12 Month Old with Temper Tantrums Already

Updated on February 14, 2007
A.T. asks from Louisville, KY
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Hi,
My name is A. and I have a little boy who is going to turn one this week. He has always been a very happy little guy, but lately he has been throwing temper tantrums. He does this when anything is taken away from him, anytime he has to put on his coat or when he gets frustrated with himself because he cannot do something(ex. he cant pull his toy out of the toy box). He screams, turns red and arches his back. I'm not sure how to handle this because he is so young. I just did'nt expect to deal with this so soon. I would appreciate any ideas on how to handle this.

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B.N.

answers from Fort Wayne on

I would love to know how to fix this as well. I have a son who just turned on on the 20th of Jan. he does the same thing. Most of the time I end up giving him what he wants because we are in public and I don't want to hear it but at home I just let him cry. As far as putting on the coat I have found the faster the better. I have been putting our son on the coffee table and that seems to help but if he is really in a mood...not fun! I would love to hear what you have come up with.
thanks,
B.

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A.W.

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If he's just turning a year old, chances are that he doesn't know very many words wich just adds to this frustration. Consequently it's faster and easier to teach them signs and it won't hinder their ability to speak. Teach him simple stuff like "help", "more", "eat", "drink", "wet" and "poop" in sign language. Just click sign language into your search bar and there are sights that will teach you these signs. Keep in mind that this should not replace speach...anytime you use these signs to show him how, say the word that goes with it. Anytime you see him use the sign, repeat the sign and say the word with it, that way he's sure to pick up the word as well. I chose those signs for my children because they are the words that the child more often wants to convey that leads to such frustration. Good luck.

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S.C.

answers from Huntington on

Do not raise your voice to him at all only makes things worse my son is 18 mths old and he started throwing them about the same time it is a stage and i promise it does get better but the best thing i found to do is cuddle and talk to them or offer them something to get their mind off things and sometimes if he got bad i would sit him in a chair and talk to him......

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M.H.

answers from Bloomington on

Well A.,
I will tell you what my sons doctor told me and it is a pain to deal with at times... However, it does work. Your son is learning and he is going through his "what can I get away with" phase. Early too!
So I would suggest ignoring him when he does it. Let him know that when he acts like that it is ugly and you will not respond to him while he is behaving so badly. It took a while but my son learned. The most difficult part is to disipline yourself to do this. Oh it is hard especially when your'e out in the public. People will look at you (rather him) but let him know they are looking at him and think he is behaving badly. when he gets too bad when your out it is always best to let him know that you will leave and he will be in time out if this happens. They hate that :)
Don't be afraid to walk out of a store with a cart full of items that will need to be put back by the employees. You could always tell them to set the cart aside and you will be back to purchase them. You just need to leave to handle a tantrum. That was some of the best advice I ever recieved and worked like a charm. I would much rather leave a store then let him have his way. This is my opinion and advice passed to me. Hope it works for you as well as it did me. ( if you deicde to take it)
have a great day!
M.

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M.D.

answers from Bloomington on

He is just expressing himself. I know that is such a cliche but it's true. He doesn't know how else to tell you he's unhappy with what just happened. Just try to give him some extra loves and get in the habit of talking to him and explaining what's going on, also verbally validate his feelings (e.g. "I know you're upset and want that toy..."). I know it's hard when you're trying to get out of the house on time. Distraction is also a good technique. Find something that he CAN have or something he CAN do and get him involved with that prior to taking away or stopping him from doing the thing you don't want him to do. Most kids go through this. My daughter started at about the same age. She is now on to this little foot stomping thing.

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N.B.

answers from Indianapolis on

Welcome to the world of growing up! He is just showing he has an opinion and showing his personality. I would try and distract him by singing a song or making silly noises. Otherwise just ignore it and just tell him very quickly and to the point why you are doing what you are. Like We put the coat on because it is cold outside. Don't have a big discussion with him. That is a big no no because they learn to shut you out!

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J.P.

answers from Wheeling on

You have one of the tantrum gifted children just as i do!! ive learned with my youngest (now3) that if you give in everytime and only to the tantrums that is pretty much teaching that tantrums is the only way of asking. and im sure you will agree that hearing a 1 year old attempt to say please is a lot cuter than the screaming. so maybe when your child starts...you can intervene as soon as possible...tell him you will say no no matter what if he is throwing a fit. good luck.

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E.M.

answers from Louisville on

First of all. don't yell and don't ignore it... ignoring it comes later :P at his age hes too young to say momma im mad b/c... so help him out, use words calmly. say would you like help with that or something along those lines... also when dealing with the coat issue many times its a transition that is upsetting. so the best thing to do is give warnings... not really warnings as is your gonna get it, but warnings as in we have 5 mins, 3 mins 2 mins all the way down to time to go... this will help him realize that there is going to be a change and to get ready. it may take a week or so but he will start to understand. I hope this helps good luck!

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