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The 5 Frenemies You Need to Ditch NOW!

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I wrote recently about the 5 Types Of Friends Every Woman Needs To Have In Her Life. Since I first wrote that post, I haven’t stopped thinking about the flip side of those friendships. The friendships we all have in our lives that we need to remove from our lives!

5 friends every woman should remove from her life

1. The Gossip Girl – The friend who acts interested in our life only so she can gather information about us and gossip behind our back. You know the type, the one who is all interested in your recent weight loss, but you know it’s just so she can talk about how you’re doing it to anyone who asks. Or, the one who seems interested in the trouble you’re experiencing, but it’s only so she can tell everyone how you’re getting what you deserve, or how she can make herself feel better than you.

2. The One Sided – The friend who only calls when they need something. If they’re moving you’re suddenly your best friend, if they need child care, or are on the job hunt, they call you every week. But where are they when you need someone to lean on? My guess is, nowhere in sight. If the only time you hear from this friend is when you contact her, chances are it’s a one-sided friendship.

3. Fair Weather – When your life is great, and you’re on top of the world they’re more than happy to bask in your glory. When you are down in the dumps, or need a shoulder to cry on, suddenly your calls get sent to voicemail and your texts go unanswered.

4. Competitive Chick -This is the friend who is always trying to one up you, if you had a bad day she had a worse day. If you had a great day, she had a better day! If you got a new job, she makes more money. If your child got all A’s her child got A+’s! Trying to be better than your friend means you’re not a friend, so this person is not your friend.

5. Negative Nelly – Look, I know we all have those days where you just need to bitch, whine, and moan and complain and let it all out. The world sucks, you’re calling bullshit, and you’ve had enough. That’s totally fine! BUT if you have a friend who is always having one of those kinds of days, can never seem to find the sun for the clouds, and swears that nothing good ever happens, this is a huge life sucker! Cut her loose, and count your blessings!

From time to time it’s a good thing to take an objective look at the relationships we’re investing our time and our energy into. Are they still working? Do they make us better people? Do we look forward to seeing these people on our phone or do we secretly feel dread when they call?

It’s definitely tough to break up with a friend, but it’s necessary sometimes. As we grow, we evolve and we grow up (in theory!) and if those in our lives can’t keep up or aren’t filling a need in our lives then there is absolutely no shame in cutting things off and ending the relationship.

This isn’t high school, it’s not a popularity contest. We should focus on the quality of our relationships, not the quantity. It’s far, far better to have a few really, truly, amazing people for friends than it is to have dozens of the not-so-great people as friends.

Angela is a social media and online community professional who has always dreamed of being a writer. Blogging combines two of her passions, social media and writing! She blogs about anything that strikes her fancy and is always thrilled (and a little surprised!) when someone lets her know they enjoy reading her work. You can find her on her blog www.writermomblog.com, Google+, Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest.

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