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Grandmothers and Discipline in Our Home
I can't personally speak to the usefulness of unconditional parenting as my DD is 19 mos but you may want to read Alfie Kohn's books. A lot of it resonated ...
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- I have to say I agree with J M,you are soooooo lucky to have your mom in your life(and your childrens)I would give ANYTHING to have my mom back!!(she passed from lung ...
- I think there is a difference between Grandma "spoiling" your daughter on her own, and contradicting you in front of her. I think the lack of reaction when your daugh...
- Hi T., You probably won't like my answer, but here goes: I read some of the responses below, and I'm sorry but I have WAY too much love and respect for my moth...
5 Year Old Twin Throwing Tantrums and Trying to Be in Control
"Unconditional Parenting" by Alfie Kohn and "Smart Love" by Martha Heineman Pieper and William Pieper and if you live near Oak Park, there is this great ...
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- We had something similar...we used a positive reward chart...stickers...when the chart was completed she earned this cheap princess thing I got at Walmart. For your o...
- Hi M., I would recommend checking out Tuesday's Child. www.tuesdayschildchicago.org I saw that you work full-time, but they have a Saturday program (9:30-12), you...
- Try having a picture list with the order that things go in the morning. When they wake up set the timer, when it goes off they start their list. if they stop they go...
Three Year Bad Attitude Problems
Try looking at what message your child is trying to send you! I found the writings by Alfie Kohn very helpful with this. His website is alfiekohn.org. ...
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- M., contrary to what society urges parents to believe, I do not think that 'temper tantrums' are wrong or bad. We are taught that as parents we should lead our childr...
- Couple of thoughts...Putting him in his room is a good one. He is doing it for attention and if you arent around to see it then he has no reason to throw a fit. Our so...
- Hi M., My son will be 3 on Sunday, and we have dealt with this same problem on and off for about 6 months or so. He bites himself and pulls his hair, etc. After try...
12 Year Old Behavior Problems
Alfie Kohn: UNCONDITIONAL PARENTING http://www.alfiekohn.org/up/index.html. You have to help BUILD THIS BOY UP! Lawrence Cohen wrote PLAYFUL PARENTING ...
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- I am sure there are many issues behind the emotion and behavior occurring here. It is important to find more treatment than meds- including educational support (with ...
- Let me say that I can identify with what you are going through. I too am a stepmom in a very similar situation to yours (had to raise the child because mom was unable...
- First of all Sonya H is right, about the food. Second of all if you don't discipline you can expect behavior problems - "talking to" is not discipline, boundaries and...
Strong Minded Child
Please read the book Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn you can check it out from the library. It will change your life and your daughter will thank you. ...
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- Hi S., I think many parents under-estimate their toddlers. She is definately old enough for time out. You will probably have to use a place like a pack and play for n...
- Hi S.- I have a daughter that is very similar. She is two and does not throw tantrums, but decides what she will and will not do. If it is not her choice, she WIL...
- I really think 15 months is too young to be purposely disrespectful. She is not sure how to communicate at this stage. Like you said, she's not trying to hit you. Sh...
Very Intellegent Son Lying
Sep 8, 2009 ... There are several books that may be of help: Unconditional parenting by alfie kohn, smart love by martha heineman pieper and william pieper, ...
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- I don't know that I have the answers, but I have been right where you are... When my very bright kindergartener started telling stories, we were called into the princ...
- Check out Piaget's moral stages. He theorized that kids your son's age base their morals on consequences (black and white) rather than intentions (gray). This may be w...
- Don't know if this will help, but I jst heard the story on NPR a few days ago. Very insightful http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=112292248
My 9 Year Old Keeps Breaking the Rules ~ Help!
another great book on the subject is "unconditional parenting" by alfie kohn. there is also a 2 hour dvd with the same title. check out www.alfiekohn.org. ...
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- The one thing I can think to suggest is not telling her what the punishment will be beforehand. I would also make them for progressively longer, and would suggest any...
- I wouldn't let her play with her friend upstairs if she keeps coming home late. Take that privilege away for a few days.
- Here is another punishment to try and it may just work because she wants to spend time there. For every minute she is late she loses 10 minutes or 20 minutes whatever ...
Strong Willed? Normal? Age?? PLEASE HELP!
Alfie Kohn wrote a great piece about classroom management that I more often than not have been applying to home life: ...
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- I agree with all that was said about consistancy. I'd also add that at this age kids have trouble transitioning from one thing to the next. They are learning to shut e...
- Normal for her age. To keep my sanity, (2.5 year old girl, very determined and stubborn by birth/nature) I shifted how I perceive my role in her life. Instead of...
- I'm reading 'Taming the Spirited Child' by Michael Popkin. It makes sense and the tactics seem to be helping. My son is the same way, he does not listen to me at all...
Trouble with Blended Family
The book Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn and Smart Love by Martha Heineman Pieper and William Pieper would be good reading. The very best of luck. ...
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- S., I have not been in your situation -- but I am a single mom and have found dating to be difficult at times. I personally do not think you should move out. I know...
- Teenagers, aren't they lovely. I've been thru the teenage hell years with my kids and it's time for you to stand up to this bully. It sounds as though Dad either isn't...
- Your husband has to be the one t set the ground rules with your step son. I have a great step son thats 15 and a daughter thats 16 months. Im not sure how your step ...
Is There Such a Thing as Discipline for an 18 Month Old?
Sep 29, 2009 ... A couple of other valuable resources are Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn and Between Parent and Child by Dr. Haim Ginott. Good luck! ...
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- Hi R., You know, my son is doing something similar, though not as many instances as you seem to be dealing with. Certainly, there is the game aspect going on here. ...
- Paula N is 100% right. At this age, your daughter is too young to control her impulses. She may know on some level that getting into the dog's dishes is wrong, but she...
- time to put your foot down, if she doesn't understand time out well she should start now. when she behaves like that take her to her room and tell her she has to sit t...
