10 Month old.......tantrums

my 1 year old does the same thing. for her small fits telling her no and stop that works and she calms down im a few minutes when she realizes shes not getting any food. however for her larger tantrums i remover from the situation and i tell her that we dont act like that. if we are home she gets a cup and is put in her crib. if we are in public i try to go somewhere where i dont ger the "if that were my kid id beat their butt look". i have been doing this with my daughter since she was like 7mo so she is generally good about not throwing fits now. i hope this is helpful!

I have a 9 month old daughter who does the same thing. I actually agree with the horse training idea. I don't think I've ever heard of it discribed in that way, but I use the same general idea with my kids.
Bad behavior gets no response. A child throwing a fit is looking for a response, your daughter wants you to run over, drop what you are doing and pick her up. If you do that, she will use this tantrum technique to get everything! I know you don't want that!
Once they've learned that something works they'll use it! So, your best bet is to reinforce the good behavior. If she's throwing a tantrum, pretend like you don't hear her, once she stops, show her attention, talk to her, give kisses and let her down.
Do it with all tantrums too. If you start bribing her or spoiling her when she has these tantrums now, she'll continue to use them, say, when you are grocery shopping and she wants some candy at check out...

This may sound terrible--but the best advice I ever got about teaching children came from some friends who raised horses. :)

We didn't have kids at the time, but these friends explained how they trained their prize horses and said they used the same techniques on their kids. Their kids were amazing. When they explained we were sold for life. (We've now raised three daughters with these concepts in mind and have never had a moment's "terrible twos" or "terrible teens" even from our fifteen-year-old.

The idea is: you don't reward behavior you don't want repeated. But if they give you even a step toward the right behavior, you IMMEDIATELY reward it with the response they're seeking.

So in your case--you would ignore the fussy behavior (except for saying "no!" rather firmly to let her know you don't approve), but the second she stops fussing (even if it's accidentally), you go and pick her up and hug her and let her down. That way you reinforce the idea that it's the quiet behavior you're looking for. The next time, you go a step further. You let her know it's the quiet behavior but maybe you also want her to take another bite of her supper first.

The key our horse-training friends taught us was that you can't expect them to go the entire way the first time, but you guide their understanding of where you want them to end up by rewarding the tiny steps along the way.

HI,
I taught my son sign language, and felt that it circumvented a lot of what otherwise would have been crying to get my attention or to express himself.
Particularly helpful were the signs for: more, all done, and up. These really come into play at the dinner table and allowed us to easily communicate.
Another thing I'd like to share is that we had a rule that whatever he was having a tantrum about, he automatically did not get. Also, I would let him know that I wanted to hear him, but he needed to speak calmly. This might be for a little bit older, but it still can be started.
All the best to you. I know you more than have your hands full!
M.