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Help with Handling In-laws
Asked by J.W. from Kansas City
on October 25, 2006
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A couple of nights ago my husband's 2 sisters called and wanted his daughter to go with them Saterday with them 2 of our nieces and my mother-in-law out to eat and the...
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- I could see that if her mother had wanted her to hangout without your daughter that would be ok but to have the girls in his family hangout and not your daughter b/c s...
- I can't even believe this! My 10 year old knows better... your in-laws are acting like children and I wouldn't allow them to include one without the other. You are ...
- That is a tough situation, because in some areas, you only have so much say in what your stepdaughter can do. In cases like that, though, keep putting your foot down a...
Another MIL Question....
Asked by M.W. from Los Angeles
on June 29, 2009
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How do you ladies handle it when your MIL calls your child "her baby." One time, she called and asked how her baby is doing and I repeated "he is just fine, he is at w...
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- So much resentment...where there should be warmth and mutual caring. From a mother-in-law; with all due respect, someday you will understand why she called your so...
- I would let it go there is a lot more important things in life than resentment. If it really bothers you and you can not let it go than tell her specifically that it b...
- Hi M., she probabbly doesn/t mean any disrespect to you, I say they same things to my daycare parents, how's my baby doing or my little girl/little boy, or some times ...
Mil
Asked by D.S. from Davenport
on February 4, 2009
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I've written on this before and have gotten wonderful advice from some great moms out there. I'm so glad this is a place of support that I feel I can go to. I have l...
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- Call her up and see if there are any hidden problems that she has. I had this problem with my MIL and it was because she didn't like the way I organize my house - it ...
- I am sure they took offense, possibly even misinterpreted your reaction to their illness when you son was tiny. Have you asked them why they don't come over? Have you ...
- As a future MIL (My stepson is engaged and will be married this summer), I'll add my perspective. A couple of things came to mind when I read your post. My first th...
Seeking Advise on Mother Taking over 3 Year Old Birthday
Asked by G.B. from Portland
on January 12, 2009
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I am wondering if anyone has had a momther in law that takes over parties, but has you do all the work? I really want my parties to be the way I would like to see my d...
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- You mention that you are putting the party on for your husbands family. Isn't it your daughters birthday? If so, the party is for her and needs to be about what she ...
- I am sorry if this sounds rude, but we are talking about a 3 year old's birthday party right?! Last time I checked most 3 year olds were perfectly happy with a bunc...
- I used to say one thing to my husband who didn't want to upset his mother.......You tell her, or I tell her......This way he could tell her in his own way and maybe no...
In Law Keep Secrets
Asked by A.M. from Pittsburgh
on February 22, 2007
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It seems that my in laws like to do things with my 10 month old and not tell me about them. They are wonderful in the fact that we can always rely on them if we need ...
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- Although I believe it is not acceptable for anyone to do things without your permission, I think it is perfectly acceptable to give a 10 month old juice. Check with yo...
- I would be upfront with them. YOU are the parent! I've had to my foot down quite a few times when in came to family members. My own grandmother kept giving my daugh...
- I have experienced this exact same thing several times with many different family members with both my 4 year old daughter and my 2 year old son when they were younger...
In-laws Wanting, but Not Wanting To ..
Asked by C.O. from Los Angeles
on January 8, 2008
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My husband's dad and stepmom do not get along with my mil. Since we've been married they've taken us to dinner for a different celebration or do not show up to our fam...
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- C., My mom and dad have been divorced for the past 20 years, and even though they were both at my graduation and wedding, my dad now refuses to be in the same ho...
- Ok so I am sure you have heard it all but here goes. Let the parents have their issues. You have to focus on that baby and it's just too bad that they can't get over t...
- Now listen to me, C., You cannot run the world or even your mil or the other part of your family. Just do what you husband said and be proud and happy - extend the i...
Hands off In-laws
Asked by J.K. from Sacramento
on April 15, 2008
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HI All,
Just seeking some advice, which seems like a common subject... in-laws!! My husband and I have been together for about 18 years and married for 5. We have a 2...
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- Ohhh, the In-laws. First of all, I think if you have the small children, then all adults should come to you. Especially if there is a place for them to stay. I thin...
- i realize this is so frustrating.....just set the boundaries for what works for u and your kids.. (ie; stick 2 ur kids schedules,dont stay at a place that cant accomo...
- I can completely relate. My husband and I have the only 2 grandchildren on his side of the family. She was/is a doting mom, and I anticipated the worst of conflicts be...
What I Call the "In Law Sorority"
Asked by J.B. from Charleston
on September 13, 2006
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My husband's family consists of his mom, dad, and two sisters. The mom and sisters are very close. In fact, the oldest daughter, who has a 19 month old son, talks to...
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- Hi J.. I experienced the same tpe of situtaion-my hubby has Mom,dad and two sisters. Neither of which liked me that very much when my hubby and I married.I found out i...
- Hi J. B, We have children close in age. My son just turned 1 last week. Must be pretty lonely being the spare wheel around that group. I don't think there is a wa...
- I know how u are feeling. Thats the same way my husbands family is. He has, mom,dad and two sisters. His mom and sisters are close too. I have a son and one of his sis...
The In-Laws and Their Fur Babies
Asked by K.A. from Lexington
on January 16, 2007
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A couple of my husband's Aunts are always wanting to watch our 10 month old daughter. The problem is they both have dogs that I don't trust. One has bit other people, ...
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- I would thank them for their offer and insist that if they want to watch her, they do it in your home. Tell them anything - she has seperation anxiety and does better...
- Stick to your guns girl! You are right on saying your precious daughter life could change in an instant and NOTHING is worth it! Tell the in-laws, they are welcome t...
- What's the chances of them coming to your house to see the baby without the furry babies with them?
In Laws
Asked by B.R. from San Antonio
on July 8, 2008
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Ok a while back I had some issues with my mother in law. Once my son was born she has had issues. To make things short we moved back into my parents house while our ho...
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- Hi B., This is an easy one. Don't tell you in-laws what your mom has already purchased or intends to purchase. Simply tell them what you or your son would like. Tha...
- I'd stop telling them what anyone is getting him..... that should solve the problem. When she asks just say you don't know. Sounds like she has some dominance issues...
- B. It does sound like there is a problem. They are acting like spoiled jealous selfish children. Don't tell the inlaws what your parents got anymore. And your h...
