Wedding: Adult Child
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Paying for Wedding Expenses
Asked by L.L. from Houston
on January 4, 2012
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My 36 year old son is marrying for the 3rd time. He is a single father and for the past 3 years he and his 2 children have lived with my husband and me. One of his chi...
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- The reason parents traditionally pay for weddings is because people used to get married right after high school, before they were financially independent. All par...
- WELCOME TO MAMAPEDIA!!! Seriously? In the past - the Groom's parents were responsible for the rehearsal dinner. You've already paid for two of them and he's expe...
- I think that after the FIRST the second and third are up to the person. I am holding off my own wedding because we can not affoard to marry this year and the only kno...
Paying for the Wedding Costs of an Adult Child
Asked by M.V. from Washington DC
on August 21, 2010
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What costs are expected of you if the child has lived with his fiance for 5 years? Especially when you have expenses you constantly have to borrow from family members ...
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- The parents should sit down with their child and discuss what types of things the child would like for the ceremony, etc. Then they should be honest with what they ca...
- From your post I assume her child is male. Traditionally the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner. But if he is an older adult and has been living with his fian...
- Zero, zip, nada, nil! They've played house for 5 years now they can pony up the money for their own wedding!
Question About a Wedding of an Adult Child....
Asked by T.T. from Indianapolis
on January 25, 2012
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I saw another question similar to this one, but I really need any advice I can get...
My stepson, who lives at our house, or a least sleeps here when he isn't with hi...
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- Adults who get married should pay for their own wedding. Just my opinion - DH and I got married when I was 41 and he was 46 -we did not ask anyone for money - it would...
- I think it's ridiculous that a 28 year old would expect his parents to pay for a rehearsal dinner. Especially with the circumstances you're describing here. NOW, I...
- First I have to say that most people are adults when they get married. So a parent paying for an adult child to get married doesn't seem unreasonable to me. My brothe...
Invitation to Bff's Daughter's Wedding
Asked by L.M. from New York
on June 26, 2008
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My best friend, BF (for the last 17 years) has a 19 year old daugher, D. D has been like a niece to me and my husband. We were close before she hit her teen years.
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- Wow. Okay, I think you go in order to support your BF through which I am sure will be a difficult day for her. You can make an excuse for why your husband cannot atten...
- Hi L., Sounds like you are a bit torn - you certainly write out the details so things are pretty clear. Beyond that, I don't know your situation, but I hear some ...
- In the end it's your best friend and you "niece". And you not going to that wedding could def end your friendship. It's not really your place to support or not support...
Question About a Wedding of an Adult Child....
Asked by T.T. from Indianapolis
on January 25, 2012
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I saw another question similar to this one, but I really need any advice I can get...
My stepson, who lives at our house, or a least sleeps here when he isn't with hi...
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- For lack of a better way of putting it: You are letting him live with you for nothing, you feed him, pay for his showers, pay for his electricity.... everything (from...
- Tradition goes out the window when I barely have enough money to get by. I feel it is incredibly disrespecful to ask your parents for money when you know they don't ha...
- I would give him $200 same as your daughter. When my son got married it was durung my husband's medical treatment for a rare blood disorder. They (groom and bride)...
17 And 18 Year Old Children
Asked by L.F. from Sioux Falls
on June 2, 2011
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I am so frustrated! Last week my son graduated from high school. I told him three house rules need to be followed. Rule 1 - call or text us if he is not coming home at...
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- I would say sell them to a band of gypsies but I don't think they have any real value at that age. I am lucky, mine do pay their bills, cleaning not so much. Well ...
- I completely agree with Krista P. What does your husband say about all this?
- They are actually completely in control... of you and your household. The 17 yr old can go live with his mother. The 18 yr old has 2 weeks to find a place to live....
18 Year Old Son Advise to Make Right Choices
Asked by J.M. from Flagstaff
on November 24, 2009
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My son just turned 18 and though he is the oldest, once upon a time he was the only sibling now he has a brother and sister. He has always been spoiled. and though ...
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- I think that you keep your home open for him to come home, IF he follows the rules and goes to school and tries to do well there. Don't shut him out just yet. But, a...
- Stop paying for his cell phone, car insurance and gas. Tell him if he wants to live in your home he lives by your rules, regardless of his age. Tell him to get a job...
- Dear JLM, As parents, we frequently try to prevent our kids from making mistakes because we love them so much. We forget that the road to wisdom is paved with mist...
18 Year Old Daughter
Asked by A.M. from Minneapolis
on August 12, 2010
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My daughter just turned 18 (4 days ago) and she wants to move out of state (19 hours away) to live with her 20 year old online boyfriend, who doesn't have a job and th...
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- I added some extra info after I sent this to you Please reread. Do everything in your power to stop her. Take her to the police dept. and have them educate he...
- It's a MAJOR RED FLAG that 'someone' will pay for her to go there, but not the reverse. Sounds way too much like a scam/trap to me. Sorry to be alarmist, but that is...
- Yes, it is her decision, you can't legally stop her. The best that you can do is suggest other alternatives for now (such as having him visit or visiting him for a sh...
What Do You Think Am I Being an Overprotected Mom?
Asked by F.C. from Chicago
on March 4, 2009
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Hello everyone, I have a dilema. My daughter (20 yrs old) a full time college student went out and came home with a tattoo, after she was told not to. My husband is ...
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- She is an adult & has the right to get a tattoo. I don't think she should pay rent if she is in college full time. Tell your husband to get a grip & let it go. It's no...
- In addition to the other advice, you should write down what you and husband agree upon so that there is no question what your next steps will be. Agree with the poster...
- If your daughter is a good kid, then I would tell him to back off! Sure you might not approve but she is almost 21 yrs old. My niece is 20 yrs old and came home at...
Enforcing Rent with Older Children
Asked by H.D. from Boston
on April 2, 2008
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Hello,
I am wondering if anyone has experienced this.
At the advice of several people, we plan to collect rent from our 18 year old daughter after she graduates hi...
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- Yes you can evict her. I know this sounds harsh but she is 18 and she needs to start taking responsibility for herself. I had panic attacks when I was younger and did...
- Wow, I know what you are going through. With my boys I feel like I remind them alot but it does get paid. We do end up with it at the end of the month. As for n...
- After my 18 yo son stopped going to community college (partway through a semester!!), we collected rent. The deal was, if he was in school full time (12 credits or mo...
