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Friend Challenges
Asked by C.L. from Detroit
on February 21, 2009
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I have a friend that during her pregnancy makes snide comments and is otherwise very unsupportive of me. I usually am one to just ignore or not remember comments, but ...
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- Dear C., I just went through a very painful split with my best friend of 31 years. I had a lot of the same feelings you are having now prior to this happening. I fe...
- Hi C., I feel for you, especially because she is pregnant. Of course you dont want to upset her but you dont need to be sad either. If you think she is not acting h...
- If it feels too one-sided, back off. Your son will survive and make other friends. No one's joined at the hip, so give it a breather and then see what she has to say...
Friend, Not So Friendly
Asked by L. from Providence
on February 26, 2008
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My dilemma is that I am a mother of two who has recently returned to school full time (evenings). My best friend has one child and does short term jobs from time to t...
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- Hi L., Even though I could not possibly know all the details of your friendship from both your perspectives, judging from what you said it just sounds very off. My bes...
- If she's your best friend, you should be able to be honest with her. Give her a call and let her know that you noticed she stopped calling after you had to decline he...
- This is your best friend...you should be able to talk about this. Call her up and ask her if you have done something to upset her. Sounds like there was something el...
How to Be Polite....
Asked by S.L. from Phoenix
on April 14, 2008
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Yesterday I was in the store and I was put into a situation again that I think is just beyond rude. I was at the front of my cart unloading onto the belt and a strang...
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- Julia - I can't blame you for being on your guard after what happened to you. I would be more cautious too, especially when you have your little ones with you. This ...
- I totally understand what you are saying. I really don't think there is a way to say "don't touch my baby" without being rude. I have a 3 year old and a 8 month old. A...
- I actually had someone kiss my daughter on the cheek and I about lost it! While waiting in lines, I started turning my cart around so my children were near the baggin...
Son "Fighting" at Daycare
Asked by J.S. from Cincinnati
on November 3, 2008
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My son is almost 2 1/2 years old, and he has been going to daycare since he was 6 weeks old. He changed daycares about 11 months ago and has been doing fine there and...
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- Sounds like fairly normal responsive behavior to me, but you definitely want to make sure that at daycare and at home the consequences are consistent. To begin with...
- J., I am a day care teacher with 3 and 4 yo's. I tell all my kids to "use their words" instead of their hands. In other words, if someone takes a toy from you, sa...
- lots of good suggestions here already... just another thought: give him some ideas of what he SHOULD do. telling him "don't do this, don't do that" doesn't help him...
Need Feedback on Therabrushing
Asked by P.A. from Los Angeles
on May 18, 2009
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My daughter has been diagnosed by an occupational therapist (OC) as "tactily defensive". She also seems to have a mild vestibular and proprioceptive processing disord...
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- Yes, we did it a few years ago with our now six year old son. It is very calming and good for them. Do it as they say and you will see. Good luck. Have you tried putti...
- Hi P., I am also an OT and agree with what everyone has said. It can be very effective if done properly. Make sure that you know how to do it - have your OT train ...
- Hi P., I am an OT. Wilbarger's brushing is extremeley effective, provided that it's done properly and that the diagnosis os correct. What tools did the OT use do diag...
Seeking Some Input/advice
Asked by A.R. from Boise
on February 13, 2008
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Hi there, I am in need of some advice for a issue that is beginning to make me crazy. I have a 10 year old daughter who I cannot get to take on any personal hygiene ef...
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- I believe to some degree, kids go through this, my son has hygiene issues I'm working on. He'll be in the shower for 15-20 min, but not use soap or shampoo. I told him...
- A., My daughters went through this stage too. It drove me nuts and all I could do was stress that if she wants to keep her friends she needs to wash and keep herself...
- Hi A., What things does she look forward to doing? Take them away one by one until she does as you ask. Then teach her to do her own laundry. Run a bath for her and...
Son Sensitive to Bullying
Asked by B.C. from Oklahoma City
on August 17, 2006
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I have a 6-year-old son who has Asperger's Syndrome and he will be beginning 1st grade next week. He is hypersensitive to being bullied by other boys and so, since he'...
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- I can not begin to explain how relieved I am to see that there are other mothers in this group with kids in the spectrum. My son, 10 years old, was diagnosed with PDD...
- I'm sure this is such a hard thing to go thru. My nephew suffers from severe siezures and it left him mute and also developmently behind. He had very hard time with fi...
- Kids can be so cruel can't they? I wish I had some good advice, but I'll pray for your son. I have a child from my daycare that just moved on to Kindergartin last ...
Thoughts on Teens Dating
Asked by L.H. from St. Louis
on July 13, 2009
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Morning to all my mammas out there. Hope everyone is doing ok this Monday morning. I have written b4 as well as given my hopful useful advice/suggestions. I have an...
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- I agree with Shannon B. If you are too strict--you will wind up with a wild-child jumping out the window in the middle of the night to see this boyfriend. Encouragin...
- I think that at her age the boyfriend/girlfriend thing has a different meaning than what an adult places on it - try not to over analyze it. At out house the rule is g...
- Encourage her to do Group dates and activities... she can still have fun without a ton of pressure to do things that should wait until later. My parents encouraged my...
Misbehaving Stepson
Asked by M.M. from Dallas
on February 17, 2009
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My stepson, who is about to be 12, can't seem to make it through a week without getting in trouble at school at least twice. His teachers have started calling home wi...
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- I would have the teachers/school counselors... talk to the father instead of you, so that he can see the impact his behaviour it is having on his child. Obviously, ...
- I would sit the whole family down and together come up with house hold rules (which would include school behaviors) and consequences for rule breaking. I would tell m...
- Dr. Phil just had a show on blended families. http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/20 Good Luck.
How to Approach My Sibling Regarding Her Dicipline Techniques? Help
Asked by S.G. from Houston
on July 9, 2009
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I have my sisters children staying with me and they have been with me for the last 4 weeks. Both kids are early teens. I knew that there were problems in the family ...
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- Until you walk in her shoes... Listening to her kids, praying for your sister, doing something nice for your sister when everyone else is treating her like trash, ins...
- There are so many things to think about that I'm not sure you'll get the "right" answer as opposed to just helpful information in deciding what to do. Especially sinc...
- Well I have been thinking on your post today and pondering what I think the best approach is. Forgive me if this is a repeat, I didn't read your other responses. Wel...
