10 Month Old Daughter Throwing Fits?

She may be 10 months old, but she's old enough to be taught between right and wrong behavior. When my kids acted up at that age I would say "Stop" and then if they didn't, I'd walk away. If you pay attention to their behavior, even if it's in a negative way, to them it's still attention. They will continue doing it for that attention. If you let her keep doing it and still try to calm her, she'll continue doing it and may even throw them more often. One time my one year old threw a fit in Meijer and I leaned down and said "Brayden, when you're done, come find me." Then I walked about 10 feet away, looked at some things on a shelf, walked farther, looked at things again, and eventually he realized that I was not going to give him any kind of reaction to his behavior. He ended up getting up and running to me. Once he got to me I said very happily "OH! You're finished! Let's keep shopping!" and I picked him up and put him back in the cart. You teach them how to act if you give into their bad behavior.

I think the waking up at night and wanting to sleep with you is probably just a phase with all of her physical and activity changes.
As for the temper trantrums: Yes, I did go through this with one of the my children.
You want to throw yourself on the floor and have a fit because I told you "no" then you can just have it in your crib and in your bedroom. Pick her up, carry her from the room, put her in her crib, leave the room and close the door. When she quiets down she can come back out with the rest of the family.
If she doesn't want to be held, don't pick her up and attempt to cuddle with her. When you come in, smile, tell her hello and talk to her for a minute just don't make any attempt to hub her or pick her up. She will come to you if she wants the physical comfort and hug you or try to crawl into your lap or arms.
If she has a fit when you are carrying her, tell her "No" and be very firm. As quickly as possible put her down in a secure, confined area, where she does not have the freedom to move around a lot, high chair, crib, play pen, car seat, whatever and make her stay there for the next 5 to 10 minutes and do not speak to her during that time frame.
None of it is fun, but it is better than letting her think her behavior is acceptable or letting her behavior disrupt the rest of the family.

My kids never have thrown themselves down with a fit but they get mad and cry if I react it gets worse. I ignore it and IF it keeps up I put them in their room and shut the door and tell my daughter who is 4 to NOT come out till she is done. I do not want to hear and whiner throwing a fit. She is usually in there for about 5 min and has stopped and is playing with her things THEN I reason with her and tell her IF she keeps acting that way she will NOT have ant friends and she says sry and she is out of her room. She knows if she does it again she is back in there so she will go in there on her own. IF she does not get a nap she is way worse b/c she is tired. Both of my kids HATE to sleep. I got the book Dealing with a strong willed child that is good. Quentin is 10 mo and we just put him in his room with his things till he is done and tell him not nice to act this way and he listens. All kids are different that is for sure. Avery was never like that at 10 mo like Quentin she started more around 2 but not throwing herself down. Good Luck. I know my nephew did the throwing self down and busted his head open and my sis would always cuddle him. I told her don't do that you are telling him it is OKAY to do it. He is now 20. It is all they are wanting attention or like I had said tired with no nap.

Kids are smarter than we give them credit for sometimes. My son used to do similar things. I remember once he literally threw himself on the floor 7 times in a row. I watched him out of the corner of my eye...and when I would look away...he would quietly get back up and wait for my attention to be redirected his way. As soon as I looked back at him, he would throw himself on the floor again. I agree with the other parents...you can't feed her with attention because it will reinforce the behavior. Good luck!

My kids learned how to throw fits very early. It's frustrating but if you are consistent, they learn it doesn't work. I'm not saying mine still don't try it, but they don't do it often. I'd put her down and walk away. If her room isn't far from the main part of the house, put her there. Give her a special place to throw her tantrums and tell her to come back when she's done. Don't give her extra attention from it and don't try to figure out what she wants when she is so overwrought. When they were done, I'd tell them "I'm so glad you're done crying. Now show Mommy what you want." They learned that when they would calmly tell/show me what they wanted, they would get it (within reason of course!).

As for waking at night, she could be getting more teeth. You could try Motrin at bedtime or Teething Tabs. That combo seems to work miracles.

hi, my daughter started doing that right around the same age. being so young still if she is really upset i would try cuddling her. although if she is crying then too it might be best to just let her ride it out and then reassure her with cuddles after she calms down. i strongly advise against putting them in their crib or another room. they should not be punished at all at this age. she can not verbally tell you what is wrong and this can be extremely frustrating for her. plus, she is going through many changes right now. my dd is 13 months now and i can already tell that she is very strong willed. but like another mom said it may be difficult now but an asset to her later in life. good luck

My son started throwing fits at around that age. In fact, the first one was at my parents' house. My dad was sooo concerned, as my son was on the floor turning purple from holding his breath and silent screaming. I explained that if he passed out, he would take a breath and would be fine. I just ignored that behavior - watched to make sure he was safe but otherwise ignored it. They stopped quickly, but when he started up again after his birthday, I would start to put him in a spot to calm down, then talk to him about it when he had calmed down.
Good luck and lots of patience!

Yes, it happens, you have a strong willed child. Get ready for the ride of your life! My 2nd daughter was such a happy baby, she was a joy, always full of smiles, and happy and so cuddly and lovey. Then all of a sudden, one day, she learned that she had some options in life. Unfortunately life did not always go as she planned, and the fits began. Just like you're describing, and at about that age. She is now 6 yrs, and finally we are learning to work together. She still has bad days, but more often than not we can get through it. Kindergarten was horrible, she and the teacher butted heads about everything. The teacher was in control and unfortunately for Ellie, that was not her plan. We barely survived! There were days when I had to take her to the sitters naked in the morning, because she would just remove the clothes that I put on her. When we'd get there, she'd put her clothes on, so she didn't have to walk down the sidewalk naked. Everyone who knows her says what a fireball she is, and that you can see it in her eyes. They laugh because they don't have to deal with her at home. Truly she is a test, one I hope that I'm passing. Someday she'll run the world though, at least her part of it. I'll never have to worry about her caving to peer pressure. When she's 27 I'm going to be so proud, I can just feel it. Right now, I'm just worn out. So yes, they are fits that she's throwing, to get her way, and because she's angry. Don't give in, don't let her win, it will only get worse if you do. Strong willed children need to be dealt with firmly, but lovingly. They are so full of passion and emotion about EVERYTHING. Anything, even which socks to wear, can turn into a huge deal for them, so get ready to pick your battles. Remember that you are the parent. God gave children parents for a reason. We know better about some things than they do. I love my Ellie Bug with all of my heart, she sure does make me appreciate the predictable, steady first daughter though! Good luck. It's okay to let them see you cry.

It sounds like temper tantrums to me. The best thing to do, in my experience, is just to walk away. She is old enough to understand what is and is not ok to do. If she acts that way, just walk away and ignore the crying. When she finishes throwing her fit, then she can have your attention again. If she's playing when you come home, she may not want to interrupt her play to be held. It's so heartbreaking...I remember when my little one would light up when I came into a room. Now she could care less! Seems like once you get your kids figured out, they change it all up again!

It doesn't sound crazy. Kids learn VERY early that they have the power to get what they want. Lots of children start throwing fits and tantrums like a 2-year-old long before they are actually two. Look in to redirection discipline and get information from www.askdrsears.com
Good Luck! :)