were so close in age. The only ones who got along better were my twin brothers.

I guess i'm kind of a Pollyanna (wow, am I dating myself!) in that I try to embrace whatever comes at me as something to be dealt with, not feared. I say look on the positive side and do what needs to be done...when you're sick you may need to put your toddler to play in the pack n play or gated area and be sick, nap when your toddler does, once the baby arrives practice shortcuts to cleaning house, making meals, etc., so you have time to spend with both children, trips to the supermarket, doctor, park, etc., can be for both children at once. Start preparing your toddler now for the new sibling so it's not a shock, include them as a helper when the baby arrives, and roll with it all, don't fight it.

I know you have more pressing things to think about right now but if you're planning to transition your older child to a toddler/twin bed do it a couple of months before the new baby arrives so they are adjusted, or several months after the birth, otherwise they may see the move as something they HAVE to do because of the baby and resist/refuse the move and dislike the baby. And, this is waaaaay in the future so just catalog it, but wait to potty train your older child until the new sibling is at least 6 months old, otherwise you will more than likely face potty training regression, it is common and happens even in the most well-adjusted children.

You're family is growing, that's a blessing, congrats again!!

When my son was 12 months old I found myself with a positive pregnancy test as well. Yes it is hard with a toddler 22 months old and a new born. You get through it, but I would start reading all the parenting books you can. Love and Logic, New kid by Friday Dr. Lehman, and get your toddler in on a schedule, and enforce your first time rule followed by a disapline that fits the disobeying. My kids are 4 and 5 now (5 yr old turns 6 in June) and they are the best of friends. :)

Well, to be honest if you were not ready to have another so close you should have taken more precautions. Now that you are preggers your options are 1. have the baby and figure it out, 2. Have the baby and fall apart, 3. give the baby up, 4. you still have a right to choose. So, there are your options in black and white.

Honestly, treat each child as their own person, invest in baby wearing devices - suggest slings vs carriers, do what you can to ensure your older child can and will play independantly and find out if you can start your oldest in a day care or simmilar program a few days a week so you and the newborn have some alone time, esp in the begining. Start prepping the house emotionaly and phyiscally and begin to try out crock pot meals and freezer meals. Write down all of your fears and find solutions to them now so you have potential game plans. All of these suggestions are assuming you run with option #1.

Congrats and don't worry.
Women have been doing this since time began. At least in modern times we have appliances to help us. Back in the day my grandmother raised 6 kids, baked bread, sewed and mended their clothes, did her laundry with copper boilers and a washboard and had a very clean house. She also made the most beautiful doilies and dresser scarves ect. She would either crochet them or embroider linen ones and then edge them. I don't know how she did it but she did.
Go and talk to women who are older and ask them about their experiences with raising children before birth control. Many families had children only 10-11 months apart. Will you go nutty some days--yes but it will be worth it.
Ginger and cinnamon are good for nausa and safe. Cinnamon Toast Crunch cereal should help your tummy.
Again congrats.

Back in my day two years apart was the norm. I don't consider that close at all, having a newborn and finding out you are pregnant, now that is close.

I don't remember anything exact other than it was not difficult raising them. About the only issues I had was around two and four when they realized I can't chase them both. That ended when they realized I could still ground them both regardless of location. :)

Okay am I the only one who plans them two years apart?

Mine are 19 months apart, and I LOVE it now. The first 6 months or so were a little difficult, but nothing drastic, just an adjustment to our routine, as it is with a new baby no matter when you have him or her. After that it became significantly easier. Now that my son is 3 and my daughter is almost 2 1/2, it is almost like raising them as twins. My son still gets to do his "big boy" stuff on his own, but he loves teaching Maddy to do things. They play together all of the time, most of the time nicely. They are very good about sharing, and helping each other. My favorite is when I take my daughter to go pick up J after school and she runs to him and gives him a big hug and says "Hi Jackson, I missed you! How was your day?" We make sure to have special date time with each of them separately, at least a few times a month. They are the best of friends, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Good luck and hang in there. :)

You're in the soup now :) - I have 2 close girlfriends with children very close apart, about 18 months apart! From what I hear there are a couple chaotic years where they are both little and need you, 2 to potty train, 2 to walk in separate directions, etc. But after the "hump", it gets easier. Both situations were "oops" pregnancies. On the plus side they occupy each other. Which you do not have with an only kid, like mine. And pay extra attention to the older "baby", who I hear can get a little lost in the shuffle. My friends babies are now 9 and 10 year old girls who are very close. And my other friend has a D and S who are college age. They all turned out great. And so will yours!

My son had just turned 1 when we found out about #2. It was hard at the beginning, but we got through it (I even managed to keep working 4 days a week). They're now 5 & 7 and best friends. It's scary at first, but gets to be a lot of fun.
I had a little girl when my 2nd was almost 2 and the 1st was 3-1/2. All 3 of them are very close. Its nice to be able to see movies or visit museums that all 3 are interested in - nobody is left out or bored.
Good luck and congratulations.

I had some 12 months apart, (very hard but fun too) , some 2 years apart and perfect span, and 14 months ( again hard ) and 19 months ( not bad but 2 years is better). Whatever the span you will survive and love the baby and the older child will have someone to love and play with and it will work out fine. I know what you are thinking with the sickness, vomiting, etc. and that I will say was very hard. I felt like a failure as a mom when I was laying in the floor hoping it wasn't lunch time and having to think of food again. I would lay in the floor where the kids were playing so I could see them and be there but felt like dying. Once past that it was not bad at all. It is good to have them close though.

I found out I was pregnant with number 3 a week after my second daughter's first birthday. They are 20 months apart, and the best of friends. We planned it that way, and it was auctually a lot easier than I thought it was going to be. When my third daughter was born she was such an easy baby that she just fit right in with our schedule. You will have more on your plate to deal with than when you just had the one child but you may find out that it is not as bad as you think. A baby is a blessing, and it will all work out.

I got pregnant with my second when the oldest was just 9 months!! I was scared, sad, and mad. But we worked it all out, and our sons are the very best of friends. They're 18 months apart, and I wouldn't change it for anything :) My youngest is now 16 months, and I'm 8 weeks along with our third :) It will all work out, just try to go with the swing of things. Good luck mama!

My girls are 19 months apart. It is challenging at times, but nothing I can't handle! It's nice because they play together a lot, so they keep each other entertained. Don't worry, everything will work out just fine, and plus you could have it a lot worse: I know a lady that got pregnant with triplets(naturally) when her 1st baby was only 3 months old. Imagine that!

My kids are 21 months apart. They are now the best of friends (just 2 and almost 4). They play together constantly! The beginning will be hard, but by the time your second is 15 months, you will start having some time back for yourself, and you will have even more time for yourself when the youngest nears 2.

Assuming you're not further along that you think, I personally think it's a great age gap. My age gaps are 22 months, 22 months, and 19 months. There is a big different between that 19 month gap and the 22 month gap. I really think the 22 months was perfect. The older one was young enough that there weren't jealousy issues or anything needed to do to prepare for new baby. But they were old enough that they were communication, understood simple direction and could even be helpful ("could you go get mommy a diaper for baby") Now that they are older (oldest is 6) they are great playmates because they are into the same things. They like the same toys, they play the same games, and have very similar interests. (The older two boys have to make allowances for their sister since she's a little more "princess-y" than them - but they'll still play the pretty pretty princess game with her when it's her turn to pick a game).

So - short answer....you stumbled into great spacing for your kids!

Har far along are you cause I got pregnant with my second at 12 mo and love the age difference, they are 22 months apart in age and awesome....first year was rough...yes I do kinda remember that but now at 7yrs and 5 years awesome!

Hugs once you are over the freak out period I imagine you will feel better! BTW My second had some very major issues the first year which lead to little to now sleep...but we still ended up having a third!!

Oh and a friend just had twins Her oldest just turned 3, her middle is not even 2 yet and she has 3mo old twin girls...Yep that is 3 pregnancies, 4 babies in LESS then three years!

All in all we are only given what we can handle!

CONGRATS!!

A.,

If you weren't ready for another baby, you should have been doing something to prevent pregnancy. It is still legal. Now, you know your options legally. There is nothing confusing - you must have wanted another baby since you got pregnant and it doesn't sound like you were raped. The baby won't be here for quite a long time - don't get rid of any of the baby items. You will need them.

First of all, congrats!!! You will be fine and be an awesome momma :)
I got pregnant with my second when my first was 7 months old. It's hard in the beginning, but gets easier. Now you can't separate them. They fight at times like siblings do, but really enjoy eachothers company and it's such a blessing to be able to watch them grow. I guess it was sooo fun, that I got pregnant with the third when the second was 9 months old. This year my children will be 3,2 and 1!!! :)

Well my children are almost 1 yr apart off by 2 days and I'm glad we did it that way. I was already used to diapers & bottles, so it wasn't much different. The biggest bonus is that my kids are so close. They're each other's best friend and having a close companion makes raising children so much easier. My husband has older children and they were 7 yrs apart and he says it's way better to have them close than farther apart. It may seem overwhelming but it'll be fine. It really seems by the time you have your baby, your two will be about an average age apart. Congrats and best wishes

So it sounds like they'll be about 2 years apart. This is a very commom age difference...really not that close in age. Some of my friends have children 12 months apart. If they can do it, so can you! :) Really there's no absolute perfect time. Congratulations!

If you want another child, then 2 years apart is not that close together. My sister and I are 14 months apart. Her two girls are 12 months apart. If you don't want another child or you are certain you don't want one for a long time, then don't have this one.

Perhaps your husband/partner should be doing more taking care of the baby since you are not feeling well.