You mentioned that you are silly and crazy in your "about me" section...are you this way with your daughter? I find changing tone and attitude with kids can get their attention. A little silliness might get it. They tune out to the regular do this do that remarks. Plus, sounds like she might have a lot of other things on her mind. Consider that she may have too much on her plate and home is the only place she's letting go of, just to get a break. Also, pre-teens like to ignore there parents as much as teens. :) You have to get creative to reach them sometimes.