Time-outs & Grounding: Tween
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14 Year Old Thinks Rules Too Strict - NO MORE RESPONSES PLEASE. THANKS for ALL!
Asked by K.L. from Memphis
on December 8, 2008
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My 14 year old daughter seems to think a few of my rules are too strict. So, she asked me if I’d get the opinion of other mothers – particularly those I don’t k...
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- Hi K., I have 3 children(9,5 and 2) so I'm not dealing with this yet but I think your rules are reasonable. I do feel you can compromise some on the 2 per month ...
- I think the rules you have in place are very generous. My 14 yr old does not have such freedoms. Everything she does is monitored,from her online activites to her phon...
- I am a mother of 5 and I really think that your rules are "very" GOOD. She is lucky to have a curfew of 10p.m. When my kids were at the age of 13 to 16, their curfew w...
Help! My Babysitter Got Grounded!
Asked by S.C. from Fort Wayne
on October 1, 2009
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My husband's birthday is next weekend. I had planned on taking him out to a local bar and meeting up with lots of family and friends. I lined up a sitter (my little co...
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- check out care.com its a great place to build a sitter list for emergencies!
- If you are just looking for an opinion, I don't think grouding should take away babysitting. It isn't as if she is going to have a party at your house, she will be wo...
- The ability to work and earn money is a privledge and something that most teens look forward to. If her behavior requires punishment her mother is well within her rig...
Supervising Instant Messaging of 12 Year Old Girl
Asked by A.H. from Washington DC
on February 18, 2008
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My 12 year old daughter has been on IM for for a few months. Before this, she was on email, which I told her I was supervising (reading periodically). There were sever...
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- Hi A., what a yucky situation to be in! Our media is sexualizing kids younger and younger these days. It doesn't seem like suspending priveledges is going to lead to...
- Hello, A.. My heart went out to you when you explained what you've been going through with your twelve year old daughter. It can be quite disturbing to find out ...
- Hey A., I am experiencing something similar, not quite that bad, with my stepdaughters. They LIVE on the internet, myspace, IM, etc. I am a friend on their myspac...
What Chores Do You Expect from Your 10 Year Old and What Discipline Do You Use
Asked by G.G. from San Antonio
on May 14, 2008
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My 10 year old daughter is uncooperative when asked to assist around the house. There is a power struggle and attitude when asked to perform even simple tasks. Then e...
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- G., I have felt your pain. :) My husband came up with a really neat idea, and so far has worked wonders. (We've had the plan in action about 4-5 months now) First o...
- My 10 yr old sets and clears the table every night (pending homework status). She is also responsible for cleaning up any messes she makes. Also, she can dust the fu...
- I have a 16, 14 & 11 year old. I have one discipline method that really REALLY works with them. If I asked them to do something in the past, I dealt with the same re...
12 Year Old
Asked by M.V. from Dallas
on May 9, 2010
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Hello everyone.......I need some advice...I am a single mom ....of a 12 year old son who I have been having problems with. He is a wonderful, loving kid, but for the...
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- Middle school is such a tough time of life. Be firm yet understanding with him. A really good resource is a book called Surviving Middle School. It is written for k...
- I think you have been given some great advice. I would just add a few things, assuming he has no learning or reading problems, but just hates to read. My son also hate...
- Two great book I'd like to suggest is Love and Logic for teens and Bright Minds Poor Grades. Both books concentrate on having the child "own" their problems and encou...
12 Year Old Behavior Problems
Asked by M.B. from Los Angeles
on August 2, 2009
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I am having problems with my 12 year old step son. Last school year he got 3 Fs, 2 Ds and a C. He always lied about having homework. At home, he wont do his chores....
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- I am sure there are many issues behind the emotion and behavior occurring here. It is important to find more treatment than meds- including educational support (with ...
- Let me say that I can identify with what you are going through. I too am a stepmom in a very similar situation to yours (had to raise the child because mom was unable...
- First of all Sonya H is right, about the food. Second of all if you don't discipline you can expect behavior problems - "talking to" is not discipline, boundaries and...
Need Help with 11 Year Old Son Behavior Problems
Asked by K.S. from Springfield
on October 26, 2009
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I really need help with my almost 11 year old. He is EXTREMELY argumentative and an extreme "jerk" for no better word. He is "always right" and if he's corrected - h...
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- You have received great advice. It's tough on the other kids as well but they could be contributing too. We have the same issue with my 9 year old. It's a need for ...
- I agree with Barefoot G. There is a book which is about this technique, but I cannot remember what it is. A very good friend used it and got very quick and permanent...
- I'm not going to pretend I have all the answers given that I only have an 18 mos old son, but I have been reading the book "Boundaries with Kids" by Cloud and Townsend...
10 Year Old Defiant Son
Asked by J.F. from Minneapolis
on January 10, 2008
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I am so desperate for any advice from other parents of 10 year old boys. My son is not at all respectful of my discipling him, he doesn't care what I threaten him with...
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- maybe he just wants more attention from you- sounds a lot like my 8 year old son- the other thing a lot of us moms just threaten and we don't follow thru so that's a l...
- Sounds like you are dealing with ODD-Oppossitional Defiant Disorder and possibly ADHD-Attetion Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. I strongly suggest you get your son help...
- I am a 52y/o mom of 8 from ages 16-31, 4 of them adopted from Russia. 5 girls 3 boys. The first thing I see is that you are threatening him. Get parenting with love...
Grounding My Middle Schooler
Asked by L.H. from Cedar Rapids
on March 9, 2008
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Hi Ladies
I need a little advice from any moms who have a little insight on 12 year old Boys.
My son recently lied to me about his where abouts and who he was with. ...
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- Hello L., I agree with your punishment. Stick to it. I also think that you all need to sit him down and talk with him (not at him) to get to the bottom of the ...
- I have a 12 year old girl who did basically the same thing. She asked to go to a friend's house after school and then went to her friends and then to a boys house near...
- Grounded from the phone and computer AND from leaving the house for two weeks -- I'd call that a stiff penalty -- but whatever punishment you choose, you have to enfor...
Are We the Only Parents Saying No Cell Phone for Our 11 Year Old?
Asked by A.D. from Minneapolis
on October 19, 2010
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My 11 year old wants a cell phone for Christmas. DH and I are not in favor. We do not believe her to be responsible enough to have one, nor do we feel she has the need...
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- No, you are not the only parents saying "no" to a cell phone. We told our kids 13 was the age they needed to be to have one and that they are responsible for paying t...
- We didn't allow our son to have a cell phone until 7th grade which he entered this past Fall. He pestered us for 3 years before he finally got it. The only reason we...
- Ok, my son will be 10 in a couple of weeks- he asked me for an Iphone- or any phone he said would do. Doesn't hurt for asking- but I remember many things I asked for a...
