My daughter is 13 now, and she went through that too. Every time I would ask her about school, she would say either "fine" or "ok".
I never accept the rude things like slaping the door. I sometimes over look the eye roll but I never accept the quit talk, you know, the one where they don't want to say it to your face but still want you to know they have something (probably not nice) to say. I always told her, if you want to say something then be brave, say it and live with the consecuence, but I wouldn't not accept the coward talk.
I got myself a book call: How to Hug a Porcupine: Negotiating the Prickly Points of the Tween Years. It has helped.
I also never gave up asking her about her days no matter how many times I hear just OK.
One day she had a problem with a girl at school and she just went on and on about her, and I hold TIGHT to that, (I know this is going to sound bad) and I was kind of happy because from that conversation became much more. Now I know who likes who, who wears what, what XZY said to ABC, etc.
The ups and downs at home stay there but less, I think we are taking a break for what is to come (boyfriends, going outs, driving, YIKES!).
It also helps that SIL is given us a really hard time lately, because my daughter has come to me more often to talk about how she makes us feel. No saying that you need to start a war with you SIL, .or that you should involve your kid in grown ups problems, which we didn't but SIL doesn't know how to keep her mouth shut in front of kids, but to find something in commoun to keep the conversation open in this hard times.
Hold there mom, this too should it pass.