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18 Year Old Daughter
Asked by A.M. from Columbus
on August 29, 2010
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Hi,
My 18 year old daughter is sleeping overnight with a boyfriend. I have told her that this is not acceptable to me and that it is definetly not ladylike. She to...
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- First of all using terms like "tramp" is NOT appropriate for any mother to use. While your daughter's behavior at this age is not acceptable you need to realize at thi...
- Okay A., After reading the responses you got I have to say this.....especially to the Mom's that seem to think an 18 year old having sex is a major offense. How many ...
- The day that any of my kids, who are living under my roof, thinks its ok to stay the night at a boyfriends/girlfriends home will have their bags packed waiting for the...
Adult Child Issues
Asked by J.P. from Chicago
on April 18, 2011
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Hi Moms,
When does an adult child, mine for instance he is 20 become responsible for their own choices?? My son who is 20 years old almost 21 lives with his dad ...
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- How about tell him he can live there when he gets a FT job and/or enrolls in school? Seriously, I'm all about second chances and there may be a little of him seekin...
- If it were me, I would tell my son what day the move would be on and he would have to come up with his own arrangements by then. He is an adult, this is HIS problem. N...
- if you take him in lay ground rules, he has to have a job by this date, he has to pay X amount of rent by this date, he has to follow these house rules and have him si...
Need Help with Troubled Adult Child
Asked by D.C. from Boise
on October 29, 2008
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Well Ladies, I have never done this so please be patiant. I have a Foster son, whom I helped raise from the time he was six. I didnt get full care of him until he was ...
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- It might not help but what if it would? Sometimes even as adults we need to know that mom loves us and cares. It might be a wake up call for him if you did track him...
- I'm sorry that has to be such a difficult spot to be in! I honestly think that there is nothing you can do for him, at least not until he wants the help, the best y...
- D., First of all, God bless you and your husbands efforts to love a child as your own flesh and blood. That is a special calling. Second, I have no experience as ...
18 Year Old Not Listening to Me....
Asked by W.K. from New York
on August 27, 2011
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Im so frustrated and angry right now. My sons 18 & 17 decided to spend the week with their father, they were supposed to come home on Sunday, well we are supposed to g...
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- I don't know for sure what area he's in but isn't he really safer there?
- First off...take a deep breath. Okay...17 and 18 year olds don't listen to their mothers anyway. You are worried and that's normal for a momma, but you are overreac...
- I sooo feel your pain. This afternoon my bro called to tell me HIS 19 yo was stranded in NYC with her BF. I'm like, are you for real? What am I supposed to do about it...
18 Year Old Daughter Wants to Move in with Boyfriend
Asked by T.E. from Los Angeles
on September 30, 2008
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Help, my daughter who just turned 18, working and going to college wants to move in with her boyfriend. The boyfriend lives with mom at the grandparents house.
I tell...
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- Wow, that is a tough one. On one hand she is an adult and she can make her own decisions so if you try to stop her she may jsut resent you. On the other hand she is s...
- I know how you feel and my suggestion would be to love your daughter and allow her to learn the hard way. She is 18 and in the eyes of the law she is a young adult. I ...
- T., I lived with my college boyfriend and it was awful! We were a great couple before it, and had EVERYTHING going for us. Neither of us, had a lot of money and it ...
Oldest Adult Child Syndrome
Asked by P.O. from Harrisburg
on September 4, 2010
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How many of you moms being the oldest child in your family feel targeted at times for being independent, standing up for what you believe and always being misunderstoo...
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- I'm the eldest of 4 and didn't feel like that. We are all different and, each in our own ways, independent and standing up for what we believe. As a kid, my second o...
- I am the oldest of five. (one passed) You hit the nail on the head :) A lot is expected of the oldest. When it gets to be too much, i let my sisters/parents know.
- Not sure if you have read it already, but you must read, "The Birth Order Book". This book is really good and gives you insight into birth order and how it affects a o...
Adult Son's Friend Too Old for Him?
Asked by K.G. from Dallas
on May 23, 2010
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My 22 yo son recently lost his job and moved in with us. My husband and I have recently moved to this area of the city (6 months now). Our neighbor next door who is ...
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- I would be suspicious about the neighbor's motives. That's all I am going to say.
- I don't really have time to read the other response BUT I will give you my opinions. 1. All you can do is advise your opinions to your son as like you stated he is ...
- Why in the world would this neighbor be asking about you and your husbands life if he is just trying to be friends with your son? IDK the situation, but that part soun...
How Can I Indirectly Get My Adult Son and His Loser Girlfriend to Break Up?
Asked by J.R. from Phoenix
on February 2, 2010
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My son has been seeing a woman who is lazy, sloppy, doesn't work, and rarely bathes. She is a parasite that just uses him for the money he spends on her. She has attac...
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- I agree with Melinda. We cannot say anything to our sons/daughters, etc. because it is their lives and they must learn from it. Hopefully before they get married. I ha...
- If you are willing to go to any extreme, however unethical, consider judging yourself before you cast judgment on another person. Examining your own choices may be t...
- Well speaking from experience in being the person in your son's shoes.... Nothing you could say or do could break the two up. This unfortunately is something he has...
18 Year Old Son Won't Meet My Boyfriend
Asked by C.P. from Seattle
on October 30, 2010
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I've been divorced for over a year and separated for 3 years. Due to a difficult situation I ending leaving my 2 boys (15 and 21 at the time) in the house with their D...
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- Don't expect him to like your boyfriend. He is still angry about the divorce. His world was screwed up. He doesn't like the fact that his mom has a boyfriend. Go ahead...
- It must be hard for him. He is still hurting from the divorce and can't fathom seeing you with another man and not with his father. Your best is to ask him about his f...
- I wouldn't push him, keep talking to him and spending time with him and let him decide when or if he wants to meet your bf.
Mother ~ Adult Daughter
Asked by B.B. from Las Vegas
on March 4, 2010
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My 21 year old daughter has not spoken to me for almost three years. She has me blocked from her in every way possible. She is my only child, my heart and soul, thi...
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- I think trying to reunite with her and heal the wounds is admirable, but I don't think doing it at her graduation is a good idea unless she expressly invites you. I t...
- The only answer I can give you to see your daughter at graduation is to call her lawyer, and have him contact her. Tell him that you want to see her on graduation day...
- I would just send her a note and let her know that you would like to see her and that you are thinking of her always. Tell her you would love the opportunity to reconn...
