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Grandparents Favor Other Grandchidlren
Asked by R.P. from Savannah
on August 29, 2006
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My request is about grandparents and aunts/uncles. We live away from all our family. Our son is one of 5 grandchildren total, but is our only child.
Both my par...
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- I am a grandparent myself. I have a grandchild that I never get to see. I have one that lives close to me. I love them both equally. I had the same problem with both...
- That's so sad .Can't understand that at all ,children are all presciuos ,it's grown ups that mess them up .I'd say disown the whole lot of them but you don't want you...
- So I guess the SIL is jealous of you for some reason and uses this to try to make you jealous. As for the MIL, she is probably upset that you don't live closer, and m...
Am I Overreacting?
Asked by M.B. from Washington DC
on February 21, 2009
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Hi all,
I have a 10.5 year old stepdaughter and a daughter who will be 2 in a couple days. I have noticed essentially since my daughter has been born some favoriti...
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- Not overreacting. Is this stepdaughter from a previous marriage? Does this stepchild remind them of their son? Sometimes, grandparents (as well as aunts and uncles)...
- I think you are normal for feeling this way - especially since it is your biological child, and she is your mother-in-law - very interesting dynamic both ways....but I...
- It sounds like you're having a hard time with the whole step-daughter issue. You are walking a very difficult line being a step-mom, as well as a new mom and wife. P...
Favoritism from Grandmothers
Asked by S.P. from Nashville
on July 30, 2009
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To the best of our ability, we have always treated our daughters as equals, as it should be. We couldn't imagine loving one more than the other. They are, in some wa...
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- This is a tough one. Sometimes I don't think that grandmothers even realize that they are giving more attention to one child than the other. We have also been dealin...
- Hi S., I can relate about the favoritism. It runs in my family since my grandmother (and probably before her). This is from one not so favorite grandaughter. My grandm...
- We were fortunate in that my girls had 3 grandmothers. One favored one. One favored the other. The 3rd treated them both equally. Unfortunately, only one lived nea...
Grandpa Issues
Asked by J.M. from Omaha
on September 14, 2006
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AAAAAAAH! I'm going crazy! My dad has no patience for my daughter. He is very good with my oldest daughter, but my youngest daughter must just rub him the wrong way...
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- Little girls deserve to be loved (so do boys but that is another issue). If she is not being treated in a loving, non-threatening way she doesn't need to be there. I...
- have you thought about bringing this to his attention. Maybe he's got some of his own problems.Why don't you call him and let him know you want to talk to him about y...
- J. You need to talk to your dad. Letting your daughter deal with the brunt of whatever problem he has won't work. If you gently confront him with a few specific in...
Adoption???
Asked by P.A. from Houston
on December 5, 2007
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My husband and I have a dilema. I am 43 abd he is 37. We have a 4 1/2 year old who we adore! However, we would both like to have another child. I have recently discove...
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- I would think if it this way... if God truly doesn't want you to have more kids, I don't think an adoption agency is going to overrule Him! If He doesn't want you hav...
- P., I can certainly understand your dilemma here. My only advice here is to be sure that whatever happens - make sure that you are BOTH comfortable with that decisio...
- Hi, P.... I completely understand your "misgivings" about adoption. One thing I noticed, though, was that you say you would like to adopt a child "of the same race"...
My Extended Family Is Backwards!
Asked by L.S. from Odessa
on November 1, 2007
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My two daughters are very well behaved. They are active in community service, scouting, twirling, church, and are just true lovers of people. I can't say enough abou...
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- We have similar issues in our family as well. I have found it to be (well and my MIL told me) that since we are the "good" parents (you know responsible, make our chi...
- My grandmother loved my older brother with all her heart and she hated me since the day I was born. She went so far as to tell me she was his grandma and not mine and...
- I can completely relate with you and I have been there before. It is difficult. I can tell that you are a very intelligent woman and a wonderful mother. I know that ...
Who Gets the Bigger Room? Help!
Asked by B.B. from Detroit
on November 12, 2008
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I need some other peoples input here. I just had a baby girl last Jan 15th and she has a half sister that my husband only sees on the weekends, sometimes every other w...
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- I think the bigger room should go to your daughter. She lives there full time and that is her house. Your stepdaughter does not live there full time so the room is ...
- I agree with you, it's only fair to your daughter because she is there full time. I have a 10 year old stepson that I had the same predicament with when we were moving...
- I totally agree with you. If she doesn't live there full time, the room is basically going to waste on all the other days that she isn't there. That space could be u...
Baby Shower Etiquette and Family Favoritism
Asked by B.B. from Jacksonville
on August 31, 2006
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My whole family lives in Canada. I would like to consider inviting them to my baby shower but I don't know if it is appropriate. I know none of them will probably come...
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- I hope everything went well... I used to run a baby registry desk, and unfortunately there are some people who will look at a 5-10 page registry and say the mom is bei...
- Hi, B. I realize this post is very old and the situation is no longer about your baby shower. but I felt I wanted to try to encourage you because I know what you are ...
- To everyone here, It's interesting how people take things very personally. From what I've read, it looks as if the grandparents are behaving differently according to...
Bickering Between Step Siblings
Asked by D.B. from Dayton
on September 17, 2008
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I have an 8-year-old son who is ADHD. We have recently found the "right" medication to help him cope at school and extracurricular activities, but we are having a prob...
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- D., I would have a family meeting.Inform all the children you are tired of the bickering and yelling.They need to redirect thier angers to each other and learn to ge...
- When I was a kid, if we had a fight, whoever was in the fight was punished, because it takes 2 to fight. So unless he is hitting or hurting anything, I would just put...
- Recently I read an article in the newpaper about bickering and it basically said to make clear that fighting hurts the other person (their feelings). The best remedy ...
Seeking Advice About Mother Visits
Asked by S.K. from Fayetteville
on December 20, 2006
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I need advice as to handle visits from my mother. Our relationship has always been poor and I am angered by how she treats my children when she comes to visit. She f...
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- i am certainly no expert, but first you need buyin support from your hubby. like it or not, he is already part of this. he needs to support you because when he married...
- I know exactly what you are going through. My grandmother did pretty much the same thing with my children. I started denying her visits with them, changed my phone num...
- S., I agree with the other ladies' comments. Tell your Mom what you expect from her and if she can't come thru, to hell with her! YOU are the advocate for your chil...
